What advice would you give to someone who is interested in starting their personal development journey?
Short Answer: Get a prostate exam and start a relationship with your subordinate
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[00:00:00] I've had my prostate checked and I already know how uncomfortable that is.
[00:00:06] And it's just like, because it's not like they even like, it's no glamorous way to make it like not awkward.
[00:00:14] It's just like, all right, bend over and don't breathe hard.
[00:00:19] Don't breathe hard?
[00:00:21] Oh, no.
[00:00:23] Like the last time I had my prostate checked, the guy was like, drop your trousers and look out the window.
[00:00:29] What?
[00:00:31] Yo, I can't do, yo, out the window.
[00:00:35] Why is there a window?
[00:00:37] Why is there a window?
[00:00:39] Why is there a window?
[00:00:41] I was just like, oh, that's how I pulled up my shirt.
[00:00:46] I'm like, nah, I'm not doing this today.
[00:00:48] I'm not doing it here.
[00:00:50] What's funny here is I was like trying to act like I didn't know what trousers meant.
[00:00:55] I was like, I'm sorry, excuse me.
[00:00:57] Don't fuck with the trousers, sir.
[00:00:59] He's like, you're paying, sir.
[00:01:02] You're paying.
[00:01:03] I was like, oh, okay, just face the window, put your hands on the windowsill and loosen up.
[00:01:08] Of course I'll come on.
[00:01:09] No, no, no, you're playing with me.
[00:01:11] Everybody wants to know that the According To Wes podcast has always got D-Law.
[00:01:16] You got D-Law, but then we'll set it along and be filled.
[00:01:23] Fumbling with his equipment, pause.
[00:01:26] Definitely fumbling with it.
[00:01:31] Shout out to Cameramase once again.
[00:01:34] Cameramase got the best pauses, man.
[00:01:38] I watched some of this up to like, wow.
[00:01:40] But I'm gonna be 40 plus and I can like how we act.
[00:01:45] Pretty much.
[00:01:48] Pretty much.
[00:01:51] Man, that's whole for me yet.
[00:01:54] Hey, man.
[00:01:56] Hey, Cameramase of our lesbians and this, you know.
[00:02:01] Fuck yeah.
[00:02:02] Hey, hey.
[00:02:04] Yeah.
[00:02:06] This is gonna have to work.
[00:02:08] All right.
[00:02:10] Simply fumbling with this thing.
[00:02:13] I just need to stay in that seat.
[00:02:16] All right, can you hear me clearly?
[00:02:18] I can hear you clearly.
[00:02:20] I'm currently cooking salmon.
[00:02:23] Yeah.
[00:02:27] Yeah, all right.
[00:02:30] Sorry for saying that.
[00:02:32] I mean, like not what type but how are you preparing it?
[00:02:36] Um, everything, you know.
[00:02:39] Yo, yo, that's what we do too.
[00:02:42] Like turn on the oven as a wrap.
[00:02:45] I'm gonna get some, I'm gonna start getting hot outside.
[00:02:47] Like air fryer all the fucking way, man.
[00:02:50] Oh yeah, I mean, our oven's an air fryer.
[00:02:53] So I just threw air fryer in there.
[00:02:55] It was frozen still because our garbage disposal
[00:02:58] currently is leaking currently.
[00:03:01] Oh, you changed the seal?
[00:03:05] So while they were doing the countertops,
[00:03:09] you know, they had to do the kitchen part.
[00:03:11] Mm-hmm.
[00:03:13] And they couldn't get the sinkest of it.
[00:03:15] I mean, I would say fuck this, I was resummoning it.
[00:03:20] Yo, she said that though.
[00:03:23] It's something along those lines.
[00:03:26] And, um, yeah, we, um, when they took the sink off
[00:03:32] or they took the garbage disposal for whatever,
[00:03:35] they, um, I'm assuming they took the garbage disposal off.
[00:03:40] I don't know, they might have,
[00:03:42] but in putting it back on,
[00:03:44] I don't think they put it back on because I'm,
[00:03:46] I was looking at it and you can see there's like a,
[00:03:49] that much space. Yeah, that much gap.
[00:03:52] So I'm like, I'm pretty sure that's not supposed to be there.
[00:03:56] I'm pretty sure it's supposed to be kind of flush on it.
[00:04:00] Yeah.
[00:04:01] You do gotta get some new putty to put in there or whatever.
[00:04:04] Anytime you take it off.
[00:04:09] So, but if they swap with your countertiles,
[00:04:12] why would they change your garbage disposal?
[00:04:14] Well, I don't know why they would take it off.
[00:04:19] But it, whatever they did, they, um, it was leaving.
[00:04:26] And how do, how the pieces were hidden there last time as far as the nails being in there aren't in there like they used to be.
[00:04:32] It's one is like, it looks like it's almost all the way down and I'm like,
[00:04:36] you didn't even put it on it, right? So, and then when I try to go in there,
[00:04:39] like at least try to see if I can tricks it.
[00:04:43] Can't do it because piece of it is in all the way on there where it's like,
[00:04:48] it's, it's the best. So I thought I was going to use call something to come back out.
[00:04:54] I mean, I would hate to have to call, you know,
[00:04:57] I hate to have to call a plumber or somebody else because I'm gonna be like,
[00:05:01] yeah, I'm gonna have to take that out your feet brother.
[00:05:03] Yeah.
[00:05:04] I'm gonna get 75 out. I mean, you 75 hours.
[00:05:07] Yeah.
[00:05:08] All the people who come out and you know, the homeowner insurance for the appliance.
[00:05:14] They come and fix that when they then look them out.
[00:05:17] Yeah. One thing of a one thing I've learned about like getting stuff done to your house,
[00:05:23] like having someone like contractors come in and do stuff.
[00:05:29] One, you will want them to hold to manage your household care.
[00:05:36] And even if they try their hardest to do that, they never really quite do it the way you want them to do it.
[00:05:41] So that always sucks.
[00:05:42] Right.
[00:05:43] And number two, you always have expectations of how things are supposed to be.
[00:05:48] And it's really met.
[00:05:50] Sometimes in your head is like, like, damn near 110,000% perfection you expecting.
[00:05:59] And if you get 100, you like, yo, what the fuck is this?
[00:06:03] That's how it was with every like when I was going to stop when I was getting people to do stuff to this also that's how it was every step of the way.
[00:06:09] I'm like, yeah, this looks nice, but they could have did this and it used to like a dick for saying like, yo, could you do this?
[00:06:15] Like, you don't want to go be, you know, be that type of homeowner behind somebody telling them what they should and shouldn't do.
[00:06:22] That shit was nerve wracking for me.
[00:06:24] Right.
[00:06:26] I really hope you're playing.
[00:06:29] You better be.
[00:06:31] And I don't know what to tell you.
[00:06:34] No, no.
[00:06:35] My intro.
[00:06:39] You know, you shoot today.
[00:06:42] Right now.
[00:06:44] He we.
[00:06:47] Tell you.
[00:06:51] That's where we're at now with that.
[00:06:54] So yeah, I just had the counters and the jacket, the stuff does it the same as to.
[00:07:01] So, so the guy wanted to instead of painting them, the guy wanted to stay in them.
[00:07:07] So this is the same.
[00:07:08] What the cabinet?
[00:07:10] So we got the cabinets and counters done.
[00:07:12] Okay.
[00:07:13] Yes, they didn't.
[00:07:14] Yeah, staying in this part of your best bet.
[00:07:16] Yeah, because he was like, because there are other contents.
[00:07:18] It'll be better to paint them.
[00:07:20] He said it'd be better to stay in the job one way.
[00:07:24] I don't think we want to wait counters.
[00:07:27] No, I'm talking about the cabinets.
[00:07:28] You said you said cabinets.
[00:07:30] Yeah, the cabinets.
[00:07:31] Now we just we want to see she wanted a different color or she wanted them just to look different.
[00:07:36] That's right.
[00:07:37] She ended up staying in them.
[00:07:39] And then we'll call y'all saying.
[00:07:42] Like a oak.
[00:07:45] I've been kind of, I can't I've been kind of falling in love with it.
[00:07:49] My mind right now I went to well, I didn't have much of cabinets to stay in my cabinets was from the 50s and I got this fucking house.
[00:07:57] So it was a total good.
[00:08:00] But I've been falling in love with the darker wood or whatever.
[00:08:04] I even seen like some some stains that was kind of like a ash gray that I might would have wanted to do.
[00:08:11] Like if I had like all wood cabinet boxes or whatever for the cabinets, but like I said my shit was from like the 50s and it wasn't it didn't even look like it wasn't wood.
[00:08:20] It was when you plastic it was like some type of composite.
[00:08:24] Like wood and something that was mixed. I don't know what the fuck it was when I first got the house but right.
[00:08:29] You know we back at
[00:08:34] I want to say we back at Kobe prices with shit but it's just inflation now is more or less like
[00:08:39] people ain't trying to gouge you is just that this is how much it costs now.
[00:08:44] It's just like crazy.
[00:08:46] I'm not.
[00:08:47] It doesn't really is come just like, like even I remember I remember back when we were saying the eggs were dick sucking prices at that time it was like $4.
[00:08:55] Yo, yo, yo, you know what's great?
[00:08:58] Yes, we were talking about that.
[00:09:00] I just went grocery shopping this morning and did even better.
[00:09:03] I spent $4 for fucking up to doesn't it.
[00:09:06] I mean $4 a piece, like a two cartons of eggs.
[00:09:09] I'm like now that you say that I'm like I just spent $4 fucking dollars and when like three years ago it was like my dollars and some change.
[00:09:15] Yeah, well you know, because I got some I got jumbo age for about 250 to 60.
[00:09:26] And for the walk for a while they were $1 99.
[00:09:31] So I was like all right but the price went like I was like damn the price went up so you know I'm like, and like my wife she'll get the large days how much you pay for your day both to both to 50 maybe $3 or so.
[00:09:43] So over here is not super bad.
[00:09:46] I mean also feel like because I'm fucking close to the city.
[00:09:49] Yeah, that's some bullshit.
[00:09:51] I need to be out for this money.
[00:09:54] And I go out to trade the Joe's and Howard County to get my age the jumbo age and they were cheap they're cheaper than going to the grocery store.
[00:10:03] But it's weird because Trader Joe's large eggs are more expensive than their jumbo eggs.
[00:10:15] So that's why every time I come home with some eggs, my wife's like oh these are big.
[00:10:22] I'm like yeah they were cheaper than the large eggs but I guess because large eggs are your regular size that you would get like everyone gets large eggs.
[00:10:30] The price on jumbos will be lower.
[00:10:33] Supplying demand based basic economy.
[00:10:39] It was not a high supply for the demand for prices are lower because you might have them in bulk.
[00:10:44] Oh, I get rid of them because of you know.
[00:10:47] Oh yeah.
[00:10:48] Yeah, yeah, yeah.
[00:10:49] You can't bull know those jumble eggs ain't from chickens.
[00:10:54] You know from Bruce's or Bruce's can't lay eggs.
[00:10:57] There you go.
[00:11:00] There you go.
[00:11:01] This is me over here looking at me like you got me.
[00:11:05] I'm here some of my bitch.
[00:11:09] You got me the dumbest sum of my bitch right here.
[00:11:13] Bruce's lays.
[00:11:15] The look she gave me was like, and I married to her.
[00:11:19] I thought you was going to joke for something else because you know how the world is today.
[00:11:24] That's what I thought you'd rather lean into.
[00:11:26] Please no.
[00:11:29] I was like, you're supposed to edit it.
[00:11:32] Hey look, you told me to outlube and I tried to kiss her like I was.
[00:11:35] That wasn't that.
[00:11:36] What's got to happen?
[00:11:39] I tried to kiss like oh damn I missed that.
[00:11:42] I fucked it all the way up.
[00:11:44] Oh man.
[00:11:46] Yeah man, it is expensive.
[00:11:51] I am.
[00:11:54] Yeah, it's just expensive.
[00:11:58] Man.
[00:12:00] So I'm going to ask you a question.
[00:12:02] I'm going to ask you a question.
[00:12:03] I know it's going to be all topic but.
[00:12:05] RP doger.
[00:12:06] RP doger.
[00:12:08] Was not the question.
[00:12:10] Okay.
[00:12:11] That was not the question but RP to the juice.
[00:12:15] Yeah man.
[00:12:17] Yeah, that's true.
[00:12:19] So RP puts, it prevents cancer.
[00:12:23] So this is going to be a public service announcement.
[00:12:26] Make sure you get your process processed.
[00:12:28] Yeah.
[00:12:29] Is one of actually slowest growing cancer.
[00:12:32] Oh you just reminded me of something that I wanted to send.
[00:12:35] To you.
[00:12:36] I wanted to send to you.
[00:12:38] I was like yo, I'm gonna send you some watching this shit with your wife and tell me if that shit ain't funny
[00:12:43] But also bring you and it was something dealing with that. So long story short
[00:12:49] I'ma still send it to you. I gotta find it because it's been several weeks and now I gotta find what episode it was
[00:12:54] I listened to a podcast
[00:12:56] My bad to cut you off. It's just
[00:12:59] podcast
[00:13:03] How they wanted to get prostate exams or whatever right
[00:13:07] And it was just talking about the experience and one guy was like, you know
[00:13:16] He went in there to get a consultate basically it was like how the fuck you going to get a consultation
[00:13:21] They end up sticking their thing in your butt. He was like, I thought this was a he said they said it was a part of the
[00:13:26] Consultation it was like no a prostate exam was the part of the consultation
[00:13:31] I mean, I'm sorry a prostate exam is a prostate exam the consultation should not
[00:13:43] Was telling the Howard wasn't really he was given the explanation how it wasn't really that and
[00:13:48] Something something something and he was like but nah his was way worse because his was definitely such
[00:13:54] Basically the other guy he went in it was definitely a prostate exam. It was
[00:14:00] Students there to be there as well to kind of see what was going on. So he was like
[00:14:05] The doctor I'm not doing it justice because y'all got to hear it and see them interact
[00:14:11] But the doctor went in with his fingers and checked around and right after
[00:14:15] The doctor pulled his finger out the student just went in what I was asking
[00:14:23] They was like, you know guys or whatever that was like you let somebody run a train
[00:14:29] I
[00:14:34] Just stuck the finger in there
[00:14:45] The guy had long nails he's
[00:14:53] Did he go listen he going with a glove
[00:14:55] Yeah, he said he went in with a glove but it wasn't really his nails was too long. I was just like, you know, yeah
[00:15:01] So of course guys being
[00:15:05] Did the guy sue no
[00:15:11] But you see my face
[00:15:14] I've had my prostate check and I already know how uncomfortable that is it's just like
[00:15:22] Because it's not like they even like it's no glamorous way to make it like not awkward. It's just like alright bend over and
[00:15:32] Don't breathe hard
[00:15:38] Like what like the last time I had my prostate check the guy was like drop your trousers and look out the window
[00:15:51] I
[00:16:00] Like now I'm not doing this today. I'm not doing it here
[00:16:04] I was like trying to act like I didn't know what trousers meant
[00:16:15] He's like your pants sir your pants
[00:16:18] Just face the window
[00:16:32] He said no medical bed or something
[00:16:36] He was like
[00:16:41] And relaxed and
[00:16:44] Breathe normal
[00:16:47] Basement their home practice was it because
[00:16:58] My oh my this is the most this is the weirdest most opposite cuz after they're done and they then looped their hand up so much
[00:17:05] They gave you like one little
[00:17:08] Little tissues like are you can wipe yourself off?
[00:17:17] My self
[00:17:22] Had that happen it's not even a duty tissue. It is like one that you blow your nose with
[00:17:31] I've had my prostate checked three times
[00:17:36] But you're supposed to get a start at 40, but you
[00:17:40] I have process so the most recent time I had process sizes and that was in my 30s
[00:17:45] Actually
[00:17:48] Two months before I met my wife
[00:17:51] So that was at about 37
[00:17:54] The time before that that I had got my part of my prostate checked
[00:18:00] It was for something else. I was having um
[00:18:05] I was having real bad stomach pains
[00:18:09] and
[00:18:11] It was weird I didn't understand why they need to check my prostate, but they had a check my prostate
[00:18:16] And I don't even know they were checking my prostate
[00:18:18] I think it was just really trying to put their finger up my ass and check something else
[00:18:25] In the process of it they check my prostate that was when I was like in my mid to late 20s and
[00:18:31] Then the very first time
[00:18:33] What it was before 20. Yeah, so the very first time that I had my prostate check I was a teenager
[00:18:39] um because I was um
[00:18:45] My I had like I was having like really when I say really bad something like I wouldn't I couldn't eat
[00:18:51] I couldn't do nothing. Like I just had stomach pains. It was like what they just trying to they were just trying to figure out
[00:18:55] What was going on? Yeah, they were just trying to figure out what was going on
[00:18:58] So that was that was the very first time when I was
[00:19:01] 14
[00:19:03] 14 years old so I've had a scale where you at 14 for that
[00:19:07] um
[00:19:09] I didn't know what was going on until they told me getting the they laid me on it
[00:19:12] They told me they were telling me get in the fetal position put my
[00:19:17] So why didn't they tell you that and you had to look out the window
[00:19:24] I guess the guy was like hey look man look you gotta do this later on so there you go
[00:19:28] Just bend over look out the window and put my finger up
[00:19:31] Yeah, that motherfucker was just tired of thinking his finger and dudes butts that day. He was like I ain't got time for this shit
[00:19:36] Oh
[00:19:45] You're scaring me you're scaring me you're scaring me you're scaring me
[00:19:55] It's more
[00:19:58] I want to say embarrassing
[00:20:01] It is embarrassing it's more embarrassing way especially if you don't know what's coming
[00:20:08] Listen
[00:20:10] I hear the same thing from women
[00:20:12] And then going to the gynecologist. I dated is always a guy and they just all up in there
[00:20:19] It feels weird out the world and it hurts
[00:20:23] My first two prostate checks with women
[00:20:27] It wasn't that bad my last one was with a old white guy
[00:20:38] I don't know what's worse the fact that it's happening was
[00:20:43] Oh man
[00:20:45] You know what you know, it was crazy. Oh not to say this happened. You're not saying it did
[00:20:49] How wild would it be for your mental a person's mental a guy's mental about yours a woman urologist, right?
[00:20:56] That's what we do that right urologist a woman urologist
[00:20:59] You going is a grown man
[00:21:02] You know, she kind of hot
[00:21:04] She does that and she gets you excited. How crazy is that for a man for that to happen? It's like I'm not
[00:21:11] You know, you don't know that me
[00:21:14] You do know it's not uncommon that um
[00:21:19] From what I heard because this never happened for me. I have I've never had that happen to me
[00:21:24] They said it's not uncommon for when you get your prostate check for you to ejaculate. Yeah, I heard that too
[00:21:31] Like I was like what and so, you know in my head when this guy's about to touch my prostate. I'm like
[00:21:37] Hey, you know what that mean? You just got pregame before you go there
[00:21:42] You'll get like three of them bitches off
[00:21:46] So no mistake happens. So it's no
[00:21:49] No situation where you think you fucking getting inside my head and
[00:21:54] It ain't
[00:22:11] As everyone should know please get your prostate check
[00:22:14] Uh sooner rather than later people get prostate cancer a lot earlier than 40 nowadays
[00:22:20] Yeah, but it is a very slow growing cancer and breast cancer. Yes indeed
[00:22:26] It is a very slow growing cancer
[00:22:28] So it can go undetected for years and by the time you actually get detected where you actually get symptoms
[00:22:34] You are
[00:22:35] You're full blown into it. So they either remove your prostate or hopefully hasn't gone nowhere. So
[00:22:41] You get it checked out frequently. That's you know
[00:22:45] But I heard they are trying to do non-invasive ways of your prostate check by doing now your ps a which is your prostate count of
[00:22:52] How much you know where it's working at and they like measured in there
[00:22:56] So there are a dead error dead. So I think they've been trying to move to more of a non-invasive way
[00:23:03] Because I would love to have a less
[00:23:06] Non-of-it a more non-invasive way where you ain't got put your finger in my ass. And it's not like they go one finger
[00:23:11] They go two. Oh gosh, my two fingers in your ass
[00:23:19] So here was my question for you completely
[00:23:28] Would you
[00:23:30] sleep with your coworker
[00:23:33] If you were an air supervisor, well, I guess when you sleep with your support
[00:23:37] I like money too much money over girls
[00:23:41] No money over pussy. So no
[00:23:45] That's just me. No the answer is no
[00:23:48] Well, I think about it if I was you know, I'm not married and shit like that. Hell yeah, think about it all the time
[00:23:53] But what I actually act on it. No
[00:23:56] Well
[00:23:57] Can I have a story for you?
[00:24:00] Oh, shit
[00:24:02] Who the fuck does this then after me too? Who does this?
[00:24:07] I don't know who does this
[00:24:10] It baffles my mind too
[00:24:13] of how it happens
[00:24:15] I get that it happens especially if you
[00:24:19] You have your boundaries at work, but you're not you know, you do you don't have those same boundaries outside of work. I'm just like
[00:24:26] Yeah, unless you
[00:24:30] Unless you don't longer work. There's no reason to be a single way anyone who you supervise
[00:24:35] You know, because you know
[00:24:37] Good
[00:24:40] But
[00:24:41] Even if even if it's she doesn't even if it's a situation even if it's a situation where the subordinate does not
[00:24:49] Uh, like it's all good. Like they ain't retaliating or anything like that. There's a big good word gets out
[00:24:53] It's always gonna be that
[00:24:55] Oh, they only
[00:24:57] Here because they was you know second deck or you know, whatever have you like
[00:25:02] I'm pretty sure that person don't want that on them. It's not even good for the subordinate. You know what I mean? Like
[00:25:07] right
[00:25:08] professionally as I
[00:25:11] I was gonna cook some more stuff some of that frozen stuff so we can have lunch tomorrow, but I'll be at
[00:25:15] you know, Loa
[00:25:17] but um
[00:25:18] So I know these two people I'd so happen to know
[00:25:22] The guy and the shit
[00:25:25] Because I worked there but
[00:25:30] But I'm necessarily chicken. Yeah, so
[00:25:34] The guys the supervisor, you know a group of people
[00:25:37] And there's just one particular chick who is a new titter to their organization or unit however you want to look at it
[00:25:45] And so, you know as a good supervisor you communicate with them. Hey, how you doing? Is everything okay?
[00:25:51] All right, here's how you do this. So, you know
[00:25:54] When you especially when you work with people that closely in the field in these sort of fields
[00:25:59] You get a relationship with
[00:26:02] Okay
[00:26:03] As far as like you get to know them. Yeah, you guys talk about stuff and everything else
[00:26:07] So you're she may be talking about her relationship. He might be talking about his relationship, etc
[00:26:16] So things start turning when
[00:26:18] They start calling each other off work hours
[00:26:22] Okay, how do you know this? I noticed because the story was told to me. Okay
[00:26:29] All right, good
[00:26:31] It's not like I'm like, oh my gosh
[00:26:33] This story was told to me from a particular person
[00:26:36] I have not confirmed it with the other party, but I'm only gonna take it from this one side. I got you
[00:26:43] So
[00:26:45] They start talking off hours, you know, there's like, oh, you know, what places to go to hang out blah blah blah whatever
[00:26:52] Oh, hey, don't you want to go and get some lunch? You know stuff that you would consider innocent but not necessarily
[00:26:59] Completely innocent like if you got if I was like it made my wife or co-workers and we were both in two separate relationships
[00:27:05] And I was like, hey, you know what it works over
[00:27:08] You want to slide and get a drink real quick and
[00:27:11] And I'm a head out and she's like, all right, let's go over here. Let's I get a drink good drink
[00:27:15] And we chop it up for maybe like 30 40 minutes to me. That's innocent. That's it. That's an innocent. All right, ah-ha
[00:27:23] See it works them off, but this is like a full flash. Hey, let's go here. Let's do this. I'm like, no
[00:27:28] This sounds like y'all are reading relationship
[00:27:33] So they start talking
[00:27:35] And they get to a point where now
[00:27:38] He's meeting her family
[00:27:54] Like he's he's on the phone with her and like because uh, she lives with like um couple people
[00:28:02] but
[00:28:04] One of the people
[00:28:06] Is like, oh, this your new friend. I mean, why don't you just leave with him? So now
[00:28:11] What so her friend a little jealous because now she ain't the only one
[00:28:15] That got this uh, his co-worker subordinate's attention now
[00:28:19] She's on the phone with him and talking to her and they're like all hanging out together
[00:28:24] And I'm just like this sounds so
[00:28:28] I said why you sound like even a love triangle with you and chicken another chick
[00:28:31] Yo, didn't I explain something like this from that I was in
[00:28:38] Not too well. No, I wasn't in that too long ago, but
[00:28:41] when I was in uh
[00:28:42] When I was in high school how I was
[00:28:46] Messing with one girl, but I you know, it was just kind of like it was what it was because she had a boyfriend
[00:28:50] But I was interested in another girl
[00:28:52] But even though I wasn't dating either one of them
[00:28:54] She was mad at the other girl because she she kind of knew that I kind of liked her
[00:28:59] I'm not dating either one of y'all
[00:29:01] Okay, well, you know what two out of three happen
[00:29:04] The girl does have a boyfriend
[00:29:06] Yo, come on man. Come on
[00:29:09] Boyfriend but the friend is just jealous because now the the friend doesn't have her
[00:29:14] Univided attention when she is out with
[00:29:18] The dark or super boss. Yo wild woman like that, man
[00:29:22] Sometimes women act like sometimes women act like they are a girl that's their girlfriend
[00:29:27] Romantic girlfriend their friend is their romantic girlfriend. I'm like, what's going on?
[00:29:31] And that's what I said. I said it sounds like
[00:29:34] She a little father that
[00:29:36] Will make either she thinks that her friend can do better than you
[00:29:40] Which you're not
[00:29:42] Y'all just doing whatever and she has a boyfriend or two
[00:29:46] Her friend just mad because maybe she she don't hear talking to you about everybody because he's like
[00:29:50] I talked to the little sister I talked to
[00:29:53] To the mom. I'm like you just you just out here. Would you the boyfriend or not?
[00:29:59] So
[00:30:01] We're going fast forward to a couple weeks
[00:30:04] They eventually link up after work one time
[00:30:08] And they sitting there chilling talking because I think he said they were sitting in the car and shit
[00:30:13] And then boom it happens
[00:30:16] He's like
[00:30:18] He's like fam, yo, I ain't gonna hold you
[00:30:21] I cranked that shit in the backseat
[00:30:35] Like we were just sitting there talking and she was like, yo, I really like you and I was like, yeah
[00:30:38] I'm feeling you too. We started to kiss and and I just you just cranked in the backseat
[00:30:43] I was like, okay. Well, I mean it was a one-time thing. He said, uh
[00:30:46] That was like two weeks ago. I've been cranking this
[00:30:49] Jane religious every day
[00:30:55] Oh
[00:31:02] Some people set people up like that so they can get so they can sue the company like
[00:31:07] I mean your game
[00:31:10] Like I I was listening to the story. I'm like
[00:31:14] He's like, yeah, you know
[00:31:16] Her her boyfriend they they not doing too well and blah blah blah. So
[00:31:21] I said, nigga, you were the whole person. He like
[00:31:25] You know, he ain't doing too well. He just it just works out. Huh? He's like, yeah, I mean
[00:31:30] We'll see what happened, but it's just fun right now. It's just fun right now. I'm like, oh
[00:31:34] She said that because what's gonna happen is like
[00:31:37] We what are we we I mean you you having a hard time with yours?
[00:31:41] Hard time
[00:31:45] One or both of them won't catch feelings and they gonna be thinking about do I really want to be with this other person?
[00:31:50] And maybe it's not all it's correct. Maybe right now it's fun
[00:31:52] Just because it's fun and there's no commitment or nothing
[00:31:55] But somebody's gonna start getting a little bothered calling you at the wrong time like
[00:31:59] It's eight o'clock and well, who they calling you if he was smart if he was smart
[00:32:05] No, if he was smart, he wouldn't be done with it. He was a period
[00:32:09] Right, it's a period. But if he was not a superior you limit your interactions
[00:32:14] Like don't do it every day for fucking two weeks like here and there
[00:32:19] Here and there so they won't even get to that
[00:32:24] Oh no, but
[00:32:27] If you were in this situation, I'm not doing it. I'm not doing it
[00:32:31] Not doing it
[00:32:32] Even if even if you got that one moment we already cranked it in the back. See how how you want handle that
[00:32:40] I like money too much that's literally what it is
[00:32:45] I like money too much. I like having a job. I like having a car
[00:32:48] I like having a good the correct that all is what you're saying
[00:32:50] Yeah, that's my livelihood
[00:32:53] Yeah
[00:32:54] And they like well, I said I was like there's no way I was like dude
[00:32:58] You should have just found another job and and no
[00:33:03] Well, no, no, no because
[00:33:05] Based on what what was going on
[00:33:08] He's going to have to find a job anyway because that he you know the company was
[00:33:13] Doing their layoffs and they were laying off supervisors too. So he was
[00:33:17] Oh, yeah, there's a better joint. He's one of his better one of the better employees, but you know
[00:33:24] When you cut you cut
[00:33:25] You don't matter how much you like motherfuckers you cut
[00:33:29] You it could be your your worker from for 30 years
[00:33:33] All right, uh, so okay, so that that puts another caveat into that puts another
[00:33:39] Twisting to this
[00:33:41] So they was laying off. I was already going to be looking for another job
[00:33:45] I'm praying in that train
[00:33:50] I'm already got look for another job so it don't really matter
[00:33:53] Right what you gonna do?
[00:33:55] But I said at least wait
[00:33:57] I mean, I mean I said wait till you get the new job. I ain't saying don't don't you know, you know
[00:34:09] Make you miss your um your blessing or your uh your your husband or wife
[00:34:14] I ain't saying go out there and not do what you supposed to do if you think there's a person you want to be with
[00:34:19] I'm just saying there's still rules in place that even though you haven't been laid off yet
[00:34:23] You could be laid off or and or fired if they found out that that was what's going on, especially
[00:34:28] Yeah, that's that's that's true too. Also, um
[00:34:32] That ain't that girl ain't for him when she got boyfriend
[00:34:35] That too
[00:34:37] That's not for you. I said that the girl
[00:34:40] And I honestly and she could honestly
[00:34:43] Not be that type of girl or woman that does stuff like that or was a one-time thing or whatever have you but
[00:34:49] All right
[00:34:50] I mean maybe it just don't it don't work out in the end
[00:34:53] I mean, I was just like maybe she really likes you maybe
[00:34:55] Maybe the relationship with the boys from random scores if they've really been at odds for that long but at that point, you know
[00:35:02] Nah, but so look at this point. Like let's just say all that's all that's the case, right?
[00:35:08] She's not being she's not communicating
[00:35:11] I mean truthful
[00:35:12] So in a situation
[00:35:14] Probably slider than that with you is she's not going to be truthful. She's not going to communicate well
[00:35:20] If it ran its course it ran its course tell the nigga ran his course and we won
[00:35:26] Yeah
[00:35:27] Not unless she got a
[00:35:29] An affinity for using mother's buggers and she like well
[00:35:32] Um, I'm not in this relationship
[00:35:35] But I'm only with you for this this and this and um in a relationship with someone else with these with this this and this uh
[00:35:41] With these type of variables or factors this should yeah still it's not so much for you
[00:35:45] I mean even with that I even told him I said because he just got out of his
[00:35:50] relationship
[00:35:51] not too well
[00:35:53] His relationship is in limbo right now based on how the situation is going
[00:35:58] And I'm just like why not just kind of
[00:36:02] Get yourself together like start, you know start thinking about it
[00:36:05] What do I want what I want for myself so that I can be better for
[00:36:10] You know
[00:36:11] If I go back to where I was and and we can work it out if I'm moving forward with somebody new like
[00:36:16] How do you start developing yourself?
[00:36:18] You know, I mean you got to start heading in that sort of direction when these things have you can't just
[00:36:23] I mean, I know back in the day back in high school
[00:36:26] In early college or college in general when you left one you got up on another one or on top of another one
[00:36:32] You know, I mean like you just kind of went boom boom boom, but now you know, we we almost in our 40s. It's time to
[00:36:37] It's time to start
[00:36:40] Kind of
[00:36:41] Shining you know going away from oh, I broke up with one. Let me get up. Let me get on top of another one
[00:36:46] You know, it's like all right. Well now you could do that just don't make that person your person
[00:36:51] Well, yeah that too
[00:36:53] That's that's the reason you're falling into that same thing. Nope. Yeah, you gotta develop yourself first
[00:36:59] Nope. No, well you have to develop some discipline to be like, you know what I'm good
[00:37:03] I'm there to knock I'm there to beat the work flat software. Oh, fucking eyes. Look, that's what I'm there to do and outside
[00:37:11] With
[00:37:14] Tires
[00:37:16] I'm not killing bugs in our house. I ain't doing none of that shit
[00:37:20] You ain't you ain't even bringing no lamerinas and chipotle. Yeah, you ain't doing nothing
[00:37:25] You don't get confused because it's so easy to get confused when you dreamed and your stomach is full and
[00:37:32] I'm I'm not gonna lie. It's so easy to get confused as a guy
[00:37:35] Not gonna lie. You know me and Mrs. Smith got some chipotle today. We just didn't handle a lot maritas
[00:37:42] Yeah, I had truly
[00:37:44] Oh, no, we I mean she had some apple jack
[00:37:48] For jack apple
[00:37:50] We sat and watched a little bit of tv, you know
[00:37:53] Listen to the guys bang stuff in the in the background. I'm like, all right
[00:37:58] True
[00:37:58] You know, I laid on the sofa. She laid in the recliner, you know
[00:38:03] Perfect sonny we even went to church
[00:38:05] online
[00:38:08] You know church is church, you know
[00:38:10] We might not have caught the holy ghost, but we understood the message and it was it was quite touching
[00:38:15] I think it gave us the motivation to go in on on monday and know that our work is appreciated
[00:38:21] By the most high
[00:38:24] What's that?
[00:38:26] So yeah, he um
[00:38:33] Nice and no girl
[00:38:34] Yeah, I definitely
[00:38:37] I know for me when I was supervising I stayed away from anything that was not supervising
[00:38:45] Like I didn't want none of them ever saying oh, well
[00:38:49] Oh
[00:38:51] Mr. Smith was like, yo, this uh, let's go do this. Nope. They're like, oh, what are you doing? Oh, I'm gonna go to the bar
[00:38:58] Oh, really? Which one?
[00:39:01] Fridays and booing. Oh, okay. I see
[00:39:04] Now if they showed up there that ain't my problem. I did not send out an invite
[00:39:10] I did not say hey, let's go here. I didn't say any of that. It was
[00:39:14] Oh
[00:39:16] All right, I'm wondering why you're inquiring about where I'm going
[00:39:19] But this is where I go every day like literally I would when I worked at math and Richmond Tudor Center
[00:39:25] I would leave work
[00:39:27] And drive that one mouse Fridays and booing
[00:39:30] And be an inch hila
[00:39:35] All right, Peter fridays and booing. Oh, uh, peter fridays and booing
[00:39:40] I think the one you don't live in there silver here. So
[00:39:44] I mean, I know is that
[00:39:47] But um, you know the one over in their forest fields silver here or road all that
[00:39:51] That one got shut down too
[00:39:53] Damn
[00:39:54] Yeah, I was like, damn
[00:39:57] But you know what the fridays and booing it wasn't jumping like it did back when I first went then
[00:40:03] You know what I'm saying? And I mean like it used to be jumping like rows on people trying to get drinks
[00:40:09] If you were, you know, it was it used to be jumping in there and then it kind of slowed down
[00:40:15] It started slowing down
[00:40:17] right after 2014
[00:40:21] 2015
[00:40:23] It started slowing down. It wasn't jumping on fridays and saddies like it was
[00:40:28] And then um when they were bringing DJ in on thursdays that should be live. I mean pack
[00:40:35] So people would come in it was four-dial-long Alice to three-dial-long Alice
[00:40:38] Yeah, the last time I was there was where like 2010 2011. Okay, and you've been in a long time. Yeah
[00:40:47] Last time I was there, um
[00:40:50] Me me and my big brother from the fraternity went to smack down it was a smackdown before
[00:40:57] Before wrestle it was one of the smackdowns before wrestling not the smackdown before resonating but it was leading up to wrestlemania last year
[00:41:06] and um
[00:41:07] We went there and then on our way back
[00:41:10] I was like, hey, you know what?
[00:41:12] You got you got worked money's like nah, I said
[00:41:15] All right, let's why don't we just stop at uh fridays and booey real quick. He's like
[00:41:21] All right
[00:41:22] So we start the fridays and boo he's got a couple drinks out and that was the last time I was there
[00:41:27] I feel like I might have been there one more time after that but I think that was pretty much my last time there really
[00:41:33] Yeah
[00:41:34] You know, that's what happens when you move from the area. I mean even if I was if I was in the area still
[00:41:40] And I was still going in regularly
[00:41:42] It's still a hard like damn, you know y'all closing down and I don't even think they gave them a notice
[00:41:47] It was new year's day and then they said we're closing january 2nd
[00:41:52] Oh, yeah
[00:41:54] It was just like that like
[00:41:57] I was like that's crazy
[00:41:59] So I don't even know, you know, I don't even know what everybody doing now
[00:42:02] Like because I used to be like, all right if I if I knew
[00:42:05] So let's say my wife was like, all right. I'm going out of I'm gonna be out of town friday saturday
[00:42:10] I'll be back sunday if I was to be like, all right. Well, you know what? Let me go find something to do
[00:42:14] That would be where I will go because I know everybody I know everybody from back back there gonna be there
[00:42:20] I go up there pull up a was
[00:42:22] It on out
[00:42:24] But now now what do I do?
[00:42:28] That boys
[00:42:30] Fat boys close at 10
[00:42:34] That means I got good at monies
[00:42:37] But I don't want me hanging out with all the white people out there. You know
[00:42:43] It's rough, you know
[00:42:45] It's it's rough like fridays and buoy with like the monies
[00:42:49] It was all black folk. They were open till two o'clock. You kept it rocking
[00:42:53] You know, if I was at fat boys, then I would go to monies
[00:42:56] Because money, you know, it was in walking distance and I ain't gotta go by so far
[00:43:00] But like even when I go on into monies recently, it don't even got the same crowd. This is like
[00:43:06] Everything's changing. There's almost like it's almost like the universe is saying
[00:43:11] Don't go back that way
[00:43:13] Stay in your area. It probably is saying that though
[00:43:17] Yeah
[00:43:18] Because now I met new people here
[00:43:20] I became a regular at a different bar and now it's like, all right. Well
[00:43:25] All right, it's not too bad. You know my stuff some works over at the uh at the same at the bar
[00:43:30] I go to all the time
[00:43:31] And he'd be like, yeah, don't eat no food in there. None. I was like
[00:43:36] What that's it? What are you bad? Listen to you. Hey listen, you bad listen
[00:43:46] He's like don't eat nothing because the little Spanish chicken there
[00:43:50] When when they make the food she takes a piece of take fried on people's pleats. I'm like wow
[00:43:56] With her bare hands no glove
[00:43:58] Eat and just keep going
[00:44:00] So I was like so does she do that with the seafood?
[00:44:04] My hands gotta be like well does she do that with the seafood? It's just a fried food
[00:44:08] But they've seen even the supervisor seen her do it, but
[00:44:13] She's still there. I'm like at some point. I ain't gonna listen. No, I ain't gonna lie
[00:44:19] I reestablish and I've been to
[00:44:22] Even if it doesn't look like it should be our uh our latino brothers and sisters back there cooking up whenever they cooking up that should be so flavorful
[00:44:32] I'm not calling my
[00:44:36] Fucking uh
[00:44:40] Well, not that botches, but you know the little spots like that they back there cooking up
[00:44:44] I'm like damn this shit tastes good. They got this flavor called um on fire
[00:44:49] Crazy on fire, right? So, you know back when they used when I first started going there
[00:44:55] Depending on who made it
[00:44:57] Sometimes it'd be good. Sometimes it'd be just too spicy. You couldn't even taste you couldn't you thought you had Kobe
[00:45:02] You lost all your taste buds. Whoa
[00:45:06] That was a huge
[00:45:08] Right, it's a huge thing like you taste all the flavors or you don't taste nothing for like a day
[00:45:12] Like
[00:45:14] I should I got shit to do but can't be not taste this shit for a day like a whole morning you may or may not be able to
[00:45:22] But um
[00:45:25] I will
[00:45:26] So the person who used to make it was just this guy this black guy that used to do it
[00:45:31] Um and every time you get it he had to come out to see who it was because he's like only certain people orders and he was like, oh
[00:45:36] Yeah, oh, is you fam?
[00:45:38] Bro, what's up and didn't like it was these guys like girl
[00:45:41] Like you got you here today. I'm like, okay. Oh clearly. He's the one I need to make sure who this I'll be like
[00:45:47] What's his name? All right. It's such a such hit. I want to get the crazy on fire on my muscles
[00:45:51] Oh nah, he ain't here today. All right, and I don't want nothing just give me my drinks
[00:45:59] Unless he got this so so what everybody's been doing recently that I've been noticing
[00:46:05] because
[00:46:06] It's been coming out really hot. It's been on fire
[00:46:10] And you know, I ain't no bitch
[00:46:12] So
[00:46:13] I still get I still get it on my food everyone else like oh, I don't want to own my food
[00:46:16] I just wanted on the side. So everybody's just getting it on the side now. I'm like
[00:46:20] It's like you do you want to start saying no, I ain't no bitch not giving to me all my food
[00:46:24] It should be hot
[00:46:27] I'll be sweating
[00:46:30] My nose be running
[00:46:32] Yo
[00:46:34] It's mad annoying when it's happening but it's so refreshing out there happens and all your son is
[00:46:39] Teared up. Yeah, what's the shit you'd be like?
[00:46:44] I'm like man, but yeah, nah, it was um
[00:46:49] I still get on my food everyone's like, oh you crazy like that should be too hot
[00:46:53] I said, but that's how I like it. I like my shit hot
[00:46:56] You know what I'm saying like if it ain't going hot it ain't coming out hot then it wasn't hot
[00:47:05] The worst is when it comes on
[00:47:07] The worst is when it comes out like especially for me
[00:47:11] Like I'll get up. I do my 530
[00:47:13] I take my seamos in the morning for my workout next thing, you know, I got four more right behind it
[00:47:18] I'm like Jesus
[00:47:20] Wow, like this thing clears out the whole system just get everything out. I'm like, it's crazy
[00:47:27] Crazy man
[00:47:34] Well, I got no more stories, but that was my only story
[00:47:38] Yeah, don't do it
[00:47:40] More of the story
[00:47:42] Don't do it
[00:47:44] I'll keep you updated but as as I know
[00:47:46] You put your two weeks notice in then yeah
[00:47:49] As I know right now he he's still cranking if I think him and his ex are getting mad together
[00:47:54] I think her her ex are still possibly getting mad together
[00:47:59] So I think they're just really just kind of like on the random like a what's up and
[00:48:04] Here's the thing that's not wrong
[00:48:06] Like you don't just be cranking some shit like you don't like
[00:48:09] For men and women you'll just be doing something for like two weeks and then yeah, I get back with y'all respective partners and you ain't gonna be like
[00:48:17] Damn, I'm gonna fuck who's working or damn. He was being my shit down
[00:48:20] Like you won't have those thoughts and you want you want me like
[00:48:24] It's gonna make the call
[00:48:26] You just gonna be like what you gonna do after this
[00:48:28] I'm gonna you know, we wait till everybody leave you know backseat. You know, I just tell them I'm working elite
[00:48:34] boom
[00:48:35] Yeah, so it happens
[00:48:38] Good luck to them though. I mean
[00:48:42] Good luck to them
[00:48:44] but um
[00:48:47] You gave me you asked me to give advice
[00:48:49] What I do that not advice for
[00:48:52] So today's topic, right?
[00:48:54] Oh
[00:48:55] Today's topic
[00:48:59] So, uh
[00:49:02] We are getting old. Well, I'm getting I ain't gonna put it on me on you. I'm getting older. I'm always looking to improve myself
[00:49:08] I already know I won't
[00:49:10] No, that's not what I'm saying. I'm like, I I'm not gonna put my journey
[00:49:17] My wife is sorry call me mr. Magoo now to keep saying I'm blind and shit
[00:49:23] Oh
[00:49:28] Hey
[00:49:31] Personal development
[00:49:33] Your journey in personal development everybody has their own personal
[00:49:38] journeys when it comes to being a better them or just improving upon things
[00:49:43] uh
[00:49:47] Getting rid of flaws that they have or you know stuff like that, right?
[00:49:52] So I was wondering like I got a bunch of advice
[00:49:55] I was wondering like what advice would you give someone?
[00:49:58] Like if they say hey, I would really want to change my life around like a young dude young girl or whatever
[00:50:02] I really want to change my life around. I want to do good things. I want to be
[00:50:05] Positive. I want to be an upstanding citizen in this world. What advice
[00:50:11] What advice would I give him? Um
[00:50:16] I guess the advice I would give anybody is
[00:50:21] You kind of got to have your your uh come to jesus moment
[00:50:25] You know, I think it's the first thing where it's like you got to identify
[00:50:29] What are bad things that you're doing that keep putting you in certain situations depending on what?
[00:50:35] Depending on what you're trying to change or getting you know, undoing bad things
[00:50:39] You might have been doing what you might interpret as bad
[00:50:42] but in the you know figure out why are you getting in these situations and
[00:50:47] eliminating those things so whether or not it's your friends
[00:50:51] Whether or not it's drugs and alcohol whether or not it's
[00:50:56] You know
[00:50:59] Doing x amount things you could do you need to figure out what it is
[00:51:03] And you need to probably just just to start to actively
[00:51:08] eliminate that from your
[00:51:11] From your life
[00:51:12] do because if
[00:51:15] If my thing is I always go out to the clubs and get in fights
[00:51:19] But I want to turn over a new leaf and be upstanding citizen
[00:51:24] Would do I need to eliminate?
[00:51:26] Going to the club
[00:51:30] Or maybe drinking when going to the club
[00:51:33] but in essence if you don't want to put yourself in the situation of
[00:51:38] all that like let's say
[00:51:41] And I'm not gonna say a hundred percent I'm gonna say like 75 percent of time you go to club
[00:51:44] And I'm gonna say is with a specific group of people specific people
[00:51:49] That you end up in all the cases might not be your fault
[00:51:52] All the time it might not be there for all the time, but when you guys are in a collective unit
[00:51:58] Shit pops off then you know
[00:52:01] Maybe you don't have to cut the club out
[00:52:02] But maybe you need to cut these friends out because of where things always end up going
[00:52:08] So you just kind of gotta figure that out and then from there
[00:52:11] Find out something to fill that
[00:52:15] Fill it so if you're like I'm not gonna do the club and drink you need to find something to fill it with
[00:52:19] Yeah, so
[00:52:22] I agree with that. Like I was telling my own girls yesterday
[00:52:25] You saw my like a mutual
[00:52:28] person that we know and shit and I'm like
[00:52:30] um because they always say uh just particular person always saying that um
[00:52:35] I can I put it like
[00:52:38] You know sometimes I you know, I'm a good person
[00:52:40] But sometimes things just still be happening to me even though I be doing good things and that's this and that or blah blah blah
[00:52:45] It's like
[00:52:46] I'm not fucking on one of it take ownership
[00:52:48] Of some of the fuck shit that they be doing
[00:52:51] And I was just you know, I was we was talking and I was like that motherfucking need to understand that
[00:52:58] That they might be self-sabotaging themselves
[00:53:01] Like the reason why these things are happening is not because you just you got bad energy around you
[00:53:06] But you might be doing something that continuously
[00:53:09] Caused you to be in these predicaments and it's not
[00:53:12] It's not like bad energy or like
[00:53:15] um, you know, some people say oh the demons after me or I must be being punished and shit like that
[00:53:20] It's kind of like sometimes the man above would be like this motherfucker still procrastinating
[00:53:25] I put signs in the way for this motherfucker not to procrastinate
[00:53:29] I'm gonna just let him procrastinate till he gets so you procrastinate and something bad happens or
[00:53:34] You being slothful when something bad happens like it's not it's not bad energy
[00:53:39] It's it's who you are as a person that you're in laws as fuck you over it sure
[00:53:43] It's all this other shit. It's just it's you you are your main hurdle
[00:53:47] Some people don't understand that so I agree with you like I mean, I mean
[00:53:52] Analyzing with what your what just what your shit is
[00:53:55] Yeah, I mean I had to explain that to one of my co-workers and I was just like, you know
[00:54:00] You
[00:54:02] You're you're here
[00:54:05] And as much as you think you're doing a good job, you could do better
[00:54:09] You know, I I said the only reason you're in your way is because you want them to do what you want them to do
[00:54:16] you want them to
[00:54:18] um
[00:54:19] Make you a married employee you want them to give you this time off to hang, you know be with your kids
[00:54:24] You want them to get you want money? But
[00:54:27] You know in order to do that you gotta
[00:54:30] Show you can do it. You know, I mean
[00:54:33] So and like I told him one time I was like, you know, you you kind of sabotage yourself because
[00:54:39] You you've been coming in late
[00:54:41] Then you leave early then you're taking off because you I want to go do this with my kids and that's fine
[00:54:47] You only really do your job, which is also fine. No one has ever complained about someone doing their job
[00:54:53] But when you're asked to do something outside of your job
[00:54:56] You got the attitude with it and then it's you know, don't even worry about it
[00:55:00] So now or you don't want to be a married employee
[00:55:03] You can't do that because they're looking for you just to do that a little bit of extra to justify
[00:55:08] to marry
[00:55:10] and
[00:55:12] And I told her I said sometimes I think you really just in your own way like you you want all this stuff but
[00:55:19] you gotta
[00:55:20] You have to get out of your own way and I get it
[00:55:24] You know, you don't think you should be doing more than your job and I told her I don't even think I should be doing more than my job
[00:55:29] at the end of the day
[00:55:31] if I want to
[00:55:33] get more
[00:55:35] I gotta at least show that I'm willing to do one. I ain't gotta do more
[00:55:39] I just need to show that I'm willing to do more or do what I'm asked to do
[00:55:44] because
[00:55:47] If you don't even show that you're willing to do more especially if you're not a married employee
[00:55:51] You're not gonna be married. You're not gonna be married and they'll keep you in you know a lot of times
[00:55:56] And I said don't even really keep me around is because
[00:56:00] They're good at what you do
[00:56:03] But with everything you do, you're not gonna be married or child soon
[00:56:07] Yeah
[00:56:08] And well, you know
[00:56:10] Everyone always say how I how I'm valued in here. Did I say no you're valued for what you do but
[00:56:16] In retrospect you
[00:56:18] You're a sneeze away from being fired and they're keeping you around because they know your situation
[00:56:22] They know that if you lose your job, you can you know, you lose your house
[00:56:26] You don't be able to support your kids and
[00:56:29] They're keeping you around because they have a heart but in reaction it actually I said if you with the feds or with anyone
[00:56:35] Anywhere else they wouldn't get two shits and they would fire you and not thought twice about it
[00:56:41] So don't take it for granted and she thought well, I'm not taking for granted, but they're taking me for granted
[00:56:46] Not a lot of it's so what is the word?
[00:56:52] We get so
[00:56:53] Privilege when it comes to certain things that's not proof is not the word I'm looking for but it is at work
[00:56:58] You feel entitled to title
[00:57:00] There it is you entitled
[00:57:02] And I told I said, you know you've been here for a certain amount of time
[00:57:05] You're not entitled to any promotion just like I apply for the position in my own unit and didn't get it over some other guy
[00:57:12] I'm not entitled to it now normally they give it to
[00:57:17] Someone in the unit because they apply to it, but
[00:57:20] No, I'm entitled to you're freebie
[00:57:24] I said no one's here to give you a freebie
[00:57:27] Anything, you know, it's still a business
[00:57:30] But you still
[00:57:31] They still got to choose the best people for the job
[00:57:34] Not that that guy has the best person for the job, but
[00:57:37] Being subjected they gotta choose the best person for the job
[00:57:41] Right and I ain't gonna lie it's been time to stop by on my toes
[00:57:44] Somewhat being entitled with certain things and it don't last long
[00:57:49] And even when it and when it when it uh when it happens and I find myself and I'm like it humbled
[00:57:55] I don't really stoop too much into uh and to me being humble because it's kind of like oh, yeah
[00:57:59] I gotta remember
[00:58:01] Be logical with this like it's anybody's you know, it's anybody's
[00:58:05] How can I put it?
[00:58:06] uh
[00:58:09] What am I trying to say? Is anybody's game? Is anybody's world?
[00:58:11] Yeah, is any I don't know what I'm trying to say, but anyone could it's it's for anybody. It's for everybody based on
[00:58:17] right
[00:58:18] It is
[00:58:21] I mean even after I didn't position at my job
[00:58:25] Next day and I said well
[00:58:27] To me I took it as a sign of
[00:58:30] Get my shit together
[00:58:31] Get out of there and and that's when I started putting my website together for my tutoring
[00:58:36] So I started putting that together so I'm almost complete with that but
[00:58:42] You know if I want to be better and do better
[00:58:47] You can't even like I was telling my co-worker you can't expect someone to say oh, okay your best qualified for
[00:58:55] And you expect the call back you got to go out there and go get it
[00:58:59] Yeah, you got it. You know, you like why never got this email for this
[00:59:02] I didn't get this email for this. I said did you contact anybody about it? Well, no, they should have I said
[00:59:07] Yeah
[00:59:08] In the real world
[00:59:10] If you don't receive an email
[00:59:12] And you know that the persistence closed and you saw that what your reason is you you notify somebody. Hey, I didn't get a
[00:59:19] I didn't get an email saying anything. Um, can you please tell me the email you have on file?
[00:59:23] Like you have to inquire about this you got to be assertive
[00:59:26] And
[00:59:28] You know at the end of the day like even like with me applying to multiple jobs. I have to be assertive
[00:59:33] Like I don't apply to maybe 15 20 jobs at this point to get more money so that
[00:59:39] You know, I can start bringing in more
[00:59:42] So it's like you got it. You have to go and get it
[00:59:45] And that and that's part of personal development. It was like of like not being scared to go get it
[00:59:51] You know, I mean because a lot of people I feel like sometimes are afraid of of success
[00:59:57] Like especially if they're doing it on their own and they're trying to if they're like
[01:00:01] Oh, I want the money and I want to do it on my own
[01:00:04] But a lot of times when it gets to that point where you get so big you like, I don't I'm they're afraid to
[01:00:09] They're afraid to be six sometimes
[01:00:11] I feel like people are afraid to be successful and I was there at one point where I was afraid to be successful
[01:00:16] Where I was content with having like three kids four kids
[01:00:19] It was bringing enough money, but then I realized like wait, what am I scared of being successful for?
[01:00:25] I could tell you what I was scared about and successful for
[01:00:28] something that
[01:00:30] That's probably
[01:00:31] The reason why you are too, but you're subconsciously not thinking about it
[01:00:35] But I've thought about it longer or pause
[01:00:38] I am
[01:00:40] two reasons uh
[01:00:42] One I'm afraid of getting to a certain point and I don't
[01:00:46] Like I'm not believing in myself enough right like
[01:00:49] I think I will only get to that point because of pure luck and then when I start to actually
[01:00:54] Acting a certain role or something like that. I'm gonna get figured out. I would be like oh this nigga
[01:00:58] Don't know nothing what he's feeling or
[01:01:01] So you become successful you're gonna successfully feel like yeah get big and you can feel big and then
[01:01:07] That type of thing
[01:01:09] I think I'm I think I'm more in line of lines of if I get too big
[01:01:14] Then I will have to hire people or ask for help
[01:01:18] And that's a whole nother bill
[01:01:20] Like let's say let's say I can handle most of them, but then now I gotta be like mr. Smith
[01:01:26] How are you like you won't come work for me? Well, here's my price and it's like shit. That's your price and it's like
[01:01:33] All right
[01:01:36] I think that's my thing is like if I get big and I hire my wife
[01:01:40] What happens if I get bigger than that? That means I gotta find someone who I trust that's going to give just as good of service
[01:01:47] I'm afraid that the quality of my business
[01:01:50] Won't match up to the quality that I give
[01:01:53] Based on that somebody doesn't have the same
[01:01:55] Worth that ethic as being
[01:01:58] So are you afraid of uh the hard work that has to go with it?
[01:02:02] No, I'm afraid that not everybody has that same hard work ethics that I've done
[01:02:07] Like that like I I don't know a lot about my about math. I do
[01:02:12] I can I could I could teach you god knows how many ways to do something but i'm afraid that I might get some
[01:02:18] I might hire somebody that
[01:02:20] Try and host my what pre calculus
[01:02:23] And the motherfucking can't evaluate a logarithm
[01:02:27] You know, oh, um shit, I don't know
[01:02:30] Um, well, let's google it like that's the last thing I ever want to say to a kid
[01:02:35] Ah, let's google. Let's see what the google says before I do that. I'll take that shit in the symbol lab to get me the answer
[01:02:41] I need google and that's
[01:02:46] Yeah, you know
[01:02:50] That's fucking crazy
[01:02:53] Yeah, I um
[01:02:56] But yeah, I think a lot of a lot of the time we do get in our own way. Um
[01:03:04] When it comes to personal development one one piece of advice I would give though
[01:03:09] is that um
[01:03:12] See if you can go a month without the things you like actually want
[01:03:18] You mean like alcohol
[01:03:20] Not not necessarily like that but like
[01:03:23] It could be that
[01:03:25] I mean, but not just not just like stuff like that like
[01:03:29] Like how let's just say like yo, um, let's just use video games for for
[01:03:34] Give a video games for a month. Oh my lord
[01:03:38] Let me finish my my method in this
[01:03:43] The ghost of takashi or whatever the game is I sold you I just down I just downloaded it
[01:03:50] But no, listen, the ghost of the gosh, yeah, what is going on with him? Um, but listen
[01:03:56] so like
[01:03:59] Like so let's just say like hobbies or
[01:04:02] Uh
[01:04:04] Things you like to do for fun and stuff like that because it kind of put in perspective how
[01:04:09] Much you really need those things in your life. That's that's what I got out of uh
[01:04:14] Me working two fucking jobs and I didn't have enough time to do the things that I wanted to do
[01:04:18] I just kept finding myself wanting to do
[01:04:22] These three main things and on my head. I'm like shit
[01:04:25] That's probably what I need to be focusing on when I got my time
[01:04:28] I need to be focusing on these three main things because that's what all I keep thinking about and it
[01:04:33] May be angry that I could not get to and it wasn't video games
[01:04:38] I like my video games, but it wasn't video games. It was actually stuff that was going to make me more productive
[01:04:43] And actually earn me some money
[01:04:45] So I'm like, all right
[01:04:47] I need to focus on that. So it's just kind of like just try to go a month
[01:04:51] Like when you start that journey
[01:04:53] Try to go a month or just some time without doing
[01:04:57] Purposely not
[01:04:59] Right see who your mind drift towards and that might be what you need to focus on
[01:05:05] You have an input missus. No
[01:05:07] Anyways, we want to start their personal journey
[01:05:10] Of a better development of themselves
[01:05:15] I know I'm sorry. I wasn't able to speak to the balance
[01:05:19] Oh
[01:05:21] Okay
[01:05:23] She said, uh, we hit everything on the nose
[01:05:30] That's what I'm gonna say
[01:05:34] But yeah, um, that's how I that's what I would say that's how it was starting my
[01:05:41] Person development or what I would tell anybody else you just gotta like you said when I say, you know
[01:05:47] I mean, you know bull is now figuring the shit out
[01:05:51] Listen, you either gonna figure it out. It was one fifth
[01:05:54] Holder world is gonna uh figure it out for you and that's not what you want
[01:05:59] You don't want some other uh the powers that be figuring this out for you
[01:06:03] With you where they feel like you uh belong in a world you want to tell the world
[01:06:08] You know what I mean? Yeah, the world will say nah, this is where you need to be and that's where we're gonna keep you up
[01:06:13] And that could be just because you didn't you know, you didn't try harder. You didn't you didn't see certain things as opportunities
[01:06:20] Uh, you thought an opportunity was always going to be there
[01:06:23] like
[01:06:25] That's that's it and you know
[01:06:28] other piece of advice just take time to yourself to actually just uh
[01:06:33] Quiet your mind
[01:06:35] That's when everything will reveal itself like you just not going
[01:06:39] You know the walks the the exercise and uh
[01:06:42] That actually just sitting at home the driving and
[01:06:46] Driving home in silence like some of my best ideas or
[01:06:49] Best comic moments was the one I don't fucking listen to shit on the radio. I don't play no music
[01:06:54] Nothing and it's just me in the car
[01:06:58] The aco to even
[01:07:00] driving
[01:07:02] Yeah, I get a clear fucking mind and maybe two new two or three new things that I want to try to do or
[01:07:10] Whatever happens, so
[01:07:11] All right, I get it
[01:07:16] Yeah, I would say try to go some time if I
[01:07:21] The the indulgence and uh
[01:07:24] Try to go a month without indulging
[01:07:27] And whatever they see where I can have some long time, but I'll see what I can do. I make no promises
[01:07:32] At a long time, man. That's a long time. Why do you what how?
[01:07:37] How do you see that as a long time?
[01:07:40] 30 to 31 days
[01:07:42] I didn't say drinking had to be one of them
[01:07:45] I ain't saying drinking is
[01:07:48] And that's not the only thing you like to do
[01:07:53] Yeah
[01:07:55] It is
[01:07:57] I ain't saying that
[01:07:59] But
[01:08:02] I had to find those things
[01:08:06] Sure you got them. I got like I said, I got at least like four of them
[01:08:14] I gotta do this like four
[01:08:17] I'm gonna have to uh
[01:08:22] Yeah, I'm gonna have to figure some stuff out
[01:08:27] What I can do that with
[01:08:33] But we'll see
[01:08:37] That was just my piece might not even have to do that your life might not be set up for that
[01:08:43] Would you two need to do that in order to like, you know what? Uh, this will help on my journey
[01:08:49] All right
[01:08:50] And even what I just uh described I didn't purposely do that. It just kind of happened
[01:08:54] I just realized like it helped me out a lot to be honest
[01:08:58] So I'll show that I've progressed in it a lot on certain things
[01:09:02] That's number one. It helped me show that I actually do have a
[01:09:06] Because I was still able to get things done even though I was working too
[01:09:09] I even though I was working every day right so it helped me show that I can actually
[01:09:13] Manage my time a lot better than that what I was doing before I got the job
[01:09:17] It showed me what I should be focusing on and that was just all of me being stripped of time like it
[01:09:23] It uh subconsciously showed me a bunch of things. That's the only reason why I'm throwing that as an example
[01:09:29] Because if it worked for me, I'm sure it's gonna work for some of us
[01:09:34] Hey, I get it your situation might be different you might still need to drink but what I'm saying is
[01:09:42] What I'm saying is like even like like you said starting with randomizing like yo, what could be getting in my way of
[01:09:49] Achieving what I'm doing is successful and you're achieving your goals. Yeah
[01:09:53] Yes, that's the I think that's really just the first that's the first step is what's getting in my way of me being
[01:09:59] the best being
[01:10:01] And starting I mean I'm not saying being able to eliminate it
[01:10:05] is going to be
[01:10:07] easy or
[01:10:09] short or whatever
[01:10:11] It's gonna be a while
[01:10:13] Because there's things that you probably do regularly
[01:10:16] Like even like this week
[01:10:18] So I haven't been to the bar this week. Yeah
[01:10:21] So this is my first week first first full week that I hadn't gone to the bar
[01:10:26] That's something I do regularly
[01:10:28] And this is all in efforts to to save money from
[01:10:34] From spending like four or five twelve dollars at the bar to save money
[01:10:38] To like to try and save so
[01:10:41] That's like a step in a direction of like all right cool
[01:10:46] How do I balance how do I balance getting out the house and going out and
[01:10:52] Saving money and it was like either I got a fully cut
[01:10:56] Going to the bar or I have to limit it to a certain amount of times per month. You know what I mean
[01:11:02] so just
[01:11:03] You know finding a balance and and trying to be the best you
[01:11:08] While eliminating things that are keeping you from your goals
[01:11:12] so
[01:11:14] Right now instead of me going to the bar. I have been indulging in taco Tuesday
[01:11:22] Okay, so
[01:11:24] So the money I was spending at the bar I go to the mexican place
[01:11:29] And get me and my wife tacos with that same money. I would have spent for that
[01:11:32] We got the bar anyway. So in my head is a better use of my money
[01:11:37] I mean, it's probably not the best use of my money, but a better use of
[01:11:42] All right. Well, let me spend this 40 dollars and let's get tacos and you want chicken tacos
[01:11:47] I want two steak and two lamb tacos and
[01:11:50] Let's keep it rocking. You know, I mean
[01:11:54] In my head, I mean it could be completely
[01:11:57] Wrong, but in my head it seemed like the best thing
[01:12:01] A lot of mom
[01:12:03] A lot of my development has been saying where I can
[01:12:06] Uh, I can get the most value for my for my dollar too
[01:12:10] Because with alcohol. Yeah, you drinking that food you're sustaining yourself. Yeah, so in my opinion, that's already
[01:12:18] Well, yeah, I've been trying to
[01:12:20] You know, it's this thing called like buying back your time
[01:12:22] Like you might spend some money to make sure that you have time
[01:12:25] But you might save your money for use your time
[01:12:29] So I've been trying to read
[01:12:31] Re-evaluate
[01:12:35] What those things are in my life like for instance, I
[01:12:41] What is it should call instacart used to be my thing to do I can go back so much time for me
[01:12:48] But I was also paying at a premium now that I don't want to pay a premium
[01:12:52] Instacart because they do up charge them all the food anyway
[01:12:56] They do up charge for corner food. Yeah, so it's kind of like
[01:12:59] All right
[01:13:00] Where can I find some time to do the grocery shop and I need to do so I don't have to do that
[01:13:06] All right, I'm starting ones at a grocery store. So
[01:13:10] I will say instacart was my thing for maybe a solid four months
[01:13:17] Like back when uh me and the way we're doing a lot of cooking
[01:13:22] And I'm like, oh, I want to make this but I don't have no rice and I was like, I want to stop cooking
[01:13:26] And and I had a rice so I would instacart it in
[01:13:31] And it used to and it used to work out. I'm like, yes
[01:13:36] Yes, I got it. I was I was able to finish my dishes and
[01:13:41] Yeah, but
[01:13:43] It started just um, oh the green beans and rice are in the refrigerator
[01:13:46] Okay
[01:13:47] Oh, you didn't want no, okay
[01:13:51] It's a noodle and let me know how the salmon tastes good
[01:13:54] It's good. I didn't over season it
[01:13:59] Oh and roman and rame's loss at brussel mania
[01:14:02] or
[01:14:03] I was I was hurt
[01:14:05] I was hurt that was a hell of a pivot but uh, yeah
[01:14:09] It was it was one hell of a pivot, but it hit my my my my my my mind
[01:14:15] Remember I was listening to the last episode that we put out
[01:14:19] We were talking about uh the rock being there and everything else and
[01:14:24] Yeah, rame's that's just a might break it down. Um
[01:14:28] When I was at the grocery store, I was listening to something
[01:14:32] Um, uh breaking down our salmania and shit. I was like, you know what?
[01:14:36] One year I gotta go
[01:14:38] One year I gotta go and then get a wally mania too
[01:14:42] So, you know what's funny is we thought about going on sundae
[01:14:47] The cheapest seats were 200 dollars, but it was behind
[01:14:52] Where they came out at
[01:14:56] I was like that's what my brother. I was like, bro
[01:14:59] I'm not driving up the philly
[01:15:01] To to be behind the thing and still have to use my phone to see shit or look at the jumble try like
[01:15:10] Being uh building with the energy and shit, but see the thing is about that shit like you got a shittiest seats
[01:15:17] But when that energy hits you
[01:15:20] You don't think you got the shittiest seats until you got until you get on and you think about it maybe the next day
[01:15:24] You like I don't think i'm doing that again
[01:15:29] When you there because I've had shitty seats for bad. I had shitty basketball seats one time
[01:15:33] But it was such a good game. I did not feel like I had shitty basketball
[01:15:37] I think what i'm gonna do is going forward
[01:15:40] I'm gonna start saving up my money for the next
[01:15:43] Yeah, I'm gonna start saving up my money for the next rest of mania that is in driving distance
[01:15:49] Yeah
[01:15:52] Next year, I think next year is in florida
[01:15:55] I'm not going to fall out. So i'm not but that's why
[01:15:58] We all thought about when it was coming to philly
[01:16:02] We were like, oh now be perfect and we knew it was coming up for the we had a year to do it
[01:16:06] But when we looked at those ticket prices
[01:16:09] Just to get decent seats
[01:16:11] Was like 1500
[01:16:14] 2000
[01:16:15] Or just one day
[01:16:17] Just for one day
[01:16:20] And then like
[01:16:22] The farther you got the farther you got down. I think the the the most expensive tickets were like
[01:16:27] 8 000
[01:16:29] See is the thing I couldn't do that alone because I'm a wrestling fan, right?
[01:16:33] But i'm more of an NBA fan now for him if a finals game was like 1500
[01:16:40] I might you know, I might go
[01:16:43] But I know it's not 1500
[01:16:47] So it's kind of like
[01:16:50] You might pay 800 maybe 10 or maybe a thousand
[01:16:54] Well for finals game. Oh for finals game
[01:16:58] You're paying a little bit more for
[01:17:02] I thought you meant for like regular season
[01:17:04] No, no
[01:17:05] It was regular season floor seats when I looked at it one time
[01:17:09] It was I think it came out to like for the wizards
[01:17:11] For the wizards paces. I think it came out to floor seats like 800
[01:17:16] And then um, there was another set of seats that were like as you got higher up
[01:17:20] I think one of them was like 175 250
[01:17:24] Yeah, and then um
[01:17:25] Me and my wife went last time. I think those things might have been like 150 170
[01:17:30] Yeah, oh, yeah
[01:17:32] So it so when it comes to seating at arenas like that
[01:17:36] It's all in a placement. So like for wrestling events if you're on the hard camera side, which is the camera that shows
[01:17:43] The audience those tickets are going to be more expensive
[01:17:47] Than the ones that aren't on the hard camera side
[01:17:51] So if you're a hard camera side
[01:17:53] and you're like sitting
[01:17:55] 10 rows up those tickets might run you
[01:17:59] On a regular smackdown raw night might run you $400 or $500
[01:18:06] If you want to not hard camera side, you might pay half the price
[01:18:10] I think when we me and my brother went to uh, wrestling to a smackdown
[01:18:17] Our tickets cost
[01:18:19] $50
[01:18:21] Because we waited till the very last minute to get we were on our way. We were driving down here
[01:18:26] Just wait watching the tickets prices drop and then brought the tickets
[01:18:30] so
[01:18:31] Hey, sometimes the way to do it. I think we I think it was $50. I think it was 45 plus tax
[01:18:36] We came out to about 50 52 dollars
[01:18:40] Yeah, that's not bad. So
[01:18:43] Yeah
[01:18:45] Well, mr. Smith has given me the cue
[01:18:49] She's uh eating her salmon and noodles. Yeah, it's about that time. It's about that time
[01:18:54] I feel like we gave the viewers uh some some some good tidbits
[01:18:58] Um, if you are a supervisor do not date your subordinate unless you are leaving that job
[01:19:05] You should work blacks off that mom
[01:19:08] Men get your prostate checked it's uncomfortable, but you got to do it
[01:19:13] Yes, indeed and women
[01:19:15] Get you get the tactile your mammogram
[01:19:19] And I know it hurts that thing is cold and this was your your uh your breast cyst
[01:19:25] But you got to do it
[01:19:27] Yo, my mom explained what what has done. I was like you put your food on a what?
[01:19:33] You got sick you think on there
[01:19:44] It does
[01:19:46] Like that machine just like it smashes your breast like a pancake
[01:19:51] I'd rather than smash my breast like a pancake. That's what we'll put the thing in my head
[01:19:58] On that new y'all
[01:20:02] Thank you