The Smartest Man Alive

[00:00:00] , you're going to say, what's

[00:00:02] important to me talking?

[00:00:04] Well, you're only going to say

[00:00:05] what you think I want to hear.

[00:00:06] That's what you think in your head.

[00:00:08] Ain't that crazy though?

[00:00:10] It's just like why can't you

[00:00:12] only go sit? I've been hit with that too.

[00:00:14] You only going to say what I, what

[00:00:16] you think I want to hear. Why can't I actually be in

[00:00:18] agreement with you? You think I just,

[00:00:20] I'm just not going to agree with you? You don't think

[00:00:22] that I like now see your, your point

[00:00:24] of view? I hit that with a girl,

[00:00:26] I hit that on a girl one time and she just kind of looked at

[00:00:28] me like that's not going to work.

[00:00:30] And I'm like, what's not going to work?

[00:00:32] I agree with you. You're just saying that so

[00:00:34] we can end the conversation. I'm like,

[00:00:36] I agree with you. And I would act accordingly.

[00:00:38] What do you want? I apologize.

[00:00:40] And that's what I said.

[00:00:42] You just want some pussy and I'm like, no,

[00:00:44] I'm like, look, I agree.

[00:00:46] Yeah, but I'm like, you know,

[00:00:48] I agree.

[00:00:50] Like a boy now.

[00:00:53] Everybody welcome to another episode of According

[00:00:55] To Wes podcast where Jake Cole seems to be

[00:00:57] the smartest man in America.

[00:00:59] And always

[00:01:01] that's always we got D-Low here.

[00:01:03] Oh,

[00:01:05] thank you son.

[00:01:07] And

[00:01:09] you got me, Wes

[00:01:13] it's been a good weekend.

[00:01:15] I've been hit with, I stayed out of

[00:01:17] the, I stayed out of

[00:01:19] my beef, but I wasn't really paying

[00:01:21] attention and then over the course of two

[00:01:23] days so much shit came out

[00:01:25] and then dropped to

[00:01:27] or

[00:01:29] and then fucking retro

[00:01:31] boom and just did a beat

[00:01:33] and just pop that on

[00:01:35] YouTube

[00:01:37] couple of hours ago and it was

[00:01:39] sampling this guy following on Instagram

[00:01:41] your comedian is called BBL Drizzy

[00:01:43] so basically

[00:01:45] created like a

[00:01:47] like a 70s

[00:01:49] 70s with AI

[00:01:51] like a 70 soulful

[00:01:53] song whatever he sampled at joint

[00:01:55] that B go hard as hell

[00:01:59] it's metrum

[00:02:01] yeah, yeah

[00:02:03] like I didn't know

[00:02:05] I've been looking at the comments

[00:02:07] and

[00:02:09] I mean I heard you for it

[00:02:11] I heard

[00:02:13] like that

[00:02:15] I heard

[00:02:17] was the first one that Drake did

[00:02:19] dropping in the 50 or push ups

[00:02:21] push ups, yeah

[00:02:23] that one out, I mean

[00:02:25] I'm not gonna say push ups didn't go hard

[00:02:27] but it

[00:02:29] reminded me of Charles Duck

[00:02:32] did you hear family matters

[00:02:34] I heard family matters, no

[00:02:36] I didn't hear family matters, the family matters was the second one

[00:02:38] but that's the most

[00:02:40] reason why he released

[00:02:42] yeah

[00:02:44] I heard the one where he had the

[00:02:46] the Paka

[00:02:48] yeah not that one

[00:02:50] that one was

[00:02:52] decently okay

[00:02:54] I didn't hear family matters

[00:02:56] I listened to that after I listened

[00:02:58] to Kendrick's

[00:03:02] the one he did where he

[00:03:04] talked about

[00:03:06] I mean he also knew Charles

[00:03:08] I can't think of him

[00:03:10] when it was called

[00:03:12] the first one he dropped before he dropped

[00:03:14] the most recent one

[00:03:18] was it 16

[00:03:20] 16

[00:03:22] yeah

[00:03:26] I don't know man

[00:03:28] like I was saying to you before

[00:03:30] who's texting

[00:03:32] this is a weird beef

[00:03:34] not that

[00:03:36] either one isn't coming with their

[00:03:38] best, I believe both of them are coming with some of

[00:03:40] their best but for some reason

[00:03:42] and I listened to like I said I listened to Drake more

[00:03:44] Kendrick's shit just hit

[00:03:46] a little bit better for some reason for me

[00:03:48] yeah

[00:03:50] I will say

[00:03:52] because he's attacking him as a person rather than like

[00:03:54] joke joke joke joke joke

[00:03:56] joke joke is like nah I'm gonna attack you as a person

[00:03:58] I like like like literally like

[00:04:00] I just don't like you and I think these are the

[00:04:02] reasons why I don't like you type shit

[00:04:04] like the fact this

[00:04:06] cause

[00:04:08] he's alluding to like yo like one of the things

[00:04:10] that kind of stuck out cause this is always

[00:04:12] and I talked about this shit on the podcast it's always

[00:04:14] sticks out to me as I get older

[00:04:16] as a man

[00:04:18] I don't want to look like none

[00:04:20] of these young diggers and I'm 40

[00:04:22] plus like wearing the clothes

[00:04:24] and doing the same things and this this and that

[00:04:26] he had made this

[00:04:28] a con Drake not Drake

[00:04:30] Kendrick had made this comment not as how he had this

[00:04:32] bar basically sound like

[00:04:34] you know

[00:04:36] basically

[00:04:38] you hanging around

[00:04:40] young boys or you hanging around yachty thinking

[00:04:42] you want to you know get a drip or whatever

[00:04:44] have you and it's supposed to be the other way

[00:04:46] to run like they supposed to be coming to you

[00:04:48] and you want to them

[00:04:50] and I'm like

[00:04:52] I did when I look at it I'm like Drake bought to be 40

[00:04:54] right yeah he is dressing

[00:04:56] like how our Kelly was dressing when he was trying

[00:04:58] to keep his career

[00:05:00] you know where it was or whatever

[00:05:02] have you I'm like damn at 40

[00:05:04] do I want to have like

[00:05:06] you know

[00:05:08] you get what I'm saying you saying Drake

[00:05:10] I get it I was like

[00:05:12] yeah

[00:05:14] don't nobody want to look at be that older

[00:05:16] you know it

[00:05:18] like oh shit on 40

[00:05:20] and I'm still dressing like I'm fucking

[00:05:22] or I should be 22

[00:05:24] or some shit like that

[00:05:26] yeah

[00:05:28] I mean Drake Drake's beats

[00:05:30] and my Drake always has good

[00:05:32] beats when it comes to his

[00:05:34] music

[00:05:36] I think a lot of people get caught up in

[00:05:38] how tough the beat was or how good

[00:05:40] the beat was but not necessarily

[00:05:42] listen to the lyrical content that was being

[00:05:44] presented

[00:05:46] I mean

[00:05:48] I mean it's definitely a nice

[00:05:50] jz beat where they both came out with tough

[00:05:52] beats you know

[00:05:54] one was tougher than the other

[00:05:56] and ether you know I mean

[00:05:58] like we all remember ether

[00:06:00] we all remember takeover yeah

[00:06:04] I mean I remember when he dropped super ugly

[00:06:06] in blueprint 2

[00:06:08] yeah on the

[00:06:10] on the curse

[00:06:12] so I mean

[00:06:15] it's one of the things where

[00:06:17] even though

[00:06:19] Nye kind of responded more

[00:06:21] than once but he responded very

[00:06:23] subtly more than once

[00:06:25] his one direct

[00:06:27] what he did was enough to

[00:06:29] pretty much

[00:06:31] shut it all down

[00:06:33] you know

[00:06:35] and with Drake

[00:06:37] dropping the first

[00:06:39] and then coming back and saying oh no one's heard

[00:06:41] from you I'm like he dropped it the same day

[00:06:43] yeah he took 2 weeks but the first

[00:06:45] this wasn't a noteworthy

[00:06:47] to respond to that same thing he did with me

[00:06:49] he dropped it

[00:06:51] and they get mad at no one

[00:06:53] respond to it and then he's dropping

[00:06:55] that one out of there oh yeah man

[00:06:57] he's killing him with this oh yeah it's like

[00:06:59] I'm not sure

[00:07:01] if he's killing him with it

[00:07:03] but

[00:07:05] Kendrick's come back

[00:07:07] and Kendrick uses his regular

[00:07:09] type of beats

[00:07:11] nice smooth mellow

[00:07:13] you know

[00:07:15] and pretty much laid out a whole foundation

[00:07:17] of I'm a you know like push your T-day

[00:07:19] it's gonna be a surgical

[00:07:21] we're going into a surgical summer now

[00:07:23] where Kendrick might be

[00:07:25] bit by bit breaking him down

[00:07:27] I'ma tell you like this

[00:07:29] this shit don't go

[00:07:31] this shit goes

[00:07:33] into the summer but it does not

[00:07:35] progress into the summer months it picks back up

[00:07:37] until the fall that's how I feel

[00:07:39] right now

[00:07:41] it's like Kendrick put out 2 more

[00:07:43] 2 more of this so I was a Drake

[00:07:45] I'll leave responded to 1

[00:07:47] yeah

[00:07:49] 2

[00:07:51] and then a fucking

[00:07:53] it is a 20 v1 because now that's real

[00:07:55] put out a

[00:07:57] track and all it takes is for somebody to wrap on

[00:07:59] and I'm like I'm dissing you now

[00:08:01] cause I mean at the end of the day

[00:08:03] that first just that Drake dropped

[00:08:05] he apparently he dropped

[00:08:07] more than just Kendrick

[00:08:09] I think he went down

[00:08:11] it was a future the weekend metro

[00:08:13] Rick

[00:08:15] I don't think he said that about Kyle yet

[00:08:17] I think Drake will come back

[00:08:19] a whole week of this and there's going to be

[00:08:21] 1 dedicated to Rick Ross

[00:08:23] 1 dedicated to Metro Boomer

[00:08:25] 1 dedicated to Kendrick

[00:08:27] it might be 3 dedicated to Kendrick

[00:08:29] but you know what that's the only way

[00:08:31] I'll be able to respect it

[00:08:33] like I want Drake to put out

[00:08:35] an actual

[00:08:37] yes like an actual

[00:08:39] this directed towards

[00:08:41] Kendrick I don't think

[00:08:43] Drake that smart

[00:08:45] and I'm being intelligent

[00:08:47] I'm being serious

[00:08:49] you can't get no info on them

[00:08:51] the only I mean

[00:08:53] I think

[00:08:55] I don't think Kendrick has that much info

[00:08:57] on them

[00:08:59] and all the stuff he said

[00:09:01] other people have said so it's kind of like

[00:09:03] when I listen to Kendrick stuff

[00:09:05] he's attacking this person as a

[00:09:07] person

[00:09:09] man and then really like

[00:09:11] oh you said you got street cred

[00:09:13] or you fucking this this this and that

[00:09:15] nah let me just go based off of how

[00:09:17] I see it and I'ma just

[00:09:19] throw some shit I ain't gonna say you're gonna throw some shit

[00:09:21] on the wall see if it stick but it's just more of this

[00:09:23] he definitely judges in the book

[00:09:25] but I don't know if he knows this book

[00:09:27] he's all the things I know

[00:09:29] about you

[00:09:31] your crew don't like you

[00:09:33] you are the fucking uh 6'9 with

[00:09:35] it extorting you and you just don't see it

[00:09:37] right

[00:09:39] so another 6'9

[00:09:41] 6'9 when getting extorted they already knew

[00:09:43] they already knew he wasn't about that like

[00:09:45] yeah yeah but like Kendrick said

[00:09:47] he said you rapping about a life you ain't

[00:09:49] live pretty much stick to pop

[00:09:51] and singing in chicks

[00:09:53] that's how I took

[00:09:55] that's how I took that this was

[00:09:57] look you hanging around all these dudes that

[00:09:59] well first off

[00:10:01] and let's be honest about the rap game now

[00:10:05] I lied to these guys so he's hanging around

[00:10:07] also didn't live that life

[00:10:09] they hung around people who lived that life

[00:10:11] and got their street cred by association

[00:10:13] so let's get that

[00:10:15] you talking about on Drake's side

[00:10:17] on Drake's side yes

[00:10:19] what was he hanging around that you think

[00:10:21] got this stuff by association

[00:10:23] um

[00:10:25] um I first think Louis

[00:10:27] yeah

[00:10:29] no no no

[00:10:31] you don't rap like that

[00:10:33] you don't rap like that

[00:10:35] he don't portray himself to be that

[00:10:37] you sure

[00:10:39] positive

[00:10:41] I am a hundred percent positive

[00:10:43] nah not yoddy

[00:10:45] I would say the people that he is hanging around

[00:10:47] would probably say

[00:10:49] yeah it's probably about

[00:10:51] that I can't really because most of them

[00:10:53] are from Atlanta

[00:10:55] yeah so

[00:10:57] I'm not saying that Wayne wasn't about it

[00:10:59] but Wayne was a you know

[00:11:01] Wayne tells his own story

[00:11:03] so I grew up with Wayne

[00:11:05] but I grew up listening to Wayne

[00:11:07] so can't tell me shit about Wayne

[00:11:09] Wayne was a young 12 year old thug out here

[00:11:11] shooting himself in the heart

[00:11:13] you know what I mean

[00:11:15] the reason why I didn't even say Wayne

[00:11:17] you know Pat I might not say nothing crazy like that

[00:11:19] the reason why I don't even think about it

[00:11:21] is because what 14

[00:11:23] you were old you know

[00:11:25] hanging around

[00:11:27] with motherfuckers that's big in the city

[00:11:29] their brothers was doing

[00:11:31] stuff he was doing stuff and you like I'm hanging

[00:11:33] around these niggas you don't even matter at that point

[00:11:35] you gotta be some type of whatever

[00:11:37] you gotta be some type of something

[00:11:39] you gotta be a hustler you gotta be in a life

[00:11:41] so even if you want to go run

[00:11:43] something up the road for you know

[00:11:45] you know what I mean

[00:11:47] I'm just saying

[00:11:49] I mean I think

[00:11:51] I mean me thinking about

[00:11:53] the industry I think very few of them

[00:11:55] actually really

[00:11:57] live the life they talk about

[00:11:59] and I think they're telling other people

[00:12:01] stories that can't tell their stories anyway

[00:12:03] now I do think there's something

[00:12:05] that actually are doing in there all of them being killed

[00:12:07] left and right anyway

[00:12:09] so I think you're getting a small mix

[00:12:11] of ones who've really done it

[00:12:13] and who are still in it because

[00:12:15] the ones who really in it they still doing it

[00:12:17] while making millions going on tour and catching

[00:12:19] cases for whatever dumb

[00:12:21] ass reason you got the

[00:12:23] ones that rap about it but don't

[00:12:25] really you don't really see them

[00:12:27] engaging in any of

[00:12:29] the different minds that they're rapping

[00:12:31] because the industry says

[00:12:33] or their producers or the label saying

[00:12:35] you know what's your black

[00:12:37] get more face tattoos color your

[00:12:39] hair a little bit and I want you to wrap about

[00:12:41] killing every black person you think you can kill

[00:12:43] and that's what they do

[00:12:45] they help to get that money

[00:12:47] yeah

[00:12:51] it's an interesting beef nonetheless

[00:12:53] like I said it's a I don't know how

[00:12:57] this is a beef I put the push of T1

[00:12:59] something I ain't want to be in because

[00:13:01] of the child situation

[00:13:03] since we have already

[00:13:05] established that J Cole was the smartest man

[00:13:07] alive for staying out of this beef

[00:13:09] how

[00:13:11] do you know and what ways

[00:13:13] men

[00:13:15] support each other than mental health

[00:13:17] journeys because it seems like J Cole was already

[00:13:19] there he figured it out he came across

[00:13:21] his first obstacle

[00:13:23] well not his first obstacle an obstacle in

[00:13:25] the in his career and in

[00:13:27] the

[00:13:29] being a celebrity as a shit like that he's like you know what

[00:13:31] it ain't for me I'm apologize

[00:13:33] I'm bowing out gracefully

[00:13:35] and your and your opinion

[00:13:37] or on your

[00:13:39] your own illustrious

[00:13:41] thoughts and words what are some ways

[00:13:43] that other

[00:13:45] men can

[00:13:47] you know

[00:13:49] support each other in that name into

[00:13:51] well charny

[00:13:53] that's a good question

[00:13:55] but the first thing if you want to

[00:13:57] have other men age you in

[00:13:59] support

[00:14:01] support in your mental health

[00:14:03] you need to find good

[00:14:05] men to be around that's the

[00:14:07] that's the first thing most definitely

[00:14:09] that's the first

[00:14:11] let's just say because it's going to happen

[00:14:13] somebody's going to come to you the chances are

[00:14:15] your son somebody's going to come to me

[00:14:17] my son chances are my son

[00:14:19] more than likely my nephew or my nephews

[00:14:21] they will be the young men

[00:14:23] that you're going to try to aid and

[00:14:25] and you know or support in their mental health journey

[00:14:27] because you ain't going to say like

[00:14:29] you know go to work and die

[00:14:31] you ain't going to say that to them

[00:14:35] yeah

[00:14:37] so what are

[00:14:39] the things that you have on your head

[00:14:41] do you have any

[00:14:43] tips or

[00:14:45] ideas or

[00:14:47] even if it's like yo look

[00:14:49] off a girl with bbls

[00:14:51] yeah you can't trust a big button to smile

[00:14:53] yeah i mean

[00:14:55] actually that's what i'm going to do

[00:14:57] this song came out in

[00:14:59] when i came out in

[00:15:01] 1990s right

[00:15:03] yeah

[00:15:05] no no no

[00:15:07] no no no

[00:15:09] yeah

[00:15:11] listen this song came out

[00:15:13] 100 years ago

[00:15:15] i'm joking and it still

[00:15:17] rings true to this day

[00:15:19] yeah

[00:15:21] what do you think that means

[00:15:23] just because it's enticing and it's appealing

[00:15:25] and she looks good that means

[00:15:27] that she might not all be good

[00:15:29] i said that wrong

[00:15:31] she looks beautiful

[00:15:33] that does not mean that she's good for you

[00:15:35] i think the best advice i could ever

[00:15:37] give anybody but depending on the situation

[00:15:39] is just let

[00:15:41] them i mean the way i do it

[00:15:43] i just tell them hey look

[00:15:45] you ain't the only one

[00:15:47] we all going through this

[00:15:49] and how you navigate it is honestly

[00:15:51] just

[00:15:53] realizing

[00:15:55] if it's with another person

[00:15:57] you're not going to change her

[00:15:59] so first off don't be a woman

[00:16:01] and think you're going to be able to change somebody

[00:16:03] don't do that

[00:16:05] you're not going to say that

[00:16:07] you're not going to say that

[00:16:09] don't be a woman

[00:16:11] listen women aren't the only people

[00:16:13] that do that men do that dumb shit

[00:16:15] thinking like yo this whole bout to be my wife

[00:16:17] like no she's still going to be her

[00:16:19] and you know what dr dr said you can't turn

[00:16:21] her whole into a housewife the chronic

[00:16:23] 2000

[00:16:25] 2001

[00:16:27] hold on i got another one

[00:16:29] nipsey husso

[00:16:31] tiger

[00:16:33] and

[00:16:35] yg bitches ain't shit but

[00:16:37] holds the trick

[00:16:39] you know

[00:16:41] i'm trying to remember the date

[00:16:43] 2007

[00:16:45] so i was like that

[00:16:47] but nah

[00:16:49] i mean bitches are bitches

[00:16:51] women are women we already know that

[00:16:53] that's not what i'm saying

[00:16:55] but um yeah

[00:16:57] you're not going to be able to change people

[00:16:59] and then

[00:17:01] being stressed out about

[00:17:03] what you can't control

[00:17:05] it's just going to make it worse because you're going to keep thinking

[00:17:07] you know like

[00:17:09] when it's nothing you can control

[00:17:11] you kind of have to like let it go

[00:17:13] and that's what i do like at this point

[00:17:15] now especially in my marriage

[00:17:17] i just kind of

[00:17:19] like if it's something i can't control

[00:17:21] or i'd know it's her like if i'm talking

[00:17:23] to her she cuts me off and

[00:17:25] she says the complete opposite of what i said

[00:17:27] or comes up with something

[00:17:29] that i didn't say

[00:17:31] i even tell i'm like so you're going to let me

[00:17:33] finish or you're going to let me talk a little bit

[00:17:35] and then rationalizing your head

[00:17:37] what you think i'm trying to say and then say that's

[00:17:39] what i'm saying if that's the case

[00:17:41] that i'm done talking like i'm not

[00:17:43] i'm not going to sit in

[00:17:45] and argue with you about something

[00:17:47] that you know

[00:17:49] you just kind of got to keep your

[00:17:51] especially when it comes to your piece

[00:17:53] that if you if you can't

[00:17:55] figure out how to keep your own piece

[00:17:57] that's where i think

[00:17:59] that's where a lot of the men's mental

[00:18:01] health goes is that

[00:18:03] we get so wrapped up with our wives girlfriends

[00:18:05] bitches we fucking

[00:18:07] and they're they don't disturb you

[00:18:09] peace or even work with disturbing peace like when

[00:18:11] you can't keep

[00:18:13] your own piece you're always going

[00:18:15] to have some mental you know your mental

[00:18:17] health is always going to be this third i think

[00:18:19] that like you said that's where j cole is like

[00:18:21] you know what i ain't gonna let this disturb

[00:18:23] my my face of inner peace

[00:18:25] shit

[00:18:27] so so in a nutshell you like

[00:18:29] you'll find your inner peace find what

[00:18:31] keeps you at peace and stick to that

[00:18:33] anything that disrupts that

[00:18:35] it ain't for you it ain't for

[00:18:37] you it ain't worth your time i mean i get it

[00:18:39] you know i'm married so if she's disturbing

[00:18:41] my inner peace you know

[00:18:43] i just look at it like all right

[00:18:45] you done or you look at oh you got a

[00:18:47] especially with our wives we gotta figure out why

[00:18:49] she disturbing our inner peace

[00:18:51] that's not something we just be like oh it ain't for me

[00:18:53] it's just more less like what the what is

[00:18:55] causing this to happen is it

[00:18:57] something i said something i did something i didn't

[00:18:59] do more than likely when i'm being

[00:19:01] in those situations

[00:19:03] angle is about how

[00:19:05] something made them feel i made them feel

[00:19:07] they're mad at the feeling that they got

[00:19:09] and that the actual thing that didn't

[00:19:11] happen or did after and i'm like i can't

[00:19:13] fucking control that right i usually get

[00:19:15] my wife sometimes just like oh i'll say

[00:19:17] what i need to say i'll be

[00:19:19] after i think i talked about this before like

[00:19:21] the way that she works is like i know

[00:19:23] she won't come to me with some

[00:19:25] i

[00:19:27] feel or she's operating on fulfilling

[00:19:29] and it's just the fact that i know that i know how

[00:19:31] to respond to all that because some of the stuff that she's

[00:19:33] about to say it ain't gonna mean

[00:19:35] nothing 30 minutes from now because

[00:19:37] you always hit me with i guess i was just feeling

[00:19:39] a certain type of way about this this and this

[00:19:41] so i know you didn't say that or i know you

[00:19:43] didn't mean it that way but i was already feeling this

[00:19:45] type of way and i'm like that's cool i love

[00:19:47] you and you know it is what it is like whatever whatever

[00:19:51] so yeah definitely

[00:19:53] finding your peace and making sure you stick

[00:19:55] to it i say that's

[00:19:57] that's a number one thing

[00:20:01] the

[00:20:03] to preach to them

[00:20:05] yeah one thing like if it was

[00:20:07] like like one of the homies or whatever have

[00:20:09] you but just you know people

[00:20:11] in my men in my life in general

[00:20:13] the way i will support them is like

[00:20:15] um i just hold them to

[00:20:17] stay on their ass about things

[00:20:19] right like yo because

[00:20:21] sometimes like when people ain't

[00:20:23] not to say that your woman should be the one

[00:20:25] on your ass i'm never gonna say

[00:20:27] that because that ain't gonna look sexy

[00:20:29] to them like a woman having to stay on your

[00:20:31] ass about shit but if we stay on our

[00:20:33] friends or our cousins if we stay in

[00:20:35] their ass about certain things like yo

[00:20:37] uh

[00:20:39] you supposed to be doing this or this this and that

[00:20:41] like especially about their mental health

[00:20:43] it's gonna it's gonna ring it's gonna

[00:20:45] ring loud like yo you said

[00:20:47] you're gonna stop messing with these

[00:20:49] raggedy type of bitches like you doing it and it's

[00:20:51] fucking up your vibe we ain't played 2k together

[00:20:53] in like three months just because

[00:20:55] every time you get on the motherfucker she

[00:20:57] she bitching at you or this this and that like

[00:20:59] right well what's going on

[00:21:01] sometimes you need that uh what is

[00:21:03] that word that

[00:21:05] toxic masculinity

[00:21:07] tough love from your from your homies

[00:21:09] because that's the only shit that's gonna work

[00:21:11] because he's like i ain't probably fucking get

[00:21:13] clowned on this motherfucker

[00:21:15] i mean i wouldn't even call that toxic masculinity

[00:21:17] it was a quote i don't feel that way

[00:21:19] sometimes anything that's dealing with

[00:21:21] tough love is toxic to some people i'm

[00:21:23] like no the sugar can the candy coated

[00:21:25] shit don't work you gotta hear it

[00:21:27] this way

[00:21:29] i mean toxic toxic is toxic

[00:21:31] and when it comes to women i think

[00:21:33] toxic is very subjective

[00:21:35] based on what they do and don't like

[00:21:37] yeah i mean

[00:21:39] i ain't no lie spoken

[00:21:41] anything that they don't like it's toxic

[00:21:43] right i don't like the fact

[00:21:45] that you told me i need to be blah blah

[00:21:47] blah blah that's toxic but stop

[00:21:49] when half naked shit out there fine with

[00:21:51] you what you advertising for

[00:21:53] right no i should just be

[00:21:55] able to wear what i want to wear and you have to deal

[00:21:57] with it like okay

[00:21:59] that should be able to give my money to whoever

[00:22:01] i want to give it to and you just have to deal with

[00:22:03] it like i told

[00:22:05] my wife one time she was like

[00:22:07] she was like you don't believe in toxic masculinity

[00:22:09] i said no i said

[00:22:11] i think it's but it was something made up by

[00:22:13] feminists to

[00:22:15] to

[00:22:17] make men

[00:22:19] softer to prove their point of oh yeah

[00:22:21] you know

[00:22:23] we can do whatever we want

[00:22:25] to do and we don't need a man so

[00:22:27] now everything a man does that's

[00:22:29] masculine

[00:22:31] is now toxic

[00:22:33] you open the door for them oh that's toxic masculinity

[00:22:35] who said i need to open the door

[00:22:37] i never heard it

[00:22:39] that's toxic masculinity why you assume i need my meal

[00:22:41] paid for

[00:22:43] masculinity is masculinity

[00:22:45] it comes from men

[00:22:47] it's masculinity

[00:22:49] if a man is toxic

[00:22:51] but you can't get a term

[00:22:53] of toxic masculinity because

[00:22:55] you don't like that a man is masculine

[00:22:57] like you want the masculine

[00:22:59] but you want them to be in touch with their most like

[00:23:01] i think my wife says something to me the other day

[00:23:03] like oh here you go playing the victim

[00:23:05] i'm not playing the victim about nothing i'm explaining

[00:23:07] to you that

[00:23:09] when we came up with this agreement

[00:23:11] it was i do

[00:23:13] if i'm home this is what happens

[00:23:15] if you're home this is what happens you didn't do it

[00:23:17] i'm just stating the obvious i ain't tripping

[00:23:19] well you know

[00:23:21] you need the man up i said so now i need the man up

[00:23:23] so if i

[00:23:25] if i speak up

[00:23:27] for myself all of a sudden

[00:23:29] i'm being too soft

[00:23:31] if i don't say nothing

[00:23:33] what would be bullying us

[00:23:35] but like they all know what the fuck

[00:23:37] they want out of us so it's like

[00:23:39] anytime we give it it's like yo

[00:23:41] i should have even said it i should have just been doing

[00:23:43] what the fuck i was gonna do

[00:23:45] oh yeah i stopped

[00:23:47] shit i stopped

[00:23:49] i got told i said i'll stop arguing with you

[00:23:51] i let you talk talk talk you can see i look

[00:23:53] like a deer in the head like i did this i did that

[00:23:55] i might say

[00:23:57] nothing till you're ready to listen

[00:23:59] and then if you cut me off i ain't saying nothing

[00:24:02] so you can

[00:24:04] you can call it what you want to call it that i'm not this

[00:24:07] or i want to leave but if you're not going to listen

[00:24:10] to what i have to say then what's the point of me

[00:24:12] talking well you're only gonna say

[00:24:14] what you think i want to hear i said no that's what you think in your head

[00:24:17] ain't that crazy though

[00:24:19] it's just like why can't

[00:24:21] you only gonna i've been hit with that too you only

[00:24:23] gonna say what i what you think i want to hear

[00:24:26] why can't i actually be in agreeance with you

[00:24:28] you think i just i'm just not going to agree

[00:24:30] with you you don't think that i like now see your

[00:24:32] your point of view i would i hit that with a girl i hit

[00:24:35] that on a girl one time and she just kind of looked at me like

[00:24:38] that's not going to work and i'm like what's not going to work

[00:24:41] i agree with you you're just saying that so we can end the conversation

[00:24:44] i'm like i agree with you and i would act accordingly

[00:24:48] what do you want i apologize

[00:24:50] and that's what i said you just want some pussy and i'm like no i'd like look

[00:24:54] i agree

[00:24:56] yeah but i'm like you know i agree

[00:24:58] like a couple of now

[00:25:02] but yeah you hit the nail on it as far as like the toxic masculinity

[00:25:06] shit sometimes men are just there is there's a such thing as bad

[00:25:10] men and they use who they are as a man to be

[00:25:14] bad people or to be toxic but that doesn't mean the traits that

[00:25:18] a man has you know what i mean whatever i have you

[00:25:22] toxic is how they use it right because that's like a woman using their femininity

[00:25:26] to to like get what they want or to use men

[00:25:30] that in my head is toxic femininity but it doesn't mean

[00:25:34] that a woman that a woman that is able to use

[00:25:38] for femininity to kind of sway

[00:25:42] or get certain things or get a job done does not mean that they're bad

[00:25:46] it's only when you're starting to use them on the fucking right like my wife said

[00:25:50] in a sweet little kind of loving voice hey babe i would like it if you were to

[00:25:54] blah blah blah blah blah blah it'll be i'll probably be more

[00:25:57] enthused because she didn't touch me in here in the heart strings and shit and i'll probably get up and do it right away

[00:26:02] compared to you still ain't get that up i'm definitely not going to get it up now

[00:26:06] oh yeah

[00:26:08] can i get one thing like

[00:26:10] i feel somebody one time i was like man i said if you act as i

[00:26:14] can ask my wife a can you season a chicken for me about to run to the store real quick

[00:26:19] she'll be like she she she i'll get back home she ain't moved

[00:26:24] but let her be like can you can you uh can you season a chicken for me

[00:26:29] mind you she might see i'm in the middle of doing something i might be a tutor i might be a podcast and i might be doing anything

[00:26:35] she come back she she she sit right there

[00:26:38] and waits until i move to come season a chicken because she wanted done right then and then

[00:26:43] i'm like and i said that to her once i must have so

[00:26:46] you asked me to do you want me to do it right away i asked you to season some chicken yesterday

[00:26:50] you ain't moved it was sitting there 20 minutes i had to come back and do it myself

[00:26:54] well got done didn't it i said okay remember that day we supposed to be pocket we were supposed to go

[00:26:59] to pocket i said uh give me till eight o'clock because i was gonna wait for her to season that damn chicken

[00:27:03] i wasn't season it was the press

[00:27:05] oh my gosh

[00:27:13] i don't know how they got to that but yes

[00:27:16] never mind

[00:27:18] see that's that's how you keep your inner peace you buck back at your wife and advice but peaceful way

[00:27:23] as men shouldn't say i'm not gonna argue with you

[00:27:27] i'm not gonna lie i agree with that that is how you keep your inner peace by speaking up for yourself and being a advocate

[00:27:33] because it's kind of like yo like how you going how are we going to be in a relationship and you think i'm the one that's causing all the problems

[00:27:40] like that's not how that shit go right i got issues with you too

[00:27:45] right a la you can't be the only one at being because you know when women do it they say oh well i'm advocate i'm not i'm not playing the victim

[00:27:53] okay cool you're not playing the victim but i'm not either if all i'm doing is addressing the issue that i'm currently having with you

[00:28:01] you can't just say oh well you're no how am i the problem if i'm coming to you in a convoys hey you know there was something you did that you know and you know can we work on that

[00:28:15] all of a sudden not now it's no longer addressing the issue is now bringing up every other issue you have with me that revolves around it's like so

[00:28:25] that's what my wife i said she's like so you we're not going to address that said no we're not going to address that because that wasn't brought up i'm bringing up my issue so once we can address that then we can address these other things but we still need to address

[00:28:39] what i can't just go to you justify why you did what you did because of what i did that you should have said something then

[00:28:48] that didn't go over too well i know it didn't it didn't go over too well along with we were on our way to where i think it was about a shower one time it was a focus she took so long in the shower it got to about 745 i gotta be at the door at 8 o'clock

[00:29:07] she just happened out the shower you know i went walking i exercise and i'm like but she went upstairs like at 630 to like start getting herself together for work you just happened in the shower when i'm walking in the door from outside at 715 so for 45 minutes what the fuck were you doing

[00:29:25] so basically he was like yo be considerate pretty much as i said do you mind you know being considerate and not leaving me with like 15 minutes to get in a shower brush you know getting a shower and

[00:29:38] you know you tell me to be considerate you know i would like it if you did the same so i can get to work on time as well and then it turned into well i had to do this this and this i had to watch the dishes i had to write out did i had to write up our son's car for him to go to for what classes he needs to go to and then i'm thinking to myself so you chose to do all this stuff why do you just get yourself ready for work and then do all that

[00:30:10] i'm just saying that argument is something that we don't have to argue with i have that issue with my wife too the way i get around that shit i just get ready at night i do all my shit at night like pack my lunch and all that bullshit but what still pisses me off is like if she getting that motherfucker before me i'm like yo like i leave before you why are you in there

[00:30:36] well i said to my wife was you know when i first started working for the state i had a little bit more flexibility that i could get there at 845 you know between 838 45 but they kind of changed everything up because some other stuff so it's kind of like be there as close to 830 as possible

[00:30:56] we know you might be late sometimes but it is what it is she doesn't have that same sort of strict schedule so that's why i'm always like

[00:31:05] you you you you're you're the first one in the shower but that's because you don't you know i go i go walking and you're you know you finish doing whatever you're going to do by like 615 so what are you doing for the next hour that you ain't

[00:31:20] wash your face and did all your other stuff and got in the shower she's all well you know i was looking at my phone picking out clothes i said now that's the problem

[00:31:31] how long does it take for you to pick out clothes can you think about in the shower like i do

[00:31:36] i bought a night before i know i too though i don't know what's up for that one but i told she's like i was fucked up with that one but i don't know

[00:31:44] wow i'm not saying i was fucked up for i'm just saying like i was just like dude i said well i think about what i'm what i'm going to wear and then i come out i put it out and if it's not what i think is going to look like i grab some milk but

[00:31:57] so you're sitting in the so for an hour you're sitting in the closet in the walk-in closet think about what you're going to wear pulling out different clothes on your phone on social media

[00:32:06] and for an hour that you have all this time to use the bathroom to get yourself together so you have to shop by the time i get in you don't utilize your time right i said you need to utilize your time better

[00:32:20] yo you i didn't listen you had said that to your wife i didn't say that to my wife my home he has my lonely and said that to his wife

[00:32:28] it's just like a common thing i'm like yo and it's kind of like

[00:32:32] i don't know i don't get it

[00:32:34] hey look i told i said if you want everybody to respect your time respect all this and you need to do the same thing it's pretty much what i told her

[00:32:40] she wasn't she she kind of like

[00:32:43] and she didn't understand it but she eventually now we have gotten on a different place i'm like alright well

[00:32:49] when i walk in from from my from my workout

[00:32:55] if you still washing your face i'm jumping in the shower

[00:32:57] oh i was about to get in

[00:33:00] you came upstairs at 620 it is 720 for an hour you've been at the sink brushing teeth from washing your face

[00:33:09] no we ain't no you're going to wait till i'm done

[00:33:13] yo let's say petty on a hundred

[00:33:17] yo yes petty um you can keep your peace by just getting yourself ready at night

[00:33:23] i ain't doing all that

[00:33:25] why

[00:33:27] so you're forcing something listen but listen to how crazy i got i got i got my time and shoes violence

[00:33:34] listen to my angle so

[00:33:38] you don't want to say people don't change right you just said that in the beginning

[00:33:42] and yes we improve upon our flaws and stuff like that but we still fall to them from time to time

[00:33:48] you have the unique opportunity to not even let this be a thing

[00:33:52] and you're choosing to go through the motions of it being a thing

[00:33:57] when you are in control of who is the one that's getting mad because she ain't getting mad

[00:34:04] oh i don't get mad i just started getting in the shower after that discussion

[00:34:08] and she got mad about it

[00:34:11] because now she's going to be like yo i'm ready to get in now she like this motherfucker is in the shower

[00:34:16] she should have used the time right

[00:34:18] yo just take a shower at night man

[00:34:21] nope because i sweat at night that i got to another shower in the morning

[00:34:25] okay well

[00:34:28] no matter what even if i took a shower at night

[00:34:31] let's say

[00:34:33] and i only really sweat bad if i stopped drinking for a couple of days then i started having like the nice west

[00:34:39] oh my god

[00:34:41] i wake up dressed that i got to take another shower anyway

[00:34:45] my gosh

[00:34:46] yeah

[00:34:50] yeah but

[00:34:52] shit happens

[00:34:54] but

[00:34:56] we've gotten better at communicating i'm like how long you gonna be at the sink

[00:35:01] uh i don't know i said i'm gonna get in the shower okay and then we'll flip flop we'll flip flop

[00:35:06] alright cool

[00:35:08] i mean that's how i should have been going in the first week

[00:35:11] well i mean i told her you need to utilize your time but i get it

[00:35:14] you came downstairs and washed washed the four dishes that were down here

[00:35:19] yo you're doing a lot of yo she's

[00:35:22] she is

[00:35:25] you packed your lunch

[00:35:27] yo you're doing a lot of shit for her to be like and another thing and then she's gonna put hands on you

[00:35:34] you said

[00:35:36] you brought your son's uh go for block car so that he knows what class to go to to make up work in

[00:35:42] and then you and then you did whatever you had to do i get it you you have put things on your plate to a lot in the morning

[00:35:50] but that's not that ain't my problem

[00:35:53] oh you guys are back

[00:35:55] so you don't get yourself in

[00:35:57] yo alright so my other thing i am so you don't get yourself in trouble

[00:36:01] i would also

[00:36:03] to help

[00:36:05] support my homie and his mental health journey

[00:36:08] i would say choose your battles

[00:36:12] and that's something that i should probably should have said before you went on your thing choosing your battles just learn what battles to fight and which ones you can control

[00:36:20] those are the ones you if it's gonna be a good outcome that's the battle for you right if it's not even gonna be a favorable outcome and you can kind of manage it still fight the battle but if this is a battle to change you don't need to

[00:36:33] even be in

[00:36:35] don't be in it

[00:36:37] yeah i mean if you ain't got a b inna you ain't got b inna

[00:36:40] once again you can't control what you know that if it's a losing battle you just might alright

[00:36:47] that's fine

[00:36:49] i feel like you fight a lot of losing battles man

[00:36:52] hey sometimes i will say even though

[00:36:56] there are losing battles sometimes you just have to fight an occasional losing battle

[00:37:03] just to kind of be like look you're not gonna keep pushing me over just gotta let that shit rock don't mean you keep doing this

[00:37:07] you kind of gotta even though you know you're not going win the battle but you still address it so that that way it's

[00:37:14] hey look i ain't gonna keep tolerating this shit i'ma let this shit go but we're gonna need you know

[00:37:20] you're going to work on it

[00:37:22] you kind of got it is not it's not necessarily fighting it but it's like letting it know like kind of like a

[00:37:29] kind of like a like a this track you kind of say look i'm a i'm the latest one track that ain't gonna be the best

[00:37:35] but you keep fucking around you gonna find out

[00:37:39] yeah and it's also kind of like i hate to put it this way it's kind of like the

[00:37:44] like you fight a neighborhood bully type shit like you might not win but today people need to know that no can nobody fuck with you

[00:37:53] even the bully like even if the bully try fuck with you he know he ain't gonna have an easy time

[00:37:58] because you didn't got some you know you didn't got some hits off and shit like that

[00:38:00] right you don't hit on me you know you might you might have busted lips oh i made the nigga believe i might not want to fight by me to believe

[00:38:07] right so it's kind of like what stuff like that i would definitely tell my homie like for your mental health journey or you know like

[00:38:14] don't fight every fucking battle you come across

[00:38:18] don't fight every battle and that's a dress it is nothing wrong with ever addressing

[00:38:23] and if you know that you in a actually recognize it

[00:38:27] know that you in a battle and when you in a battle like you don't have to like you said you could address it you could

[00:38:33] like if this was on game of throne shit you go talk to the neighboring king you send a pigeon over there like yo

[00:38:38] look i know what's going on this this and that we could go there but i prefer us not to go there

[00:38:43] right come marry one of my daughters

[00:38:47] like that some shit like that like yeah address the situation but

[00:38:50] i mean i don't i mean because just because it's a losing battle doesn't mean you don't address it because when you don't address

[00:38:58] it just gonna keep happening you need to say something yeah and then know that alright they're going to be stuck in their ways but i need to address it so that they're at least aware that if i do

[00:39:08] you Kirk out one day this didn't come out of nowhere because i've been told you this is what bothers me

[00:39:14] yeah

[00:39:17] yeah another thing that i got is

[00:39:21] i literally like

[00:39:23] like one of my homies since i know what he's going through

[00:39:28] i literally i will ask him like yo are you okay like what's going on with you today

[00:39:32] like it's different from like when we were younger man when we were younger i might like you know i might say the generic statement like what's up

[00:39:40] oh no i'm chilling you know blah blah blah blah blah but when i ask it in a different way like what's going on with you everything straight

[00:39:46] is more or less like an invitation to like yo tell me what was what's going on with you was bothering you was what's going on with your day

[00:39:53] and i don't think a lot of us kind of especially man will kind of do that often you know what i mean

[00:39:58] but you know god relationships ain't aren't like that where you check it i mean you check in on people who you really really close with

[00:40:06] yeah that's what i'm talking about

[00:40:08] you might check on checking on the homie like once a year maybe once every couple months

[00:40:13] you know and it's not a you know

[00:40:15] well we talk about we talk about we talk about like giving

[00:40:19] supporting people in a personal

[00:40:22] so like if i let even if it's the homie that you know

[00:40:25] so like if i let even if it's the homie that you talk to like every once in a while or every once a month or whatever have you

[00:40:31] and the last time the last thing that i talked about was him trying to get his mental right and this this and that

[00:40:36] if you fuck with him and even though you only you know

[00:40:41] talking to each other once uh whatever in a blue moon

[00:40:44] you guys not wrong what you sound like yo make sure you talk to people that you trust make sure you talk to other guys that you trust and stuff like that

[00:40:51] like i know i'm not you know conversation with you all the time because i can't like it's some friends that i have like that that

[00:40:57] not that i value their friendship uh

[00:41:00] um over another friendship is just more or less like sometimes some people are just more approachable

[00:41:06] or certain things that's going on in your life and that's why you don't talk to that person every day like you used to

[00:41:12] like it's friends or people that i'm you know i'm cool with like doing my

[00:41:16] want to the strip club or doing a red shit phase of my life that i talk to them every day

[00:41:22] but i ain't in that phase no more so i don't really talk to them every day but i still want them to be good and you know what i mean and blah blah blah blah blah and we still catch up

[00:41:30] so i guess in that situation

[00:41:33] my like i said my my response or my my advice would just be like make sure you talk to somebody that you trust

[00:41:40] and make sure it's another guy that you trust and not a woman

[00:41:46] only because a guy is not gonna a woman's not gonna really understand what you are going through personally to a degree

[00:41:53] like just like we can't understand what women are going through like i would never i'm not available to give a woman woman we advise

[00:42:01] right i can give a woman advice based off of experiences that i have

[00:42:04] like oh you trying to buy a house this is what i did oh your car is doing this maybe needs a car a new alternator like i could do that type of shit

[00:42:13] right but i don't know the ins and outs of like when a woman says i just not feeling happy today or i feel so ugly i don't know what that means

[00:42:22] yeah and that and i'm but if a woman was to say that to another woman she knows exactly what the fuck that means

[00:42:27] right because it doesn't resonate with us it's like if i was oh i don't feel pretty i'm like you look really nice

[00:42:35] are you just saying that because you're opposing no i don't have a reason to ask you about how you look

[00:42:41] i hate when i hate when women say that too because i'm like do you understand like how ruthless some people's husbands are

[00:42:48] yeah he could be like get your fat ass out the way

[00:42:51] like he don't a man don't have to do anything because he your wife because he's your husband right just like women don't do

[00:42:58] things because they your wife it's the same thing same thing

[00:43:02] i remember my wife hit me with that one time i was like no no no no i was like and i had to give an example of somebody in her family i was like exactly so

[00:43:10] they married do that mother fucking do what he's supposed to do because she was like yeah you got a point

[00:43:14] like exactly so when i say you're beautiful you're beautiful when i say this this and this i literally mean it like sure you can probably approve upon this this and this

[00:43:24] like we all have room for improvement but from what i see you know i mean this isn't that

[00:43:30] but um yeah man talking it out that's that's that's the number one thing i would say

[00:43:36] and hopefully you date you know the guys that if they are talking it out like you said make sure like you said in the beginning make sure that they're good men

[00:43:45] right make sure there's something respectable about them because if it's not then they're going to give you

[00:43:52] they're going to give you answers and points of view from shit that you shouldn't even get out of it

[00:43:56] but sometimes like they always say like wise words do come from a fool from time to time so you never know

[00:44:01] yeah but i mean you also got to look at it from you can't ask somebody who's not in relationship relationship questions

[00:44:08] why don't i'm all really yeah that too but i ain't talking about relationships in general i mean i'm just on my leg if you're asking a question or if your mental health is not

[00:44:15] okay

[00:44:16] you know i'm saying like you need to make sure you're going to the right person here's the thing yes and no yes and no and let me let me clarify this way

[00:44:26] what i've learned with my soul is that i'm not going to be able to get out of it

[00:44:32] but i'm not going to be able to get out of it

[00:44:35] but i'm not going to be able to get out of it

[00:44:38] here's the thing yes and no yes and no and let me let me clarify this way

[00:44:44] what i've learned with my soul personally and just be trying to be a little bit more mental health conscious and and and then being in good spirits

[00:44:54] I have to learn how I have had to learn how to

[00:44:57] had to learn how to ask the right questions to people.

[00:45:03] Because sometimes the people that are in your life,

[00:45:04] they might not be the ones that's knowledgeable about things,

[00:45:08] but you need to get stuff off your chest.

[00:45:10] So if it's a motherfucker that ain't got a job

[00:45:12] or my situation is job related,

[00:45:14] I might not, it might be tailored towards

[00:45:17] the question I asked against a little bit of insight

[00:45:21] or just to kind of get a bigger picture

[00:45:23] might be towards like, have you ever dealt

[00:45:26] with someone that's a narcissist?

[00:45:28] Now my issue could have been my boss being a dickhead

[00:45:32] and it feels like he's a narcissist and he rules that way.

[00:45:36] Now I can't say what do you do

[00:45:37] if you have a boss that does this, this, and this.

[00:45:39] I would say, yo, what would you do?

[00:45:42] What do you do when you are involved

[00:45:45] in a situation where someone's a narcissist?

[00:45:48] So asking the right questions, yeah.

[00:45:51] But sometimes we don't know how to do that.

[00:45:52] Questions, yeah.

[00:45:54] We don't know how to do that.

[00:45:55] And then sometimes we don't know how to ask

[00:45:58] the right questions when people are coming to us

[00:46:00] with issues, sometimes we halfway listen.

[00:46:03] I've been there, I ain't a lot.

[00:46:05] Sometimes my wife be talking on behalf of me listening.

[00:46:08] Not gonna lie, not gonna lie.

[00:46:11] How would I confirm it or not any of that?

[00:46:13] I mean you can't, but I can.

[00:46:16] I work my own work now.

[00:46:20] I didn't listen to her, I listened to everything she says.

[00:46:23] I mean, I do too, but I'm halfway listening.

[00:46:26] But I know when something seems like I know her tone

[00:46:28] or whatever or people's tone,

[00:46:29] the people that I fuck with of course.

[00:46:31] I'm like, all right, cut all that dumb shit

[00:46:33] out of your brain right now and listen to her.

[00:46:36] That's what she's saying.

[00:46:36] You know what she's, he's venting about something.

[00:46:39] Oh, I was listening because sometimes she'll vent to me

[00:46:42] about the same thing about three, four days in a row

[00:46:45] and then my head on my plate.

[00:46:48] He just said this the other day,

[00:46:49] but not realizing the same thing happened again

[00:46:52] so she's venting about it.

[00:46:54] You ever been in a situation where, well that happened, right?

[00:46:57] And I've been in this situation most recently,

[00:46:59] that happened and then I'm like, motherfucker,

[00:47:01] I already concluded that this was your fault.

[00:47:03] I got here again.

[00:47:04] I ain't say it, but I'm thinking in my head.

[00:47:06] I'm like, oh, and that's what I have for you listening.

[00:47:08] I'm like, I already concluded this was your fault.

[00:47:11] But of course you can't tell somebody

[00:47:13] that it's just kind of like, well maybe, blah, blah,

[00:47:15] blah, blah, blah.

[00:47:17] Sometimes I get around to saying like, well,

[00:47:19] it sounds like if you would have did this

[00:47:20] that probably would have worked.

[00:47:21] Well, if you would have blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

[00:47:24] Mark just look at me like, well I kind of know that

[00:47:26] and I'm like, what are we doing then?

[00:47:29] I think me and my wife have like an unwritten rule

[00:47:33] if it's an issue and it's the first time,

[00:47:37] it's like, all right, yeah tell me that,

[00:47:38] you can talk to me about it,

[00:47:39] but if it becomes a reoccurring thing

[00:47:41] that you're not actively trying to change,

[00:47:44] then don't bring it here.

[00:47:46] You know what I mean?

[00:47:47] So if you-

[00:47:48] Yeah, you talked about that before

[00:47:50] and I used to think that that's probably the way

[00:47:52] to go about it.

[00:47:54] I no longer think that's the way to go about it

[00:47:56] because I've been in that situation too.

[00:47:57] It just depends on the thing like,

[00:47:59] so if I'm like, oh man, I hate my job.

[00:48:01] You know, the first time she's open and listening

[00:48:04] and she'll give the advice.

[00:48:06] The second time, if I'm not doing anything to do,

[00:48:08] you know, to change it, it's like, well,

[00:48:11] you can't like it, but so you can't dislike it

[00:48:13] that much because you're still at the job

[00:48:15] and you're not job searching.

[00:48:17] So put it this way.

[00:48:19] This is why I disagree with that.

[00:48:22] You're job searching, you haven't found a job,

[00:48:25] but you still don't like your job.

[00:48:26] Who the fuck do you vent to?

[00:48:29] Well, if your job search, well, if your job, well-

[00:48:31] And you still not gonna like your job?

[00:48:33] I mean, you still not gonna like your job,

[00:48:35] but as long as you're putting effort in to get out of it,

[00:48:38] I think we're more inclined,

[00:48:40] and I'm not just saying I heard about what I'm saying,

[00:48:41] me too, we're more inclined to listen

[00:48:43] because now you're actively looking for,

[00:48:46] so now you just need to vent to keep your mental health

[00:48:49] together while you're trying to find something.

[00:48:50] But if you're like outright not looking for nothing,

[00:48:53] you just like not fucking hate this job.

[00:48:55] Well, you ain't job searching to get out of it,

[00:48:57] so we don't wanna hear it.

[00:49:01] But you know, it's one of those, one of those,

[00:49:05] like she'll been about work,

[00:49:07] but she doesn't say she dislikes it.

[00:49:08] So I listened to what she's saying

[00:49:10] and like what kind of was going on.

[00:49:12] I said, well, you know, hey, shit happens

[00:49:13] and you know, just keep yourself as far away

[00:49:18] from it as possible.

[00:49:19] And if you can't then you need to make sure

[00:49:20] you document everything.

[00:49:22] You know, they shit like very generic simple thing

[00:49:25] that you can do just in case things try to push back

[00:49:27] when you for something else.

[00:49:28] So like even today we were talking about

[00:49:32] how to job search and how to put your stuff

[00:49:35] into your resume, you know?

[00:49:37] And so, you know, just like bouncing ideas off each other

[00:49:40] like how to do some things differently

[00:49:41] and see if we can get it picked up out of Feds

[00:49:43] or you know, more money from somewhere.

[00:49:45] You know, so speaking of that,

[00:49:47] I know there's a side note.

[00:49:49] You wanna know some tips that I found out

[00:49:51] that people are using?

[00:49:53] Sure.

[00:49:54] I tell you one tip that I use

[00:49:55] and I think I've already told you.

[00:49:57] My name sound black

[00:49:58] so I don't put my first name on there, right?

[00:50:00] Okay. That's number one.

[00:50:02] Number two, my wife was telling me

[00:50:04] that what a lot of recruiters are doing

[00:50:06] I put in the resumes through this AI chat box

[00:50:09] to look for certain types of words.

[00:50:11] Now I have not gotten a whole particulars on it

[00:50:13] but some people are getting,

[00:50:15] I think my wife, she got a job interview

[00:50:21] last Thursday.

[00:50:22] She got AI to kind of formulate something for

[00:50:25] for a resume and it got picked up.

[00:50:27] So a lot of it has a lot to do with the wording

[00:50:31] and this was a basic as resume that my wife put together.

[00:50:33] All right.

[00:50:34] But it was just the wording was correct.

[00:50:36] I gotta ask her more about what she did

[00:50:39] but it seems like a lot of people are using the AI shit

[00:50:41] to do it.

[00:50:42] To the resume.

[00:50:43] I heard that if they have a KS-A

[00:50:46] that doesn't have any writing,

[00:50:48] if you've done the job once always say you're an expert.

[00:50:50] Mm-hmm.

[00:50:51] There's like,

[00:50:52] if you're writing and you don't have to explain it

[00:50:56] just put, you're an expert at it

[00:50:58] or you supervise doing this because at the end of the day

[00:51:00] you're still going to have to learn

[00:51:01] how to use their system.

[00:51:03] So we're in learn how to get in and out

[00:51:06] of their database.

[00:51:07] I just wanna know if you've ever seen it

[00:51:10] so that they don't have to do a ground training.

[00:51:13] Yeah.

[00:51:14] But they was like,

[00:51:15] now if you gotta write some shit,

[00:51:16] that's a little different

[00:51:18] because now you gotta,

[00:51:20] it's different but it's just

[00:51:24] please state your knowledge of this expert

[00:51:27] because even if they ask you in the interview

[00:51:31] and this is the way we had just gotten in it.

[00:51:34] She said even if they ask you,

[00:51:36] well, are you familiar with this in the interview?

[00:51:38] You say yes.

[00:51:40] You say what your framework was of it

[00:51:43] but they also understand that

[00:51:46] you might be an expert at it on your resume

[00:51:50] but you might only be an expert on a certain portion of it.

[00:51:53] So if it was like procurement, okay?

[00:51:55] Yeah.

[00:51:56] Let's say they ask me if I'm an expert at it.

[00:51:58] Yeah, I'm an expert at procurement.

[00:51:59] When they ask me what's my thing with procurement

[00:52:02] I tell them what it was up until the point

[00:52:04] that I know that I don't know anything about.

[00:52:06] That doesn't mean I'm an expert,

[00:52:08] that just means I'm an expert on my portion of procurement.

[00:52:12] That makes sense.

[00:52:14] It makes sense but it sounds stupid.

[00:52:16] As broad as it is for procurement.

[00:52:21] So I purchase, I do this,

[00:52:23] but then you say,

[00:52:24] but after that I send it up to the other procurement people

[00:52:27] who specialize in whatever,

[00:52:28] you know what I'm saying?

[00:52:29] To sign off or then get financing involved.

[00:52:32] Right.

[00:52:34] But you also know the process.

[00:52:36] So you might not have dealt with it

[00:52:37] but she said you do have to know the process

[00:52:40] but you can also say that,

[00:52:42] this is what I did as far as it.

[00:52:43] So you're not lying,

[00:52:47] you're just exaggerating the truth as you put it.

[00:52:53] Well, that's right.

[00:52:54] Used to do that all the time.

[00:52:56] You know how many times I put references upon request

[00:52:59] or whatever I have you

[00:53:00] and then I'll get like my,

[00:53:02] one of the homies to be a supervisor

[00:53:03] or manager.

[00:53:04] Yeah.

[00:53:05] Hold on.

[00:53:06] I'm like, yo, you wasn't wanting to knock me out here

[00:53:09] just because you ain't like the,

[00:53:10] you know what I mean?

[00:53:11] Like whatever weird thing.

[00:53:13] Like, oh yeah.

[00:53:16] So,

[00:53:16] uh-huh.

[00:53:17] So what did we learn?

[00:53:18] J. Cole is a

[00:53:20] J. Cole is a

[00:53:21] as well.

[00:53:23] Because Drake is getting destroyed out in his mother's

[00:53:25] father.

[00:53:27] Yep.

[00:53:28] Kendrick has this

[00:53:30] Drake in a very sophisticated manner

[00:53:33] that euphoria went completely over my head.

[00:53:36] And now I have changed my stance that he is up for zero,

[00:53:40] which is a sweep.

[00:53:41] Um,

[00:53:44] instead of three one,

[00:53:46] zero, which is a sweep.

[00:53:49] There's a lot of stuff in euphoria

[00:53:51] that I pretty sure went over your head

[00:53:52] that I'm just like,

[00:53:54] we found out that

[00:53:56] as Drake is a very predictable artist

[00:53:59] when it comes to battles

[00:54:00] or being in these industry beefs,

[00:54:05] he tried to use his method he used with Meek Mill

[00:54:08] and it got flushed out and destroyed

[00:54:10] because he went with his same tactic against Pusher T

[00:54:12] and all of his life got exposed.

[00:54:16] We don't know if he got a daughter yet.

[00:54:17] We don't know if he got a daughter yet, but yeah.

[00:54:22] We learned,

[00:54:24] keep your inner peace

[00:54:25] and don't let them disturb it and choose your battles.

[00:54:29] And if you're calling for a fed job,

[00:54:31] make sure they have multiple openings.

[00:54:35] And sometimes we got a hood as first name

[00:54:38] and a hood as first name

[00:54:39] that you just need to put your first initial

[00:54:43] and everything else and everything else.

[00:54:45] That's literally how my shit is.

[00:54:47] It's literally first initial dot last name.

[00:54:51] Yeah, well, see, my first name is doesn't sound black.

[00:54:54] There's a lot of Europeans with my name.

[00:54:56] So it's a little different.

[00:54:58] So I don't have to put my first initial.

[00:55:03] But I will say my resume is very extensive.

[00:55:05] But doesn't,

[00:55:07] but doesn't don't that sound cool?

[00:55:09] Your first initial dot last name?

[00:55:12] Sounds like a basketball player's name.

[00:55:14] Actually it's a basketball player's name.

[00:55:15] I put my whole name on there.

[00:55:17] I know, I know what I'm just saying.

[00:55:19] But I will say, you know, in the long run.

[00:55:24] Yeah.

[00:55:25] Yeah, I put my whole name on there.

[00:55:28] I thought about just putting my first and my first initial

[00:55:31] and my middle and last name.

[00:55:33] But I'm like, I don't know if I want anyone to call me that.

[00:55:36] You know, I'd rather them call me my first name.

[00:55:39] I think my middle name is on mine, actually.

[00:55:41] I don't know. I got to review my resume too.

[00:55:44] Well, in that note, everybody, protect your mental health,

[00:55:50] continue your journey and talk to people.