It Be Your Own Damn Peace

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[00:00:30] a rapper doing some ****.

[00:00:32] You want to wear an RIP shirt to somebody that ain't dead yet.

[00:00:36] I'm like, oh my goodness.

[00:00:37] OK, I thought that's what you said.

[00:00:39] I was like, that is what I said.

[00:00:40] You didn't say Rest In Peace t-shirt to a **** ain't dead.

[00:00:43] Like, wait a minute.

[00:00:44] Yeah, like I'm going to kill you.

[00:00:45] Like that type of shit.

[00:00:46] I'm just like.

[00:00:49] So yeah.

[00:00:51] Her experience.

[00:00:54] Everybody, welcome back to another episode of the According to West podcast.

[00:00:58] As always, we got D-Law.

[00:01:00] You got you got to say it right.

[00:01:02] You got D-Law to double son-in-law.

[00:01:05] But you was trying to change it into something else.

[00:01:09] I don't know. I haven't found anything that's creative yet.

[00:01:11] I thought you said that you said you was going to start saying.

[00:01:16] Oh, no, I forgot.

[00:01:18] Oh, geez.

[00:01:19] And I didn't write it down. That's why.

[00:01:22] As always, you got me, Wes.

[00:01:25] And forget for us, D-Law.

[00:01:27] I could have sworn he said, call him.

[00:01:31] Let me see.

[00:01:33] I don't know if I made that up.

[00:01:34] Sometimes I do shit like that, where I be so convicted and what I'm saying.

[00:01:37] I'll be like, oh, I never said that or that never happened.

[00:01:41] But I might be making it up because as I'm going back to our

[00:01:53] he, I don't know, I might have made that up.

[00:02:01] You know, question for you.

[00:02:03] All right.

[00:02:04] Does ketchup.

[00:02:06] Go on chicken.

[00:02:10] It is on a sandwich.

[00:02:13] What type of sandwich, though?

[00:02:15] Not a grilled chicken sandwich, I would say.

[00:02:18] A grilled chicken sandwich.

[00:02:19] It could be. Oh, my God.

[00:02:20] At McDonald's,

[00:02:23] at McDonald's, we did not put ketchup on any of the chicken sandwiches.

[00:02:28] I would say that we did.

[00:02:30] But people did request ketchup on a chicken sandwich.

[00:02:36] All right, so this might be an unpopular take.

[00:02:38] Yeah, my wife was debating about this shit yesterday.

[00:02:41] I said chicken, I said ketchup is not going to change.

[00:02:46] The only time that it does chicken fingers because it's breaded

[00:02:50] and go on shit like grilled chicken or even fried chicken from home.

[00:02:55] Yeah, I wouldn't see it from Brad's.

[00:02:56] Well, chicken fingers and fried chicken are the same thing.

[00:03:00] But chicken fingers aren't seasoned.

[00:03:03] Fried chicken is seasoned.

[00:03:07] OK, and I explained that when you're going with this.

[00:03:10] Yes, I explained that and she was like, no, why don't you don't put it?

[00:03:13] I'm like, yo, ketchup is just so I like there's a reason for honey mustard

[00:03:17] and all the mother sauces and ranch and shit like ketchup is for

[00:03:22] the dipping things.

[00:03:23] You know what I mean?

[00:03:24] Like, yeah, you put it on your sandwiches, but mainly for your dipping things.

[00:03:28] And

[00:03:30] so we went through this old debate about it and I'm like,

[00:03:34] and she was like, well, sometimes I even and this is my wife

[00:03:37] and it shocked me to the core.

[00:03:39] She said sometimes I just, you know, I'll take the skin off

[00:03:41] and it just be the chicken.

[00:03:44] With no seasoning and the ketchup, I'm like, what are you doing?

[00:03:48] First of all, why do you season chicken with that?

[00:03:51] No, no, no, no, no. She would take it all.

[00:03:54] Or she would put ketchup on top of the season,

[00:03:56] and that's the shit that bothers me.

[00:03:58] Because I'm like, yo, the seasoning is the seasoning for a reason.

[00:04:03] And you won't put it.

[00:04:03] You can put ketchup on it.

[00:04:07] So I went on the Internet and people was like,

[00:04:11] you know, like the reddit and stuff like that.

[00:04:13] And one of the things was like

[00:04:15] why people have put ketchup,

[00:04:17] why people have put ketchup on chicken need to go to him.

[00:04:23] Like, I was just like, oh, my.

[00:04:25] She was like, what?

[00:04:26] She's like, am I weird?

[00:04:27] My wife was like, am I weird?

[00:04:29] I was like, listen, you see my response if you put I'm like,

[00:04:32] you're not a child no more.

[00:04:33] Like you'll put ketchup on everything. Right.

[00:04:36] But, you know, it goes on like chicken nuggets and I was like, yes,

[00:04:40] those aren't seasoned because I made some chicken in the air for her.

[00:04:45] And she was like, damn, this is what she said.

[00:04:47] She was like, damn, I would have put ketchup on it.

[00:04:49] But the juice from this were the juice from the baked beans will go together.

[00:04:52] And I'm like, ketchup. That's how it all started.

[00:04:54] I'm like, why would you put ketchup on some chicken that I seasoned?

[00:04:59] Seasoned and then I didn't.

[00:05:01] I seasoned that she knows.

[00:05:03] That's a me. Huh?

[00:05:05] Blasphemy is. Yeah.

[00:05:07] Oh, my. Come on.

[00:05:09] And she just couldn't understand it.

[00:05:10] She's like, why am I?

[00:05:11] I'm I asked my sisters.

[00:05:12] I was like, yeah, I grew up together.

[00:05:13] I won't say the same fucking thing.

[00:05:15] I was like chicken fingers.

[00:05:16] Fine. Chicken sandwich.

[00:05:18] Maybe because it's not the chicken sandwich.

[00:05:20] Ain't breaded because it's not a and there's more for that.

[00:05:23] She's in this party breaded or, you know, deep fried or some shit like that.

[00:05:26] I'm like, yeah, I get that.

[00:05:28] But yeah, I think the or a sandwich, I think is more for the

[00:05:33] not for the record.

[00:05:36] Because that's where the chicken, I think is more for the bread

[00:05:39] because it's so much stuff going on with.

[00:05:41] Yeah, and needs to be a little bit more moist

[00:05:44] and everything, because that chicken breast won't be dry.

[00:05:46] Like we are going through all that shit.

[00:05:48] And I'm just like and I was like, please tell me.

[00:05:51] You do not think steak goes on.

[00:05:54] I mean, ketchup goes on steak.

[00:05:55] She was like, no.

[00:05:57] She was like that.

[00:05:59] But here's the thing is why I kind of looked at it a little weird, too.

[00:06:02] She was like, not just steak sauce.

[00:06:04] I was like, listen, you really even supposed to have steak

[00:06:06] sauce on that motherfucker.

[00:06:08] No one should be drenching their shit in any type of steak sauce.

[00:06:11] A one that is for you to just kind of lightly clean this,

[00:06:15] you know, add to the palate of it.

[00:06:17] But I see motherfuckers just, you know,

[00:06:19] wouldn't stop by and dry.

[00:06:22] I'll be like, come on, man, please.

[00:06:25] The only thing that belongs on state is salt, pepper and butter.

[00:06:28] That is it.

[00:06:30] That is fucking it.

[00:06:34] I put my little razzle

[00:06:37] dazzle and give it a little bit of vinegar and all that on there.

[00:06:42] Yeah, I mean, you don't want to get to the point.

[00:06:44] It's a professional.

[00:06:45] Yes. The point of having a steak is because it is a steak.

[00:06:49] You ain't supposed to be doing too much to it.

[00:06:51] I mean, you know, you say you got to do a lot of steaks.

[00:06:55] Now I won't say you got to do a lot.

[00:06:57] Well, I will say I've had some very

[00:07:01] underwhelming steaks.

[00:07:05] Yeah, like somewhere though, I'm like, OK, you grilled it good.

[00:07:08] All right, cool. But they did.

[00:07:11] They just don't hit it.

[00:07:13] They don't hit, you know, because they cooked it and they didn't prepare it.

[00:07:17] So there's a crap to that shit, like depending on how you cook it

[00:07:20] and shit like that, like how the edges are like, I like my edges crispy.

[00:07:25] I like it medium well, you know what I mean?

[00:07:27] Like tender and shit like that is also the type of steak

[00:07:30] that you decide to get to.

[00:07:32] Yeah, I was in my paternity brother. He

[00:07:36] he made T bones like they did an event

[00:07:39] where they were like, they made some T bone shells.

[00:07:42] All right, cool. Sounds good.

[00:07:45] I don't know what he sees in the way he prices salt pepper.

[00:07:48] Let him sit there, whatever he did.

[00:07:53] He seared it, put any of it took it out.

[00:07:56] He was good. But that's what he do. That's a ship.

[00:08:00] That shit was so fucking good.

[00:08:01] He's like, oh, look, look at the law, not even

[00:08:04] not even worried about that.

[00:08:06] He took the biggest key, but I said, look, man,

[00:08:10] I drove out here from Prince George's County.

[00:08:17] And I was

[00:08:20] I was an interesting to be

[00:08:23] and not try to ask some of the other homies

[00:08:25] and they try to be politically correct.

[00:08:26] I'm like, yes, don't do this right now,

[00:08:28] because they know I was talking about my wife and shit.

[00:08:30] I was like, yo, would you put ketchup on?

[00:08:33] Because my wife is a ship put on baked chicken, too.

[00:08:35] And I'm like, you're crazy.

[00:08:36] The year I was like, now you're doing too much.

[00:08:38] And I'm like, when he got ketchup in his house,

[00:08:40] you're like, yeah, we do.

[00:08:41] I was like, that's how that's how much that's how

[00:08:45] I much I don't use ketchup.

[00:08:47] I know we had it in the house.

[00:08:52] I didn't even know we had it in the house.

[00:08:54] Oh, yeah.

[00:08:56] I was like, yo, I was like,

[00:08:57] I was like, you're not a little kid anymore.

[00:08:59] You can use other sauces for dipping.

[00:09:02] But to go on chicken.

[00:09:04] Like, come on now.

[00:09:07] My on this podcast, numbers of times, I'm like, yo,

[00:09:10] I put your fillet sauce on the chicken.

[00:09:12] Like I will fry the chicken, you know, whatever, whatever.

[00:09:14] Get the two particular lay sauce.

[00:09:16] Like literally do that.

[00:09:18] And she was like, well,

[00:09:20] if you don't put ketchup on chicken,

[00:09:22] that's just like saying, yo, I'm like barbecue on chicken.

[00:09:24] I was like, barbecue ain't 100% ketchup.

[00:09:28] It might have had some hints in it.

[00:09:29] And then sometimes the homemade barbecue

[00:09:31] ain't ketchup based at all.

[00:09:34] I'm like, come on now.

[00:09:37] And she was like, oh, why wouldn't you say

[00:09:38] put salt and ketchup?

[00:09:40] No, salt, pepper, ketchup on everything.

[00:09:43] Fries and chicken wings.

[00:09:45] I said, see, you fucked up there now

[00:09:47] because you know where we from.

[00:09:48] It is mumbo sauce.

[00:09:51] Salt, pepper, ketchup, or everything.

[00:09:53] And then she was like, what else can I do?

[00:09:54] That's what you put on your cheese thing.

[00:09:55] I was like, it's not.

[00:09:58] It's mumbo sauce.

[00:09:59] Salt, pepper, she says,

[00:10:01] she from Philly?

[00:10:02] No, I put salt, pepper, ketchup, something spicy.

[00:10:05] Now I'm fucking up.

[00:10:05] Salt, pepper, mumbo sauce on everything.

[00:10:07] Like when I'm back in the day,

[00:10:09] when I get my wings and fries.

[00:10:09] What did you bones do though?

[00:10:11] And that's what I told her.

[00:10:12] I was like, it's never.

[00:10:13] It's mumbo sauce.

[00:10:15] I was like, it's never ketchup.

[00:10:17] I was like, you scaring me right now.

[00:10:19] Where'd you find this woman at?

[00:10:23] Blaisbury.

[00:10:26] Blaisbury.

[00:10:28] I ain't find her.

[00:10:29] I'm from Blaisbury,

[00:10:31] Largo, Blaisbury, wherever she wanna say she from.

[00:10:33] Huh, what happened?

[00:10:35] I always call, I would say she from Largo,

[00:10:37] but she grew up in Blaisbury.

[00:10:39] Nah, listen, she grew up in that area, right?

[00:10:42] But she went to, yeah, she grew up in that area.

[00:10:51] That was.

[00:10:53] Did she go to Blade at least?

[00:10:55] So her first year she was going to Fairmont.

[00:11:00] Fairmont was hood as shit.

[00:11:02] So she asked to go to,

[00:11:04] she asked to go to Blade.

[00:11:06] But during that time Blade was at Bowie.

[00:11:09] It was over at the Annex.

[00:11:10] Yeah, so she had to go on to quote unquote Bowie Blade,

[00:11:14] which was a good experience for her.

[00:11:15] She got a good high school experience.

[00:11:18] I was like, you got a high school experience

[00:11:19] I ain't never get.

[00:11:20] I was, I had to deal with motherfuckers

[00:11:22] bringing guns to school

[00:11:24] and smacking people in the face with them

[00:11:26] and punching the principal in the face

[00:11:29] and what else happened?

[00:11:30] When she graduated, 07?

[00:11:33] Nah, she older than me.

[00:11:36] Where did she graduate?

[00:11:39] Four.

[00:11:41] Oh, she graduated a year after me.

[00:11:43] Maybe.

[00:11:45] Don't give me the lie.

[00:11:46] If it was 04, it was a year after me.

[00:11:48] That's one reason why I'm like,

[00:11:50] if she was at Blade,

[00:11:53] she was over there by the Anderson ship.

[00:11:55] Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[00:11:56] She definitely was there during that time.

[00:11:58] But yeah, man, I was like, yo, we ain't had the same,

[00:12:03] we talk about that shit all the time.

[00:12:04] Like I'm happy to have that experience

[00:12:06] because I ain't had that experience.

[00:12:08] I had stupid shit like people threatening each other

[00:12:12] and always with depth and then coming into the school

[00:12:15] with a rest in peace t-shirt of somebody

[00:12:17] that ain't even died yet.

[00:12:18] And I'm like, oh my God.

[00:12:19] This was like pre,

[00:12:20] the type of shit I used to see at this school

[00:12:22] was like pre rap beat to what we know today

[00:12:26] because you could see a rapper

[00:12:27] doing some shit like that.

[00:12:30] Wearing an RIP shirt to somebody that ain't dead yet.

[00:12:32] I'm like, oh my goodness.

[00:12:33] Okay, I thought that's what you said.

[00:12:35] I was like-

[00:12:36] That is what I said.

[00:12:37] Rest in peace t-shirt to a nigga that ain't dead.

[00:12:40] Like wait a minute.

[00:12:41] Yeah, like I'm going to kill you.

[00:12:42] Like that type of shit.

[00:12:43] I'm just like.

[00:12:46] So yeah, her experience and my experience

[00:12:49] was definitely different.

[00:12:51] Definitely different.

[00:12:55] But yeah, man, ketchup does not go on fucking

[00:12:57] grilled chicken, baked chicken,

[00:12:59] any type of chicken that season.

[00:13:01] It is only for dipping.

[00:13:03] And that is very loosely

[00:13:05] because you guys are adults out there.

[00:13:07] Try some honey mustard.

[00:13:09] Try some ranch.

[00:13:10] Ketchup is a last resort to everything.

[00:13:12] Fuck, that's what I told her.

[00:13:14] I was like, yo, that is when you don't have nothing.

[00:13:17] And even then you don't even want to use it.

[00:13:21] Yeah.

[00:13:21] She on this cheese sheet.

[00:13:22] I'm like, yo, there's not a delicacy.

[00:13:24] It's like, it's not even tomato to be honest.

[00:13:26] Right.

[00:13:27] Sugar, red and something else.

[00:13:31] That's what I told her.

[00:13:32] It was in it.

[00:13:33] Huh?

[00:13:34] Sugar, red, vinegar, what else?

[00:13:36] Something else, I forget.

[00:13:39] If you were using ketchup as a primary source of dipping,

[00:13:43] something's wrong.

[00:13:44] Yeah.

[00:13:45] It's like,

[00:13:48] it's like you're still drinking Bacardi

[00:13:50] when there's other rumors.

[00:13:51] That is exactly what it is.

[00:13:54] That is exactly what it is.

[00:13:56] That is exactly what it is.

[00:14:00] It's like, yo, or Mike's Heart of Lemon,

[00:14:03] I was like, yo, you fucking 37.

[00:14:06] You ain't got to get that.

[00:14:07] Why are you drinking up my card?

[00:14:08] Shit.

[00:14:09] It's not wrong, but I'm saying like,

[00:14:11] that's what you go to all the time.

[00:14:13] Like expand your palette.

[00:14:15] Like you could have some of them in the refrigerator

[00:14:17] or whatever have you,

[00:14:18] but it's using some other things on the cabinet

[00:14:20] somewhere, not just like, yeah, we're going to get

[00:14:22] fucked up.

[00:14:23] You open up the refrigerator and some Mike's Heart

[00:14:24] of Lemonade.

[00:14:25] Like what are we doing here?

[00:14:29] Like basic stuff.

[00:14:30] Like come on now.

[00:14:33] Yeah.

[00:14:34] I gotta laugh.

[00:14:34] She kind of got offended about it,

[00:14:36] but it is what it is.

[00:14:37] She good.

[00:14:41] She is good, man.

[00:14:44] I can't believe her main source of everything

[00:14:48] is ketchup.

[00:14:49] Yo, yes, I mean.

[00:14:52] That's almost grounds for divorce really.

[00:14:54] Not a steak thing if she put ketchup on steak

[00:14:56] might have been.

[00:14:57] Oh, shoot.

[00:15:02] Now we'll say nope.

[00:15:04] My wife was putting like steak sauce on lamb,

[00:15:07] which was really weird to me.

[00:15:09] So I've done,

[00:15:12] I ain't never do steak sauce.

[00:15:13] I've like, I've done like war Chester Sire sauce on it,

[00:15:18] but not a lot just to kind of give it a little something.

[00:15:21] And then I did

[00:15:22] like a butter herb seasoning with butter.

[00:15:30] So I did some shit like that.

[00:15:31] I'm like, all right.

[00:15:32] But I never really, I don't prepare lamb like that.

[00:15:35] And that was during the times that I was getting it.

[00:15:39] You know, I always tell you about how scarce it is

[00:15:42] in this part of Maryland that I'm in.

[00:15:45] So, is that the grocery store?

[00:15:47] Is that the grocery store?

[00:15:48] I don't get it often, but when I get it,

[00:15:50] you know, you love it.

[00:15:53] But yeah, my wife would do the same thing,

[00:15:56] fucking steak sauce on that shit.

[00:15:59] I don't know.

[00:16:02] The way people,

[00:16:07] shit, I haven't had a,

[00:16:10] I haven't had a Wendy's Frosty

[00:16:11] and French fries combo in a while.

[00:16:15] I haven't had a Frosty in years.

[00:16:20] Yeah, it's been years for me too.

[00:16:21] Ever since the lactose intolerance shit

[00:16:24] started fucking me up because that used to be my go-to,

[00:16:27] a large fry, large Frosty.

[00:16:30] Put the fries in the Frosty.

[00:16:32] Take a spoon and I eat it.

[00:16:36] Like some Fat Man shit.

[00:16:37] Not like some Fat Man shit.

[00:16:39] That was some Fat Man shit.

[00:16:41] But a combination of flavors.

[00:16:44] It's gonna match.

[00:16:47] Now if I would have put ketchup in that,

[00:16:48] you know how crazy that was?

[00:16:50] I was like,

[00:16:50] I don't even use ketchup for my fries.

[00:17:00] No, I don't either.

[00:17:02] Yo, I eat, yo, if there's no sauces,

[00:17:05] like sometimes I don't even ask for sauce

[00:17:06] for my fries.

[00:17:07] Like fries to me, to be honest,

[00:17:10] does not carry out shit and you got it.

[00:17:11] They gonna throw the mumbo sauce on that bitch

[00:17:14] and I ain't been to the carry out in a minute.

[00:17:17] I don't put nothing on my fries.

[00:17:19] Fries get eaten first, number one.

[00:17:22] But then your sandwich.

[00:17:25] But no, I don't dip my fries in the shit.

[00:17:28] Not like that for real.

[00:17:30] Like if I'm putting my fries in anything,

[00:17:34] it's gonna be to the homeboys chucked mumbo sauce.

[00:17:38] You know what I'm saying?

[00:17:39] Capital mumbo, you know what I'm saying?

[00:17:41] That'd be the only time you'll see me dip them.

[00:17:43] But that means they had to been cold.

[00:17:46] I had to been warming the mic up

[00:17:48] in an oven on a microwave.

[00:17:51] Or they just had to be nasty fries

[00:17:53] that didn't have no season.

[00:17:54] They just put some fries in a bag,

[00:17:55] lightly gave them some salt

[00:17:57] and was like, are you good?

[00:17:59] And yeah.

[00:18:01] Other than that, you know,

[00:18:03] you seem to eat no fries or anything.

[00:18:07] I was there,

[00:18:09] I was on the family's mother's day.

[00:18:11] Well, you know, indenture servant day,

[00:18:14] AKA husband's gotta do everything

[00:18:16] that they do every other day was fine.

[00:18:19] Oh, I didn't have none of that.

[00:18:22] You know what I'm saying?

[00:18:23] It's funny cause my wife's like,

[00:18:24] why you call me, why are you calling yourself

[00:18:28] an indentured servant?

[00:18:29] I said, cause this is what it is.

[00:18:31] I didn't say it wasn't even mother's day

[00:18:33] I would still be in the day.

[00:18:34] That's how I see myself.

[00:18:35] So what we really saying right now?

[00:18:41] I told her, I said, look,

[00:18:42] as much as you think this isn't indentured servitude,

[00:18:46] this is pretty much where it is.

[00:18:47] I'd be like, all right, we're cool.

[00:18:52] I wanna go do this.

[00:18:53] You're like, okay, I wanna do this.

[00:18:56] What do we end up doing?

[00:18:57] What you wanted to do.

[00:18:58] What you wanted to do, yeah.

[00:19:02] So you keep saying that it's not indentured servitude

[00:19:07] but it's exactly what it is, indentured servitude.

[00:19:13] Yeah, mine was a,

[00:19:15] mine was a chill.

[00:19:18] My mom told me how much of a bad son I was

[00:19:20] and talked about that for about four hours.

[00:19:23] So it's pretty good.

[00:19:32] Think that joke went over D-Lo's head?

[00:19:34] No, my mom called me a bad son the other day too.

[00:19:38] So it's all good.

[00:19:39] My mom did not call me a bad son.

[00:19:43] She calls me a bad son all the time.

[00:19:44] You know why?

[00:19:45] Your mom calls you a bad son all the time?

[00:19:47] Yeah, cause I don't ever come see her.

[00:19:51] I mean, here's the thing.

[00:19:53] My mom won't come out and say it

[00:19:55] but she'll make her feelings be known.

[00:19:58] Now, also real shit like Mother's Day.

[00:20:01] Me and my mom just talked.

[00:20:04] We didn't have, we weren't,

[00:20:07] we wasn't having a heart to heart.

[00:20:08] We were just talking and shit, which was dope.

[00:20:11] I think I made her, which is kind of rare.

[00:20:15] Like I gave my mom some perspective on her life.

[00:20:19] And you know, sometimes like with our parents,

[00:20:21] they're kind of doing that for us.

[00:20:24] And I wasn't trying to do that for her,

[00:20:26] but she told me that.

[00:20:28] And I was just like, oh wow.

[00:20:30] And all of that came from a discussion

[00:20:31] of me telling her that I keep having dreams

[00:20:34] about my being at my late grandmother's house

[00:20:39] but she not there.

[00:20:40] But I don't even know why I'm there.

[00:20:43] You know, we were trying to analyze that

[00:20:45] and we started talking about other stuff,

[00:20:46] family and shit.

[00:20:48] My nephew trying to get both of our attention.

[00:20:51] Cause you know, he's still at that age

[00:20:53] of a look at me type shit.

[00:20:56] And we got to say, yo, go on, we can talk.

[00:21:01] I don't like that type of thing.

[00:21:03] But it was a cool Mother's Day.

[00:21:05] Gave my sister and my mom some flowers and some money.

[00:21:12] A standard of what I always do

[00:21:14] cause that's what they want.

[00:21:16] I'm not buying candles and trying to guess stuff

[00:21:18] or anything like that anymore.

[00:21:21] I don't take too much time.

[00:21:23] Just my mom would be like, I didn't like this guy

[00:21:25] when I'm like, never again.

[00:21:29] Here you are lady.

[00:21:31] But yeah, my mom said,

[00:21:35] my mom be having those same sentiments of like, yo,

[00:21:39] come see me often.

[00:21:41] Your situation is a little different

[00:21:42] because you kind of further away than I am from my mom.

[00:21:45] I'm like two minutes away by car.

[00:21:47] My mom be like, oh, you didn't call me.

[00:21:49] She's been a week since you heard from me.

[00:21:51] How you know I'm not okay?

[00:21:52] I said, mom, dad's there.

[00:21:56] That's how I be feeling too sometimes.

[00:21:58] I'm like, yo, my sister is there.

[00:21:59] Like someone will tell me, mainly her.

[00:22:07] Mainly her.

[00:22:09] Shit, whether my mom know it or not,

[00:22:11] sometimes I think I said this shit on the podcast.

[00:22:13] Sometimes I just drive past her house

[00:22:14] and make sure everybody's like in the house.

[00:22:17] Like if I happen to be out,

[00:22:18] I will go out my way to drive past the house

[00:22:22] and make sure I don't see nothing crazy going on.

[00:22:23] You know what I mean?

[00:22:24] Like a door open.

[00:22:25] You know what I mean?

[00:22:26] Like something, I don't know.

[00:22:29] She don't know that,

[00:22:30] but I'm always thinking about her

[00:22:33] and having her best interests at heart

[00:22:37] in whatever decisions I make

[00:22:39] as far as my future and shit.

[00:22:42] My mom be like, she called me at work.

[00:22:44] You busy?

[00:22:46] Mom, I'm at work.

[00:22:47] Oh, I mean, I was just asking.

[00:22:50] I'm like, what?

[00:22:51] What's going on?

[00:22:51] What's going on?

[00:22:52] Nah, this is my mom.

[00:22:54] She'll call.

[00:22:56] Hey, what you doing?

[00:22:58] Like, oh, you at work.

[00:22:59] This the time you at work, right?

[00:23:01] And in my head, I'm like, yo,

[00:23:02] it ain't like I got a part-time job

[00:23:04] like at fuck it, at the mall and shit.

[00:23:06] I'm a full-fledged adult.

[00:23:08] It is definitely nine to five from this bitch.

[00:23:10] Like, come on, ma.

[00:23:13] I ain't want nothing.

[00:23:14] Oh, this is what I want you to do.

[00:23:15] And I'm like, you ain't want nothing,

[00:23:17] but this is what I want you to do.

[00:23:18] Just what you want me to do.

[00:23:20] I'll be like, oh, fuck it.

[00:23:21] I'll pick up a truck.

[00:23:22] Oh, I'm like all the time.

[00:23:30] All the time.

[00:23:32] Especially since she's getting her second phase

[00:23:36] of her garden together in the backyard.

[00:23:38] I'm just like, the other day I was moving dirt.

[00:23:42] The other day I picked up a bunch of bricks

[00:23:45] from a fucking Home Depot.

[00:23:47] It was like shit like that.

[00:23:48] Like, that's how my Saturdays be.

[00:23:49] Just fucking loading bricks into a fucking Subaru

[00:23:55] and then taking them back out.

[00:23:56] And my nephew's like, I'm strong too.

[00:23:58] I'm like, boy, if you don't get the fuck out.

[00:24:00] What?

[00:24:00] Get these fucking bricks heavy as shit.

[00:24:07] That's what my,

[00:24:09] that was the Saturday before Mother's Day.

[00:24:10] That's what my Saturday was.

[00:24:12] And then I had to turn around

[00:24:14] and ended up spending the damn day the day with her.

[00:24:17] Not that I'm mad at that, but that's just what it was.

[00:24:21] So shout out to Mom.

[00:24:22] That's what she does.

[00:24:27] Shout out to Mom.

[00:24:32] Well, I had to worry about all that.

[00:24:34] I just had to call her.

[00:24:36] Then she was like-

[00:24:37] You didn't go have dinner?

[00:24:41] No.

[00:24:42] She went to dinner with my uncle on though.

[00:24:46] And I took my wife to brunch.

[00:24:50] To a place that she was like,

[00:24:51] oh, I want to go here for brunch.

[00:24:53] I was like, oh, okay.

[00:24:54] That's fine.

[00:24:57] I was like, is it expensive?

[00:24:58] She was like, well, not really.

[00:25:00] It was expensive.

[00:25:04] The wine was expensive.

[00:25:05] It ain't nothing expensive

[00:25:06] more than our money.

[00:25:07] But what is their money?

[00:25:08] I don't know.

[00:25:09] I don't think I got that right on me right now.

[00:25:12] I'm like, where has it been?

[00:25:13] Like what you mean you got it on you?

[00:25:19] My wife, like yesterday I was like,

[00:25:22] what are we doing for dinner?

[00:25:24] She's like, I don't know.

[00:25:25] I ain't got no money.

[00:25:26] I mean, I actually bought no damn money.

[00:25:28] I said, what are we doing?

[00:25:32] I was like, what are we doing for dinner?

[00:25:34] I just want to know.

[00:25:34] So I know if I need to be-

[00:25:39] Cooking.

[00:25:40] What you call it.

[00:25:41] Not just cooking, but if-

[00:25:44] That's our expectation.

[00:25:47] If I'm just trying to,

[00:25:48] if I'm going to eat pretty much.

[00:25:50] I mean, if I'm going to eat

[00:25:52] or if I'm about to just drink some beer

[00:25:54] and get my calories that way.

[00:25:55] Oh my God.

[00:25:56] Every day, yo, it never fails.

[00:25:59] It never fails.

[00:26:00] You say something so unhealthy.

[00:26:04] What do you mean eat, drink, get your-

[00:26:07] I hear, yeah, I know what you mean,

[00:26:08] but come on man.

[00:26:10] Hey, you gotta do what you gotta do.

[00:26:12] No, but the thing is you don't have to do that.

[00:26:16] Says who?

[00:26:19] Your body.

[00:26:21] It'd be all right.

[00:26:23] Yo.

[00:26:29] I've seen people do worse.

[00:26:32] Yeah, the nigga on the fucking corner

[00:26:35] that is literally has no choice

[00:26:38] but to drink his fucking meals.

[00:26:39] Yeah.

[00:26:41] Yes.

[00:26:43] I guess you're right.

[00:26:44] Why lie?

[00:26:45] I need a beer sign.

[00:26:46] Yes, those motherfuckers.

[00:26:47] Yes, I've seen worse too,

[00:26:49] but you're not there.

[00:26:51] No.

[00:26:52] You actually live in a house.

[00:26:56] Yeah.

[00:26:58] Well, like I said, I blame it on her.

[00:27:06] Who was her?

[00:27:07] My wife.

[00:27:08] Oh my God.

[00:27:11] Oh man.

[00:27:13] If she had said what she wanted to eat,

[00:27:15] we would be having this conversation.

[00:27:20] But you're a grown man.

[00:27:23] Hey look, she's still the wife.

[00:27:28] What her, yo.

[00:27:30] She need me cooking.

[00:27:32] I was,

[00:27:35] you went totally nuts with what I was about to say.

[00:27:46] That's not what I was about to say.

[00:27:48] I was gonna say, you a grown man.

[00:27:53] What she do should not affect you to that regard

[00:27:56] of whether you eat or not if she ain't hungry.

[00:28:01] So you're telling me like,

[00:28:03] well, she ain't cook so I had to fucking drink my dinner,

[00:28:06] which was a Jamison.

[00:28:08] Hey, it was Martell.

[00:28:10] Oh yeah, shout out to Martell.

[00:28:11] Same fucking,

[00:28:14] I meant to go get my shot of Martell.

[00:28:15] Oh my God.

[00:28:18] I'm over here just drinking my Corona like something.

[00:28:26] Oh no.

[00:28:28] And it's nice and cold.

[00:28:30] Oh yeah.

[00:28:31] Oh yeah.

[00:28:33] You know what, what would I do without you?

[00:28:41] What would I do without you?

[00:28:43] I keep finding all these damn ants on this table.

[00:28:46] It's just crazy.

[00:28:50] I guess they think there's food in my laptop.

[00:28:53] I'll take care of those things later.

[00:28:58] Oh your laptop keys got a bunch of food stuck in them

[00:29:01] and grease stains.

[00:29:02] It's possible.

[00:29:06] Oh shit, I should have this much left.

[00:29:11] But that was my mother's day.

[00:29:14] I tried to treat my wife the best I could

[00:29:20] and not piss her off.

[00:29:22] And the cat got her a card.

[00:29:24] I got her a card.

[00:29:26] Yo, I did the same thing for my wife.

[00:29:28] The cat got her a card.

[00:29:31] And I got a thing where she,

[00:29:32] the cat could put the paw print on a thing

[00:29:34] and then make an outline of it.

[00:29:36] And I put it in the car.

[00:29:39] Like an ink outline, like an ink,

[00:29:40] what do you call it?

[00:29:41] An ink,

[00:29:43] like a paw print.

[00:29:46] But of course my cat, me and my cat wouldn't stand still.

[00:29:50] Of course he would.

[00:29:52] Like why would you expect that?

[00:29:53] Look, my wife-

[00:29:56] I had to comb her in order for her to be like,

[00:29:59] yeah, cause she liked being combed and shit.

[00:30:02] I combed her and I just like

[00:30:03] stuck the little thing under there.

[00:30:05] She was like, what the fuck is this?

[00:30:06] I was like, put your fucking paw on this.

[00:30:08] And I got her front paw on the back wall

[00:30:11] put it in the car for my wife.

[00:30:12] And she was like, oh, so cute.

[00:30:15] So did that.

[00:30:18] But-

[00:30:20] See,

[00:30:22] my cat,

[00:30:26] my wife has confirmed that

[00:30:28] we're not gonna be getting no more cats after Leo.

[00:30:32] I actually, yo, I was, did not,

[00:30:35] I was the one that said,

[00:30:36] yo, y'all sure about a cat?

[00:30:38] But here I am with a cat too.

[00:30:39] But that wasn't my decision.

[00:30:42] And she, I got a, I got a, what is the word?

[00:30:46] I got pressured into it.

[00:30:48] Cause I didn't want another.

[00:30:50] So what is your reasoning?

[00:30:51] I could probably already guess.

[00:30:52] Well, she said that

[00:30:54] this is the best cat she's ever had.

[00:30:56] Really?

[00:30:59] In her head, she said,

[00:31:02] she doesn't want me to be, how does she say?

[00:31:05] Tainted

[00:31:08] with thinking that all cats are like this.

[00:31:11] And I should just stop while it's-

[00:31:14] Hey, she ain't lying.

[00:31:14] She ain't lying.

[00:31:16] While you got the best cat posse.

[00:31:17] This is Smith, ain't lying.

[00:31:19] I told my wife that.

[00:31:19] I was like, yo, I said, my mom had,

[00:31:22] when I was like a teenager or whatever,

[00:31:24] we had two crazy ass motherfucking cats.

[00:31:27] And we're both were boys.

[00:31:28] So the fact that y'all boy, y'all little boy over there

[00:31:31] is so nice and so cool and so chill.

[00:31:33] I don't know where the fuck that comes from.

[00:31:36] Our first cat was in everything.

[00:31:40] Stealing everything.

[00:31:43] Running the fuck outside, down the street.

[00:31:46] I'm like, yo, come on.

[00:31:48] Like, we're trying to get to the school,

[00:31:50] trying to get to the bus to go to school,

[00:31:52] motherfucker gone.

[00:31:52] I'm like, God damn it.

[00:31:55] Constantly, he was a mischievous ass kitten

[00:31:59] up until adulthood.

[00:32:02] Pissed me the fuck off.

[00:32:05] Still in toilet paper, still in loaves of bread.

[00:32:08] Getting his hands stuck in the fucking bathtub drain.

[00:32:13] Waking you up to get some food.

[00:32:16] Taking one bite, walking off and going to sleep.

[00:32:21] Constantly.

[00:32:23] And y'all just, y'all cat over there just chilling.

[00:32:26] Yep, just chilling.

[00:32:30] Lucky y'all.

[00:32:31] Just chilling.

[00:32:32] Told my wife the same thing.

[00:32:33] I'm like, yo, I was like, to be honest,

[00:32:37] she's nice.

[00:32:38] Like, she's a little, what is the word?

[00:32:40] Routine and very prissy.

[00:32:43] And spoiled, but outside of that, she chill.

[00:32:47] I'm like, you just don't know.

[00:32:50] And then we be showing each other, like, you know,

[00:32:52] certain people cat, not certain people,

[00:32:54] other people's cats on Instagram and shit.

[00:32:56] I'm like, see, we could have had this.

[00:32:58] Could have had this motherfucker acting crazy.

[00:33:01] But she don't.

[00:33:03] I see.

[00:33:05] Cause you know, when Leo came out the box.

[00:33:12] He, you know, obviously he's in a new environment.

[00:33:15] He took off running under everything he could find.

[00:33:18] Well, he took, you know,

[00:33:20] he honestly really took a liking to me.

[00:33:22] Like I was just laying on the sofa here.

[00:33:23] He would try to get up and I'd just pick him up

[00:33:25] and he'd come and lay behind me as I'm a shelter.

[00:33:29] I really thought it was just cause I was big or fat.

[00:33:33] But my wife just said,

[00:33:37] no, they just like to find good hiding spots.

[00:33:39] I said, how did I become a hiding spot?

[00:33:44] Mm-hmm.

[00:33:46] Yeah.

[00:33:52] Cats are cats.

[00:33:53] Yeah.

[00:33:55] What role do relationships play in a men's mental health

[00:34:01] and can they be improved?

[00:34:04] And how can they be improved?

[00:34:09] I would say,

[00:34:13] let's get hot in here.

[00:34:15] How?

[00:34:15] Oh yeah. Human drinking.

[00:34:18] Yeah. Drunk in love without my love here.

[00:34:22] Oh, this is way better.

[00:34:26] All right.

[00:34:27] So at first I was going to say there is no such thing,

[00:34:31] but then when I really thought about it-

[00:34:34] There's no such thing as what?

[00:34:36] I was gonna say there was no such thing as

[00:34:40] no relationships that help with your mental health.

[00:34:42] But then like when I really thought about it-

[00:34:45] That's not what I said.

[00:34:47] Well, you said how relationships help

[00:34:49] with a man's mental health.

[00:34:51] You said male relationships though.

[00:34:54] Oh, well not male relationships, but relationships.

[00:34:57] Yeah.

[00:34:58] That's definitely related.

[00:34:59] The number one thing is be my piece.

[00:35:01] That is a relationship between you and your woman.

[00:35:03] You're not my piece.

[00:35:05] Bitch, peace out.

[00:35:09] I put it this way.

[00:35:10] That's just an example.

[00:35:12] I think relationships in general,

[00:35:17] if there's not male relationships,

[00:35:18] generally it ain't gonna be but so much peace.

[00:35:22] Oh my gosh.

[00:35:25] I mean, don't get me wrong.

[00:35:26] I mean, we're married.

[00:35:27] So there's no like,

[00:35:28] oh, let me go talk to my home girl about this

[00:35:30] who would help me with this situation.

[00:35:34] There's none of that.

[00:35:35] Now back in the day,

[00:35:37] yeah, I could call my home girl Stokes

[00:35:40] and be like, all right, yeah, what's up?

[00:35:43] Let's go and get some ramen.

[00:35:43] I got to talk to you about some shit.

[00:35:45] You know what I'm saying?

[00:35:46] And then it's all right.

[00:35:47] Here's my perspective because really doesn't like,

[00:35:50] yeah, it helps.

[00:35:51] Well, I just think it just more or less helps

[00:35:54] in the aspect of just kind of easing your mind

[00:35:59] or shit.

[00:36:00] I don't think it necessarily helps.

[00:36:01] It helps with my mental health.

[00:36:03] But if I just need that balance on ideal for somebody,

[00:36:07] yeah, it works.

[00:36:11] But it's, I don't know.

[00:36:16] It's, I don't find relationships

[00:36:20] to really be super beneficial for my mental health.

[00:36:23] I feel like my relationship with alcohol

[00:36:25] does a better job.

[00:36:30] Bro, like eat.

[00:36:31] No, I'm just being honest.

[00:36:39] Cause like think about it,

[00:36:40] like even while we do this, right?

[00:36:42] We do this, I've been all my other shit.

[00:36:45] That helps with my mental health a whole lot more.

[00:36:48] You know what I'm saying?

[00:36:49] But just in a very general aspect, you know,

[00:36:55] I think it can help.

[00:36:57] I think sometimes it does help,

[00:36:59] especially if you're in a really bad place.

[00:37:02] But, you know, one of those things.

[00:37:11] Listen, I hear you.

[00:37:12] All right, I hear you.

[00:37:14] The way I was looking at it,

[00:37:19] that question,

[00:37:23] just some clarity or just some behind the scenes shit.

[00:37:28] I did not come up with this question.

[00:37:29] I found this question somewhere.

[00:37:31] Oh, you found this question?

[00:37:32] So there's that right answer?

[00:37:34] No, it's only your answer is your answer.

[00:37:37] There's no right answer.

[00:37:38] But the way I interpreted this

[00:37:41] as just like relationships in general,

[00:37:43] like the relationships you have in your life, right?

[00:37:45] That could be your relationship with family members,

[00:37:47] friends, you know, your significant other,

[00:37:50] romantically, shit like that.

[00:37:52] So I think,

[00:37:56] I think like there's like to me,

[00:37:59] in my opinion, there's like three important relationships

[00:38:05] that play a role in a man's mental health.

[00:38:07] And that's the relationship you have with your parents

[00:38:10] who you're, you know, romantically involved with.

[00:38:14] And yourself.

[00:38:16] So when I look at it like that,

[00:38:19] I'm like, all right,

[00:38:21] how did my parents play a role in that?

[00:38:22] You know what I mean?

[00:38:24] So I, you know, your parents,

[00:38:27] like from like the cliche shit of like

[00:38:29] the parents of your foundation is,

[00:38:31] you know, the truth,

[00:38:32] the parents of your foundation,

[00:38:33] your education, your learning,

[00:38:35] your emotional wellbeing,

[00:38:37] your physical health and all that shit.

[00:38:39] You know, everybody's mom ain't the same.

[00:38:44] And everybody's mom didn't do the same thing

[00:38:46] when it comes to raising their young boys

[00:38:50] and helping them to be men and shit like that.

[00:38:53] Some men, all they had was they mom.

[00:38:57] And they turned out fine.

[00:39:00] And some men, all they had was they mom.

[00:39:03] And it shows sometimes all they had

[00:39:06] was they mom and their dad and turn out fine.

[00:39:10] And they got a mom and dad.

[00:39:12] And you know, stuff goes sour.

[00:39:13] So I think above that, you know,

[00:39:19] your parents definitely played that starting role

[00:39:21] in developing how a man's mental health will be.

[00:39:26] Like it's been so many times where like

[00:39:28] when I was young,

[00:39:30] like my mom, like how she said things to me,

[00:39:38] like she never yelled things,

[00:39:39] but it was just like her tone.

[00:39:41] It made me not want to tell her anything

[00:39:43] or ask her anything.

[00:39:44] I'm like, damn, she always seemed mad.

[00:39:46] But it was never like her yelling at me.

[00:39:47] It was just like her tone was not approachable.

[00:39:50] You know what I mean?

[00:39:52] So it was like that.

[00:39:54] Like she was strict.

[00:39:57] You know, don't get me wrong,

[00:39:58] but yeah, she was strict,

[00:40:03] but it was one of those things

[00:40:05] that was like her rigidness.

[00:40:09] I felt like rubbed on me or rubbed off on me

[00:40:13] in a way where, you know, I didn't know.

[00:40:15] As an adult now,

[00:40:15] I don't always treat myself to common things

[00:40:18] like downtime or being social or buying myself stuff

[00:40:23] because I feel like the money could be put

[00:40:25] towards something else.

[00:40:26] So it's more important things to do and shit like that.

[00:40:29] And of course, if you're not doing

[00:40:31] all those things like that,

[00:40:34] you ain't gonna be having fun in life.

[00:40:35] You're gonna be feeling miserable sometimes.

[00:40:37] You'll be feeling like you missing out.

[00:40:38] Right.

[00:40:39] So that was kind of like an example

[00:40:43] that I thought of like, yo,

[00:40:45] as far as like the relationship with your parents,

[00:40:47] that's a, that could play a role.

[00:40:52] See, I guess, yeah.

[00:40:58] I see what you say, Asinu-Z.

[00:41:00] But I guess I just looked at it from an aspect of it

[00:41:05] how do these relationships do it?

[00:41:08] And like in my current situation,

[00:41:12] in the relationships I have,

[00:41:13] does it help with my mental health?

[00:41:16] My mental health or even-

[00:41:17] I make it hurt.

[00:41:18] It can hurt and help.

[00:41:19] Right.

[00:41:21] Like, I look at it's like, all right, well,

[00:41:24] you know, I got more relationship with my wife

[00:41:27] and you know, that can be either way.

[00:41:29] That could be helping or hurting.

[00:41:30] You know, it just depends on what kind of day she having

[00:41:33] and I just kind of go.

[00:41:35] That's parents too.

[00:41:36] Like when you growing up, like you still gotta,

[00:41:38] you know, you still gotta be abundant

[00:41:39] until you become a man.

[00:41:40] Your mental health is something that you're kinda,

[00:41:44] it sticks with you until you,

[00:41:45] you know how they say old habits die hard

[00:41:48] or some shit like that.

[00:41:49] Or you gotta unlearn all the things you learned

[00:41:51] when you was a child.

[00:41:52] Like that's mental health shit too.

[00:41:56] Especially if you're, let's just say you had a dad

[00:41:59] or uncle that was just super,

[00:42:03] I don't know, whatever abusive.

[00:42:05] I was just saying that.

[00:42:06] I'll say for me, my relationships with people,

[00:42:11] I'm not gonna say it helps my mental health,

[00:42:13] but I won't say it hurts it.

[00:42:16] I'm already a very,

[00:42:19] and more than like, I guess as far as

[00:42:22] parenting went for me,

[00:42:25] I eventually came to a point where I just said,

[00:42:29] fuck it.

[00:42:30] I'm gonna do what I do.

[00:42:33] I'll get the lecture later.

[00:42:35] What do you mean you won't get the lecture later?

[00:42:37] I'll get the lecture later.

[00:42:38] You know, you shouldn't do that, whatever,

[00:42:40] but I'm gonna do what I do.

[00:42:41] Like it's not that my parents didn't parent

[00:42:43] because my parents did parent.

[00:42:46] If my mom said it,

[00:42:48] it was like, all right, I hear you mom.

[00:42:50] My stepdad said it's like,

[00:42:54] all right.

[00:42:56] Because a lot of stuff was very,

[00:42:58] not contradictory, but it was very like,

[00:43:03] it conflicted with everything else.

[00:43:06] So case in point.

[00:43:07] So my stepdad was like,

[00:43:11] oh, well, you know,

[00:43:12] and this is why I'm like in my 20s.

[00:43:14] I'm working for the feds at this point.

[00:43:17] Oh, you need to clean your room.

[00:43:18] What?

[00:43:19] Thank you.

[00:43:20] Oh, you need to clean your room.

[00:43:22] What?

[00:43:27] You are living in his house though.

[00:43:29] No, no, no, no, hear me out here.

[00:43:31] So it wasn't that my room was messy, right?

[00:43:34] Because I barely slept in the room.

[00:43:35] I barely was at the house.

[00:43:37] So when the maid came and cleaned up everything,

[00:43:40] everything was still there.

[00:43:41] Y'all had a maid?

[00:43:43] Yeah, once me and my sister became adults

[00:43:46] and my parents didn't have to pay for me or her anymore,

[00:43:49] my mom paid somebody to come and clean the house

[00:43:51] every two weeks.

[00:43:53] God damn.

[00:43:55] Yeah, I was like, all right, whatever.

[00:43:57] So the room never gathered.

[00:43:58] Like I literally would come in,

[00:44:00] I'd go to the basement, go to sleep,

[00:44:03] wake up, shower, put my clothes on, go to work.

[00:44:06] That's what I did.

[00:44:08] So one day I had to coach a game

[00:44:10] and go to this other job I was doing.

[00:44:13] And I get there and I'm like, all right,

[00:44:16] this little, this motherfucker,

[00:44:17] he gonna do something crazy.

[00:44:19] So when I get there, the people weren't,

[00:44:23] none of the kids were there.

[00:44:24] And I was like, all right, that's fine, whatever.

[00:44:27] And I go home.

[00:44:31] Niggas in my room with a trash bag,

[00:44:33] putting stuff in it.

[00:44:34] I'm like, what's going on?

[00:44:36] And they're like, oh, I'm going to the bathroom.

[00:44:39] Putting stuff in it.

[00:44:40] I'm like, what are you doing?

[00:44:41] Oh, well, I told you to clean your room and you left.

[00:44:48] Yeah, cause I had to go to work.

[00:44:51] He's like, I don't care about your little job.

[00:44:53] I told you to do something, you do it.

[00:44:54] I don't care about them people who employ you.

[00:45:02] I don't care about those people who employ you.

[00:45:05] I'm like, yo, dad, what type of man you want me to be?

[00:45:10] Like, what are you doing?

[00:45:12] But you see what I mean though.

[00:45:14] So you all see how that affect,

[00:45:15] at that moment that could affect your mental health?

[00:45:18] Cause it didn't.

[00:45:19] I was just like, all right, I'm gonna go get this money.

[00:45:23] Yeah, I get what you said.

[00:45:25] But yeah, I get what you said.

[00:45:26] I can see what you're saying.

[00:45:28] And I also see what you're saying too.

[00:45:30] It's kind of like, yo, yeah, these things,

[00:45:32] these relationships try to play a role, but it didn't.

[00:45:37] Right.

[00:45:39] I mean, cause it was like, I forgot.

[00:45:42] I think I told you this story.

[00:45:43] So my sister had a birthday party

[00:45:45] out in like Annapolis somewhere.

[00:45:47] And I was like, all right, whatever.

[00:45:49] But I had a tutor.

[00:45:51] So I'm out to this, like when I sat and I'm tutoring,

[00:45:54] right?

[00:45:55] And my mom's like, are you coming?

[00:45:57] I said, well, right now I'm tutoring.

[00:45:59] I gotta get this money.

[00:46:00] I don't make so much work at a tutoring center

[00:46:02] plus at the stockpile.

[00:46:04] I don't even make so much money.

[00:46:05] I gotta go do this show on the side.

[00:46:06] So I had some money to do some shit.

[00:46:09] So I get done about seven, seven and 30.

[00:46:11] I think my sister party started about six, 37 o'clock.

[00:46:15] And I'm coming back from Laurel and I'm like,

[00:46:19] I don't think I want it up.

[00:46:21] Oh my gosh.

[00:46:22] You can't say you gonna show up

[00:46:23] and then don't show up though.

[00:46:24] I never said I was showing up.

[00:46:26] They wanted me to come.

[00:46:28] And I was like, I don't know what I'm showing up.

[00:46:30] So I go home, I go and shower.

[00:46:34] And then I'm like, you know what?

[00:46:35] I might as well just go to Fat Boys.

[00:46:38] So I get home.

[00:46:40] I get home and the next morning he like,

[00:46:44] so why didn't you come to the thing?

[00:46:45] I said, cause I was working.

[00:46:47] What do you mean you were working?

[00:46:48] Well, I woke up.

[00:46:50] I left at 10, I left at like 930.

[00:46:52] I went to magnesium.

[00:46:54] Then I had other students.

[00:46:55] I had the tutor after I left magnesium.

[00:46:59] I'm not, in my head, I'm like,

[00:47:01] I thought that was a pretty straightforward.

[00:47:04] Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[00:47:06] Well, it was a sister's thing.

[00:47:07] You don't do nothing ever to support her

[00:47:09] and you treat her like shit

[00:47:11] and no one cares about your job.

[00:47:15] You supposed to show up.

[00:47:17] What?

[00:47:19] And so if I'm like,

[00:47:21] so if I didn't go to,

[00:47:24] if I don't go to work, I don't get paid.

[00:47:28] That was my, if I don't go to work, I don't get paid.

[00:47:30] So I'm not supposed to,

[00:47:32] well, you'll figure it out.

[00:47:35] I figured this shit out.

[00:47:36] I'm getting paid.

[00:47:38] They need to get paid.

[00:47:40] Right, and when I was like,

[00:47:41] well, I, you know, he wants you to show up.

[00:47:44] I said, mom, hear what I'm saying.

[00:47:48] If I don't go to work,

[00:47:50] if I can't pay my bills,

[00:47:52] he's not paying the bills.

[00:47:54] He's openly said,

[00:47:55] oh no, you're on your own for your bills.

[00:47:57] You pay your bills, but you want me not to go to work.

[00:47:59] How does that, if you wanna go ahead and go,

[00:48:02] okay, we'll give you $300.

[00:48:05] So that's, you know, any money that you lost

[00:48:07] not going to the thing you can have.

[00:48:10] I'll show up to anything.

[00:48:12] But if that-

[00:48:13] It will go on.

[00:48:14] But if you tell me I can't,

[00:48:16] that you want me to be somewhere

[00:48:19] and you don't care if I lose money because whatever,

[00:48:27] no, well, at the end of the day,

[00:48:29] that is not how y'all raised me.

[00:48:31] And now all of a sudden, because,

[00:48:32] and I told him, I said,

[00:48:34] the only reason he's mad is because he didn't wanna go.

[00:48:37] But he went and when he saw that I didn't go,

[00:48:40] then he felt like, wait,

[00:48:41] and he thought he was like,

[00:48:42] I could have stayed my ass home too.

[00:48:49] I mean, you know,

[00:48:50] sometimes you gotta read in between those lines.

[00:48:52] Fuck yeah, man.

[00:48:53] That ain't cool.

[00:48:54] You ain't mad cause you had that I wasn't there.

[00:48:56] You mad because if you didn't go,

[00:48:58] you wouldn't even know that I wasn't there.

[00:49:01] You mad cause you had,

[00:49:02] cause your mom and your daughter said,

[00:49:04] I need you to be there.

[00:49:05] You were there.

[00:49:06] And then you realized I wasn't there.

[00:49:07] He like, man, fuck this nigga.

[00:49:10] Yo, that shit would drive me,

[00:49:13] even though you an adult and shit,

[00:49:15] that shit will still drive me crazy.

[00:49:16] I'm like, these motherfuckers, man.

[00:49:20] But that's what I said.

[00:49:21] Like at the end of the day,

[00:49:22] I was just like, I ain't trippin' or all fuckers.

[00:49:27] Like, all right, well, hey, you mad?

[00:49:29] Cool.

[00:49:30] Yeah.

[00:49:31] That ain't got nothing to do.

[00:49:32] You mad over, you're mad over being who you told me to be.

[00:49:40] Yeah, that's another thing with parents.

[00:49:41] It's like you either mad or who you told me to be

[00:49:44] or you mad at what I grew up to be.

[00:49:45] And it's kind of like, that's you, you.

[00:49:48] I didn't raise me.

[00:49:51] And then, you know,

[00:49:52] even if I did raise me, you should have stepped in.

[00:49:57] I mean, I understood what they were saying,

[00:50:00] but it's like, yeah, like, you know,

[00:50:02] cause I never asked my parents for anything.

[00:50:03] My sister, for all the parties she's throwing in

[00:50:07] for her birthday and rent these places out,

[00:50:10] my sister would still ask for money from them.

[00:50:12] Oh, I'm sure doing this.

[00:50:13] So my mom would be like, oh, well, you know,

[00:50:16] I pay part of your sister's rent or mortgage.

[00:50:20] And I'm like, why?

[00:50:24] And she's like, I mean, she needed the help.

[00:50:26] And I'm like, but why?

[00:50:28] Why is she putting her?

[00:50:29] Why, is there a situation that she's putting herself

[00:50:32] in where she needs help?

[00:50:34] I don't wanna answer all that.

[00:50:36] No, no, I'm not.

[00:50:37] That's rhetorical.

[00:50:38] And that's what I mean.

[00:50:39] That's rhetorical, but that's, come on now.

[00:50:43] That's the double standard.

[00:50:45] No, we definitely as men

[00:50:47] ain't going back to our parents saying blah, blah,

[00:50:49] blah, it will be, you need to figure that out.

[00:50:53] For the longest I've been alive,

[00:50:54] when I started working,

[00:50:56] I stopped asking my parents for anything.

[00:50:59] Even when they asked me what I want for Christmas,

[00:51:01] I don't know, just give me some shit.

[00:51:03] I said it respectfully, not with shit.

[00:51:08] But you know, my mom would be like,

[00:51:10] oh, can I borrow some money?

[00:51:11] Because this and this, like my mom,

[00:51:13] mind you, I make considerably less

[00:51:15] than everyone in my family, considerably less.

[00:51:18] And even now I was making a whole lot less,

[00:51:20] but I didn't ask nobody for no money.

[00:51:23] I ain't asked nobody for no help.

[00:51:24] I've even had, I won't say a relative.

[00:51:30] A person I know, you know,

[00:51:34] first I know was like, hey man,

[00:51:36] I need to hold like 500 because blahzay, blahzay, blahzay.

[00:51:41] And if blahzay, blahzay doesn't get paid

[00:51:43] then blahzay, blahzay happens and blahzay, blahzay.

[00:51:47] I ain't got $500 to give nobody.

[00:51:52] I find $500 to give them.

[00:51:55] And I gave them five.

[00:51:57] That nigga still ain't paid me back.

[00:51:59] Oh, jeez.

[00:52:01] It's been years, but it was one of the things,

[00:52:06] I ain't never asked nobody for no money.

[00:52:08] And I get it in that particular situation,

[00:52:10] especially if you're trying to move on with your life

[00:52:14] and you ain't got it on hand,

[00:52:16] you gotta do what you gotta do.

[00:52:17] You gotta bite the bullet bags.

[00:52:20] But I didn't allow somebody to ask my mom

[00:52:23] for any money was when we moved into this house

[00:52:26] or we bid on this house.

[00:52:29] And I asked her if she had 10 grand.

[00:52:32] She's like, sure, yeah, all right, here, here.

[00:52:34] Hey, I'll send it over to you, here you go.

[00:52:36] I'm like, huh?

[00:52:37] Yeah, here's 10 grand.

[00:52:39] I said, you gave that up real quickly.

[00:52:42] Well, you never asked me for no money.

[00:52:44] This is the first time you asked me for shit.

[00:52:47] So here's 10 grand.

[00:52:49] Listen, I know not to ask my mom for money

[00:52:54] and I'll just leave it at that.

[00:52:56] I feel like if she had it, she would,

[00:52:58] but I just know not to ask.

[00:53:02] Not mad or sad about it,

[00:53:03] but very simple, I know not to ask.

[00:53:09] But what about being romantically involved?

[00:53:11] You don't think that person

[00:53:13] that you're romantically involved with

[00:53:14] has a role to play in your mental health?

[00:53:20] They can.

[00:53:21] I don't think it's- A role.

[00:53:22] I ain't saying that the end all be all de facto.

[00:53:24] I mean, a role, even if it's minor,

[00:53:27] even if it's in between.

[00:53:30] I do think it's a minor role.

[00:53:32] I mean, and not that my wife

[00:53:33] or any romantic partner I had

[00:53:36] played a minor role in anything,

[00:53:38] but not big enough for me to care.

[00:53:42] Yeah, I got you.

[00:53:43] You know what I'm saying?

[00:53:44] It's one of those things like,

[00:53:45] all right, all right, well, it is what it is.

[00:53:50] But not big enough for me to go,

[00:53:52] oh yeah, I care enough for you to let me bother you.

[00:53:57] Yeah, I think with both parties,

[00:54:02] male, female, whatever have you,

[00:54:04] it should definitely be a minor role.

[00:54:07] It's only when it becomes a major role

[00:54:09] where that shit starts to affect you.

[00:54:11] And even in the minor role,

[00:54:14] I mean, I won't say both affects you.

[00:54:15] One just affects you more,

[00:54:17] especially if you put them above yourself,

[00:54:18] like the major role on how your wellbeing

[00:54:21] will be for that day or that month and shit.

[00:54:24] Like, yeah man,

[00:54:29] I would say the best thing for men to do

[00:54:31] is to unfortunately keep them at their minor role.

[00:54:34] Like sometimes we get so focused

[00:54:37] on trying to build a relationship

[00:54:39] that we kind of lose like that appeal,

[00:54:42] that appeal that attracted them in the first place,

[00:54:49] you know what I mean?

[00:54:50] Yeah.

[00:54:51] And we try to be something that we think they want,

[00:54:55] we think they want us to be.

[00:54:59] And at that point you already fucking losing

[00:55:01] because now you're trying to pacify

[00:55:02] what you think she wants you to be.

[00:55:04] And if she got you, I'm not sure you got you,

[00:55:06] but if y'all got together based off of who you are,

[00:55:09] who you truly are,

[00:55:11] then it should be easy maintaining

[00:55:13] your mental health at that point.

[00:55:16] I think that plays a factor

[00:55:18] when you try to be something that you're not.

[00:55:21] Also when you're trying to like,

[00:55:23] when you're not doing the things

[00:55:24] you're supposed to do as a man,

[00:55:25] like for them to see you as a,

[00:55:28] you know, I won't say women crazy,

[00:55:30] women are-

[00:55:31] Women crazy, but I don't want to say that either.

[00:55:34] Women are, whether they want to admit it or not,

[00:55:37] they just like some of the stuff

[00:55:39] that we are supposed to inherently be and do.

[00:55:42] Like they like it when we ambitious,

[00:55:45] they like, you know,

[00:55:46] when we a man of action

[00:55:48] and very few words and shit like that.

[00:55:49] Like they like,

[00:55:52] they like that shit,

[00:55:54] whether they want to consciously think about it or not.

[00:55:58] So I feel like when you not,

[00:56:00] you're not doing those things,

[00:56:02] even if it's basic stuff,

[00:56:03] like when you're not doing those things,

[00:56:04] one, you as a man don't feel like you,

[00:56:08] you're doing what you're supposed to do.

[00:56:09] And then they feel like you're doing

[00:56:11] what you're supposed to do.

[00:56:12] So they start seeing you differently.

[00:56:14] That's just my theory.

[00:56:15] So I think all that shit plays a role in that.

[00:56:24] Because if you ain't doing what you're supposed to do,

[00:56:25] oh, they will fucking be on your head about some shit.

[00:56:30] And that's why I said,

[00:56:30] you can't have them be a major thing

[00:56:32] in your mental health.

[00:56:33] Because the minute they're on your head,

[00:56:34] you gonna feel defeated.

[00:56:37] Well, I will say my wife used to,

[00:56:40] used to bother me sometimes with shit,

[00:56:43] but then I realized,

[00:56:46] I was like,

[00:56:47] I don't even know why I'm letting it bother me.

[00:56:48] All right, we're married,

[00:56:50] shit happens and,

[00:56:54] excuse me,

[00:56:55] if you don't want to be here,

[00:56:57] you wouldn't be here.

[00:57:00] Kind of true.

[00:57:01] Don't always rely on that man.

[00:57:04] I mean, I don't know,

[00:57:05] I wouldn't rely on that as like,

[00:57:07] oh, let me save up my lunch and all that.

[00:57:10] But we'll just,

[00:57:13] I'll say this.

[00:57:15] When it comes to just my wife in general,

[00:57:23] or any relationship,

[00:57:25] they can come and go.

[00:57:32] Doesn't mean that they'll stay there,

[00:57:34] but you just kind of take it as it is.

[00:57:38] I don't understand how,

[00:57:39] why some people get very upset about shit

[00:57:42] that isn't upsetable to me.

[00:57:45] I'm like,

[00:57:47] if it's going to work,

[00:57:48] it's going to work.

[00:57:49] If it's not going to work,

[00:57:50] it ain't going to work.

[00:57:51] So there's no need for you

[00:57:52] to be stressed out about it, but.

[00:57:53] It's easy and said and done.

[00:57:55] Especially in a relationship.

[00:57:57] Hey, I've done it.

[00:57:59] Therefore.

[00:58:00] You've also been through some horrible shit

[00:58:02] that comes from women being,

[00:58:06] women being the assholes that they can be.

[00:58:10] Just like I have.

[00:58:11] So just like right now,

[00:58:12] even like my marriage right now,

[00:58:14] this shit is a cakewalk compared

[00:58:15] to some of the women I've been with.

[00:58:17] Some of that toxic ass.

[00:58:19] I don't know what I'm doing.

[00:58:20] I just feel like, or, you know.

[00:58:23] And when on actuality,

[00:58:24] you just got bored with me.

[00:58:26] You never really liked me,

[00:58:27] but you put me through the most,

[00:58:28] you know what I mean?

[00:58:29] Like that type of shit.

[00:58:30] I'm like, fuck I got time for that shit.

[00:58:33] So with me being with my wife now,

[00:58:36] and I said this shit all the time.

[00:58:37] I'm like, yo, the shit you put me through

[00:58:39] ain't nearly as worse

[00:58:41] as some of the shit I've been through.

[00:58:43] Like your attitude is not really an attitude to me.

[00:58:46] And that's why it's so easy for me to,

[00:58:48] you know, her shit,

[00:58:49] her anger will need to be real anger.

[00:58:51] Like, you know what I mean?

[00:58:52] But I'll be like,

[00:58:53] I'm always centered when it comes to that shit.

[00:58:55] Cause it was kind of like, look,

[00:58:57] you ain't been through what I've been through.

[00:58:59] So.

[00:59:01] Yeah.

[00:59:05] So, you know, I went to my boy's birthday party,

[00:59:08] birthday, January.

[00:59:09] And he didn't tell me who was going to be there.

[00:59:10] Cause you know,

[00:59:11] if I knew certain people were going to be there,

[00:59:12] I wouldn't have went.

[00:59:13] No. Okay.

[00:59:14] We'll put it that way.

[00:59:16] So I get there and I pull up

[00:59:18] and I get in the restaurant.

[00:59:19] I'm like, oh hey, what's up?

[00:59:21] And he, there's three chicks there.

[00:59:22] So when I get around,

[00:59:24] one is his coworker and one is my ex.

[00:59:27] Oh shit.

[00:59:28] I'm like, okay.

[00:59:33] All right.

[00:59:34] Well, I ain't seen you since you broke up with me

[00:59:37] all those many moons ago.

[00:59:39] And I've been married for almost four years now,

[00:59:42] which means me and you,

[00:59:44] I ain't seen her since 2018 was coming up,

[00:59:49] coming up on eight years, six years.

[00:59:53] That I ain't seen or talked to her nothing.

[00:59:57] Okay.

[00:59:59] So I'm like, all right, well,

[01:00:01] it happens.

[01:00:02] I'm already here and make the best of it.

[01:00:06] So I get there and you know,

[01:00:10] being causal as I always am supposed to be

[01:00:13] and her fiance shows up,

[01:00:19] which I didn't know she was married or getting married.

[01:00:24] It was one of the things where I found out the day

[01:00:27] I was like, oh, you're getting engaged.

[01:00:28] Oh yeah, I'm getting engaged.

[01:00:29] Congratulations.

[01:00:31] Guess who shows up?

[01:00:33] The fiance.

[01:00:38] So I'm like, oh my Lord.

[01:00:39] He's like, what's going on everyone?

[01:00:41] I'm like, what's going on?

[01:00:44] So me and him are both drinkers.

[01:00:45] This word gets real weird.

[01:00:47] We're like, well, you drink.

[01:00:49] He's like, yeah, I drink.

[01:00:50] You drink, yeah, I drink.

[01:00:52] We drank it.

[01:00:53] We started just taking shots of tequila, a mayo

[01:01:00] and I'm glad my wife wasn't there

[01:01:04] because I think her and my ex would have looked completely

[01:01:12] that me and him just all of a sudden just clicked

[01:01:14] and we just almost as if we were BFFs

[01:01:16] like nobody took a few years.

[01:01:18] But you know what I'm about to say

[01:01:19] I'm probably about to jump ahead.

[01:01:21] He's probably more or less just like you

[01:01:25] and she's marrying someone just like you.

[01:01:27] Just like me, right?

[01:01:29] I mean, armed forces yet, but yeah.

[01:01:32] Marry someone just like me who drinks a lot.

[01:01:34] And yeah, I mean, because he was like, oh yeah, man.

[01:01:41] Oh, don't worry.

[01:01:42] I know she told me you were here already.

[01:01:44] So I kind of knew what to expect,

[01:01:47] but you know, I ain't looking for no problems

[01:01:49] in the box and I get it.

[01:01:51] I ain't looking for no problems.

[01:01:52] It's been years and you married.

[01:01:55] If there was some problems,

[01:01:57] it'll be a weird thing for me to be mad about and him.

[01:02:05] Like, come on now because you are, you know what I mean?

[01:02:09] There's one thing if I was single and even if he was,

[01:02:13] even if he was, even if he was single,

[01:02:16] is your girl, your girl simple.

[01:02:20] Like if you have to get mad at that,

[01:02:22] then I don't think you should be getting married.

[01:02:24] Yeah, somewhere deep down either you're not secure

[01:02:27] about the situation and you shouldn't continue

[01:02:29] this relationship or you're not positive about her.

[01:02:33] You have some doubts

[01:02:34] and you should not continue the relationship.

[01:02:35] Oh yeah, no, I don't think he,

[01:02:37] I don't think he would have been.

[01:02:39] This was hypothetical.

[01:02:40] I'm just saying in general, like if I was single

[01:02:42] and I found out like,

[01:02:44] then maybe I might've felt some type of way.

[01:02:47] But even then I'm like, would I?

[01:02:52] Yeah, I thought about it, I was like,

[01:02:53] I probably wouldn't.

[01:02:54] Nah, I wouldn't.

[01:02:56] And I tell you my girl home,

[01:02:57] fuck her extra crazy that night.

[01:03:00] Just because, if I only want you to think

[01:03:04] or have a idea that leads to another idea,

[01:03:07] no, I fucked too crazy.

[01:03:10] And this is where you at.

[01:03:15] This is where you at.

[01:03:18] That is, that's something though.

[01:03:20] How long was you there for?

[01:03:22] I was there to end it.

[01:03:26] Me and him kind of stood around and talked,

[01:03:28] took another shot or so.

[01:03:32] Chop it up real quick.

[01:03:35] Like it wasn't, like I said,

[01:03:36] it wasn't anything where it was like,

[01:03:37] oh man, we, you know, it's like,

[01:03:42] it wasn't that bad.

[01:03:43] I was like, yeah, you know,

[01:03:44] me and, you know, me and we dated back in the day,

[01:03:47] but you know, I'm happy that, you know,

[01:03:49] you got it together, you got good.

[01:03:51] He's like, oh yeah, no, we,

[01:03:54] you know, we good.

[01:03:55] You know, I don't, you know,

[01:03:57] there's no hard feelings and that was like,

[01:04:00] there's not been no hard feelings.

[01:04:00] Like me and her, we been done.

[01:04:03] Shit happens.

[01:04:06] He's like, yeah, nah, yeah, I get it, but I'm, you know,

[01:04:09] you know, man, but yeah, now we got a drink.

[01:04:11] And I was like, yeah, yeah, no, it's cool.

[01:04:13] Like we exchanged numbers.

[01:04:15] That was the weird part, exchanging numbers.

[01:04:18] You're doing so much.

[01:04:19] What you exchanging numbers for?

[01:04:21] Hey man.

[01:04:23] Sometimes you just, you know.

[01:04:24] No, don't, I mean, yeah, you was probably tipsy.

[01:04:28] Don't ever call that man.

[01:04:31] Come on man, like come on now.

[01:04:33] It's a little weird.

[01:04:34] Now that's weird.

[01:04:35] That was weird, right?

[01:04:36] Yeah.

[01:04:38] Weird as shit.

[01:04:40] No, never.

[01:04:42] Don't ever.

[01:04:44] But,

[01:04:50] I don't know man, but yeah man,

[01:04:52] roles in a relationship,

[01:04:54] do relationships play a role

[01:04:57] in a man's mental health and wellbeing?

[01:05:01] I think for them,

[01:05:02] I feel like guys have a little bit,

[01:05:05] not cleaner relationships,

[01:05:08] but they, there's aren't as complicated as

[01:05:14] as I find women is to be.

[01:05:16] Yeah, cause we straight to the point.

[01:05:18] Women, they like to read in between the lines

[01:05:21] of everything.

[01:05:22] Men kind of are able to discern when to read in the line.

[01:05:26] Sometimes read in between the lines.

[01:05:30] I don't only say sometimes is because, you know,

[01:05:33] there's a gang that was out here that missed,

[01:05:36] I was talking to my wife about this yesterday.

[01:05:38] There's a gang that missed the hints

[01:05:40] of like a woman really digging us and shit like that.

[01:05:43] And I was telling my wife,

[01:05:44] I was like, yo, I didn't talk myself in the pussy

[01:05:48] and out of pussy in the same conversation.

[01:05:52] And then back into it, like,

[01:05:53] you just, I was like,

[01:05:54] and she's like, what do you mean?

[01:05:55] What was you saying?

[01:05:56] I was like, no, it wasn't like,

[01:05:57] I was saying something crazy.

[01:05:59] It's just more or less like,

[01:06:00] you're not saying the thing that she will want you

[01:06:02] to say or want to hear.

[01:06:05] You might say, you might not like Beyonce

[01:06:08] and you might come out front center

[01:06:11] and say like when y'all having this conversation,

[01:06:12] be like, oh, you think she trash.

[01:06:14] But what your answer should have been was,

[01:06:16] yo, Beyonce is the goat man.

[01:06:18] Nobody else doing it like her.

[01:06:19] You give an unbiased answer.

[01:06:21] You kind of go, I'm saying,

[01:06:22] I would be giving her examples like that

[01:06:25] of how I was like,

[01:06:26] I was like, I've done that so many times

[01:06:28] learning how to talk to women,

[01:06:29] like talking myself in and out, in and out.

[01:06:33] I was like, it was a learning experience.

[01:06:36] That's an essence of what it really is.

[01:06:37] You talk yourself in and out of pussy sometimes.

[01:06:41] Yo, sometimes when you married, you do that shit too.

[01:06:43] Yeah, it was something.

[01:06:47] It's not even talking yourself in and out of pussy.

[01:06:49] It's more or less like your actions

[01:06:52] could be talking your ass out of pussy for a while.

[01:06:55] I think sometimes, yeah,

[01:06:59] you kind of talk yourself in and out of it

[01:07:01] only because let's say you get into an argument

[01:07:04] where you're like, all right, pussy's on the line

[01:07:07] and then it's time to get the pussy.

[01:07:10] Next thing you know,

[01:07:12] you done talked yourself out the pussy

[01:07:13] by thinking you making a joke.

[01:07:19] You know, I just made a joke, whatever.

[01:07:22] I ain't like your joke.

[01:07:24] All right, well, my bad.

[01:07:26] You still wanna have sex?

[01:07:27] No.

[01:07:29] What are you doing?

[01:07:30] I told my wife-

[01:07:31] You did that the wrong way.

[01:07:31] Y'all say you still wanna have sex, man.

[01:07:34] I told my wife, I said,

[01:07:35] you just didn't wanna have sex.

[01:07:36] Like if you didn't wanna have sex,

[01:07:37] that's all you had to say.

[01:07:38] Did you try to guilt her?

[01:07:42] I didn't try to guilt her.

[01:07:43] I mean, I told her what it was.

[01:07:45] Like, put it this way.

[01:07:49] When she starts saying, oh, I'm tired, I'm tired,

[01:07:51] I'm tired and then it's time to do it.

[01:07:54] All of a sudden,

[01:07:55] now you're trying to find an argument with me?

[01:07:56] Like, come on.

[01:07:57] Like what are you trying to argue me about?

[01:08:05] I can't say I feel you in that one,

[01:08:06] but I get what you're saying.

[01:08:08] I mean, I've had that happen.

[01:08:09] I'm like, are you sure that's you?

[01:08:11] Okay, cool.

[01:08:12] Well, now you're trying to pressure me as well.

[01:08:14] No?

[01:08:15] Yes.

[01:08:16] I'm gonna do it.

[01:08:17] Yes, I am.

[01:08:19] I ain't gonna force you,

[01:08:20] but I'm a damn sure pressuring you.

[01:08:23] Not gonna force you,

[01:08:24] but I'm gonna press you.

[01:08:25] Like, come on now.

[01:08:28] Never force.

[01:08:29] A little bit of pressure.

[01:08:32] The crazy thing is like pressure

[01:08:34] and then you will hear shit like,

[01:08:36] and this is totally left field,

[01:08:38] but when I said that word

[01:08:39] and maybe think about this thing I was saying,

[01:08:41] it was like men of,

[01:08:43] there's a girl saying men don't,

[01:08:45] men taking no for answers now.

[01:08:47] They don't really pursue you.

[01:08:48] I was like, yeah, I gotta take no for answer,

[01:08:51] motherfucker.

[01:08:52] It's no.

[01:08:52] Who playing games with you?

[01:08:56] Who was fucking playing games with you?

[01:08:58] Not in this day and age.

[01:09:00] Like, come on now.

[01:09:01] I'm like, I'm gonna see

[01:09:03] one old TV show

[01:09:05] that they didn't take no.

[01:09:09] I don't get it.

[01:09:10] Like, I saw a meme where the chick was like,

[01:09:14] oh yeah, you know,

[01:09:15] I went over there with this guy and it went great

[01:09:17] and he invited me back over,

[01:09:19] but I told him I wasn't going to,

[01:09:20] that we weren't,

[01:09:21] I wasn't having sex with him.

[01:09:23] And so we laid there and we cuddled the whole time

[01:09:25] and she was mad.

[01:09:27] She said, well, you know,

[01:09:28] I think I'm the problem

[01:09:30] because I just wanted him to try.

[01:09:32] I said, try for what?

[01:09:33] Just for you to turn me down when you already,

[01:09:35] I've been in situations,

[01:09:36] that's some toxic,

[01:09:37] that's what I'm saying.

[01:09:38] Like I've been in situations,

[01:09:40] I've been in relationships like that

[01:09:41] and I'm like,

[01:09:42] so I gotta respect you as a woman

[01:09:44] and I have to respect what you say.

[01:09:46] You tell me no to some things or not,

[01:09:49] you don't want things this way,

[01:09:51] but just for you to be like,

[01:09:52] well, you didn't even try.

[01:09:54] And I'm like, what the fuck am I trying?

[01:09:56] I'm respecting you.

[01:09:58] Now I could disrespect you and treat you

[01:10:00] however I think you should be treated

[01:10:02] and do whatever the fuck I wanna do.

[01:10:03] That's the type of relationship you want,

[01:10:05] I don't wanna hear you say shit else.

[01:10:07] I've been in those situations.

[01:10:10] They don't know what they want

[01:10:11] and that shit don't last long with me

[01:10:13] because I just get annoyed.

[01:10:15] I get annoyed more than anything.

[01:10:16] That whole thing of annoying me,

[01:10:17] I was like, are you serious?

[01:10:19] I saw that and I was like,

[01:10:20] fuck that bitch.

[01:10:24] That shit is mad annoying.

[01:10:26] That's just like a,

[01:10:27] you'll never hear a guy be like,

[01:10:29] yo, you just never hear a guy say that.

[01:10:33] That guy be like,

[01:10:34] yo, can you,

[01:10:37] yeah, you suck my dick.

[01:10:39] It's literally just that,

[01:10:39] like, yo, that's what you go here,

[01:10:41] like hey, what they want is what they want

[01:10:45] and that's on,

[01:10:46] I was talking to you and one of my other homies,

[01:10:48] women don't wanna be treated like hoes

[01:10:50] until it's time to be treated like a hoe.

[01:10:53] But they really want you to get to the point

[01:10:55] where they can be treated like a hoe.

[01:10:57] In the bedrooms is what I'm talking about

[01:10:58] and it's just kinda like,

[01:10:59] yo, you can't have it both ways

[01:11:01] and if it is,

[01:11:02] I'm talking about in the bedroom

[01:11:05] and there's a delicate balance with that.

[01:11:07] It's a dance with that.

[01:11:08] Like it has to be some give and take.

[01:11:10] You already coming back to my place, right?

[01:11:13] It's on the first date.

[01:11:15] At the end of the day,

[01:11:16] I'm already gonna think you a hoe anyway.

[01:11:18] You might as well be.

[01:11:19] No, I'm not gonna think that, no.

[01:11:21] I'm not gonna think you a hoe.

[01:11:23] I mean, I already,

[01:11:24] I think.

[01:11:26] In that situation with that girl was,

[01:11:28] that woman was expecting for him to

[01:11:31] put his dick out and put it on her butt.

[01:11:34] That's what she was expecting.

[01:11:36] Right.

[01:11:37] But it's kinda like,

[01:11:37] why I gotta do all that?

[01:11:39] Well, no, she said he codled with her

[01:11:41] and all that other shit,

[01:11:43] but he ain't try to fuck her

[01:11:45] and she got bothered.

[01:11:47] It is what it is.

[01:11:49] You mean, it don't.

[01:11:50] He probably coddled with her

[01:11:51] and smelt her hair

[01:11:53] and was like, damn her tracks old.

[01:11:55] I can't do this.

[01:11:57] Look, and she probably was like,

[01:11:58] I hope he tries so I can tell him no.

[01:12:00] But he wouldn't know.

[01:12:01] Yeah, I don't know why I got something for that.

[01:12:04] What?

[01:12:07] I listen, I'm glad I'm not out there like that

[01:12:10] because if that was the case,

[01:12:11] like we can go upstairs and cuddle.

[01:12:14] I'm not a bladgen to that.

[01:12:16] I will be straightforward for him.

[01:12:17] Like, look, I really find you attractive.

[01:12:20] I'm not saying that we have to have sex

[01:12:22] on the first night,

[01:12:23] but I don't want to create a situation for myself

[01:12:28] where my dick is rock hard

[01:12:30] and nothing's gonna happen.

[01:12:31] Just gonna frustrate me for the rest of the night.

[01:12:34] So this is where I kiss you.

[01:12:37] Good night.

[01:12:38] And we go our separate ways.

[01:12:41] Simple as that.

[01:12:42] Yeah.

[01:12:43] There's no way I'm sitting with a rock hard ass dick.

[01:12:46] You know what I just fell about?

[01:12:48] You ain't got no more liquor?

[01:12:50] No, this shot glass is smaller than this shot glass.

[01:12:57] This shot glass is an ounce and a half

[01:12:59] or 1.6 ounces.

[01:13:02] This one is only an ounce.

[01:13:06] Wow, that's crazy.

[01:13:09] On that note, y'all,

[01:13:15] relationships play a role in mental health.

[01:13:17] It can be improved by not taking those rules.

[01:13:22] Oh, I had a story too.

[01:13:23] Damn.

[01:13:24] Whatever, man.

[01:13:25] Not taking those rules.

[01:13:26] I did, I did.

[01:13:27] Oh, damn, all right.

[01:13:28] I guess I gotta hold it for the next one.

[01:13:30] You definitely do.

[01:13:31] Oh, no, it's a quick one.

[01:13:32] Not taking those rules.

[01:13:33] It's a quick one, it's a quick one.

[01:13:34] It's a quick one, it's a quick one.

[01:13:35] It's a quick one, okay.

[01:13:36] So I was chilling at the bar, right?

[01:13:39] The chick who was sitting next to me was like,

[01:13:44] she says she thinks she's crazy.

[01:13:45] I said, why would you think that?

[01:13:47] She crazy.

[01:13:47] If you think she crazy, she crazy.

[01:13:49] She was like, because I broke a windshield the other day.

[01:13:54] I was like, wait, you broke a windshield?

[01:13:55] She punched it.

[01:13:56] I said, you hit it with a bat?

[01:13:58] She's like, no.

[01:13:59] So I was standing on the hood of my ex's car

[01:14:03] and I jumped back and I broke his windshield.

[01:14:08] And I was like, you all have 110 pounds.

[01:14:14] It don't take that much.

[01:14:16] How hard did you think?

[01:14:17] I was like, so first off, why were you on the car?

[01:14:21] And I said, don't even answer that.

[01:14:22] Obviously you're on the car because he tall as fuck

[01:14:25] and you're trying to be bigger.

[01:14:28] She was like, yeah, and he came to my house,

[01:14:30] he pulled up.

[01:14:31] I said, so why'd you come outside?

[01:14:33] I don't know.

[01:14:34] I just went outside.

[01:14:36] I was like, come on.

[01:14:38] So not only because you avoided having pain this year

[01:14:41] because obviously you paid for breaking his windshield,

[01:14:45] you didn't have to go outside.

[01:14:47] You didn't have to answer the phone.

[01:14:49] But you still went outside

[01:14:51] and you got in the car with him and you got mad.

[01:14:53] I said, so did you at least get fucked out of all

[01:14:56] for this?

[01:14:57] She was like, nope, I didn't even get no dick.

[01:14:59] I said.

[01:15:00] See what I'm saying?

[01:15:01] You see how relationships with people

[01:15:03] play a role in mental health.

[01:15:05] Now she thinks you crazy.

[01:15:07] She ain't get no dick.

[01:15:10] And now she got paid for a windshield.

[01:15:12] All that shit is tragic.

[01:15:14] Like didn't get no dick from it.

[01:15:17] Like come on, come on.

[01:15:21] That people do better in your relationships.

[01:15:23] They do better in your relationships.

[01:15:25] Stop making niggas crazy.

[01:15:30] We thank everybody for tuning in.

[01:15:34] Thank everybody for tuning in.

[01:15:36] We found the title to that episode.

[01:15:38] That's not gonna work.

[01:15:39] Stop making niggas crazy.